[Daeva]

It's a funny and cute little thing that happened to me today. So my first T, is now no longer a T but runs the program I go to daily. The program is basically group classes dealing with different issues. She's the boss lady there now.

Anyway I was in a communication class when one of the other participants was on the topic of how we often feel that someone else should just know you're upset. Somehow that led to the instructor (We'll call her E) asking us who knows us best in the world. And she comes to me and I go, "T1." (I obviously said her name), and so E goes, "Cause she was your therapist and knows your life story?"

I answered, "Yes and no, I think that's a very small part of knowing a person actually, you can read an autobiography but no really know that person. For me when I hear that question I kind of think like say you went to T1 and give her a situation and asked her what I'd do in that situation she'd be able to tell you not only what I'd do but how I'm feeling and why. To me that's knowing a person."

So E is a very interactive and fun instructor, so she goes, "Oh let's test this!" And rolls her chair to the door, opens it and on the other side of the hallway is T1's office, so she shouts over, "Yo T1, get in here for a sec." She explains whats going on then gives both T1 and I paper and a pen. T1 and I are on opposite sides of the room and E goes, "Now Imagine Daeva is married to the guy of her dreams, they have a good relationship but they just argued about their religious beliefs. What would Daeva do?"

So we both wrote down the answer without showing one another. I wrote down, "I'd most likely be pissed off and not talk to him, I'd make myself dinner but not him and do my laundry and not his, stuff like that. I'd be conflicted both guilty but feeling justified in my anger. I'd be anxious for days, and worried about bringing it up while probably sulking a bit, before i finally forced myself to talk to him about it a few days later."

She made T1 read the answer first, T1 wrote, "She'd be passive-aggressive at first, worry for a few days, vacillate between anger and guilt, before finally forcing herself to talk."

E thought we cheated at first she was so surprised, I wasn't though, but I was happy knowing that I was right in thinking T1 knew me perfectly. It was kind of a security feeling, if that makes sense.

E owes me ice cream now.

I just wanted to share a positive story with y'all.

[downandlonely]

That is cool. I don't think anyone knows me that well.

It feels good to be known.
My therapist often surprises me with how well she knows me also, down to what I eat for lunch on a particular day or what color new shoes I picked out. Little things and big things.

[nottrustin]

I think T knew me that well. She knew when I had my mask on even when I tried to pretend everything was okay. She would often say, especially earlier on, okay, now how do you really feel because you body language tells me differently"

[stopdog]

I have never had it happen with a therapist. Can't imagine one of those guys knowing me much at all let alone too well.

[Daeva]

Sometimes it's a comfort to be known so well, you don't have to speak or they know when I'm being serious. Like when something really upsets me or whatever my defense mechanism is to make it into a joke or laugh. So one day I was talking about something that happened in my past and laughing and she goes, "I can see how much it bothers you, you're laughing."

When T's can call your ********! haha

Stopdog: Don't like to be close to people?

[stopdog]

I have people I am close to.
For me, therapists would not be among them.

[Daeva]

Why? You've kind of always fascinated me in this way

[SheHulk07]

Originally Posted by Daeva

Sometimes it's a comfort to be known so well, you don't have to speak or they know when I'm being serious. Like when something really upsets me or whatever my defense mechanism is to make it into a joke or laugh. So one day I was talking about something that happened in my past and laughing and she goes, "I can see how much it bothers you, you're laughing."

When T's can call your ********! haha

Stopdog: Don't like to be close to people?

I do this too and I like that T2 comments on it and can see through it. I don't think any of my Ts will or have known me too well though. The only person in my life who does is my cousin.

[annielovesbacon]

That's such a nice feeling to be "known" in that way. It's heart-warming.

Like stopdog, I don't want this with my T (I do like having a positive and friendly relationship with my T -- speaking for myself of course, not SD).

I do have a couple people in my life who are close to me in this way. I'm glad for you that you have that in your T.