[Waterloo12345]

I am in the UK. I see my NHS GP maybe 1x a week for maybe 10/15 mins as part of treatment for what is acknowledged but undiagnosed as Cptsd for maybe the past 3 months. Before that it was anything from 1 - 4 weeks.

There's no point going further in the NHS, e.g. for a diagnosis, as I pay for private pyschodynamic therapy 2/3x a week. The GP does the meds and crises intervention though, thankfully cross fingers, I'm moving out of the latter.

Anyway backgrd over. Over the year I've been seeing him I've developed some serious parental attachment. I say parental and not paternal because it's the safety, security, time, positive reinforcement, caring, reliability, teaching, that I think one can get from either father or mother. It doesn't matter what gender he is to me.

There is only so much med review one can do so generally we just talk about a huge range of coping strategies and themes behind mental health and trauma and general life. I know he's not a therapist - my T uses the word 'counsel' like an old fashioned priest or country doctor or mentor especially as I regress to a 10 yr old when with him.

That 10 yr old just loves him as the parent he never had (for some reason one of my inner children is male). Seriously loves him.

Of course adult me knows this is only within the doctor patient boundaries, that if he cares it is as a doctor (he's never said; I've never asked), that he sees this as simply another tool to help me get better. Which is all ok. And for which I am so grateful because it's working (with therapy, meds, exercise, going back to work, seeing friends yada yada yada).

But 10 yr old me does not care a bit about all that. He just loves him and wants him and wants to be enfolded within his care, safety, security, all the time. It's particularly strong at the moment as I think he's finally trusted - in line with the criteria that Anne set out in an other post - the GP. Obvs he can't be with the GP but writing this makes him feel closer. So I thought I'd bore PC with it - thanks!

GPs are not trained to counsel you in either a therapeutic or a mentoring capacity. Moreover, GPs are definitely not trained to know how to deal with a dynamic as complex (and as potentially hurtful) as parental transference. I think your doctor is over-stepping his medical remit and I hope that you don't get harmed as a result, although I am not surprised that he is breaking a boundary as this kind of breach is typical of medical megalomaniacal behaviour. Stay safe and keep your 10 year old close as they don't yet know who is trustworthy.