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This is about self disclosure, not romantic feelings...
I was reading the APA ethics which states it's ok for a therapist to be in a relationship with a former client if 2 years has past. Out of curiosity, I want to ask him if he's ever done this. Has anyone asked their T about this and got an answer? |
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No. Mine was married for many years until recently. That's unlikely. He's only been a T a few years.
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No. I can't imagine why I would care.
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I never thought to ask. My T has been married longer than he's been a T, so I'm sure the answer would be no.
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I really, really hope (and believe) that is not something any of my Ts would do.
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I could never imagine that. I also dont think I would want to see somebody who would.
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No, its not my business. Also, my therapist has been married for twenty years and met her husband in grad school. It never would occur to me to ask something like that.
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The last two, absolutely.
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No, it never occurred to me to ask such a thing. Nor would I. It seems rude.
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No. One, not my business. Two, never would have crossed my mind; my therapist spoke of his own very firm boundaries concerning therapist/client relationships rather explicitly.
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My therapist has a "once a client, always a client" policy, which means that her clients are always welcome to come back to therapy after they are "done," even if it is years later, but it also means that they will never be anything other than clients to her.
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He certainly may have boundaries in regard to what questions he answers, but he never said what they are explicitly. |
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I doubt my T would think it's rude either. I suspect he'd be curious about why I want to know. |
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Honestly it had never occurred to me. It feels tantamount to asking, "So, by the way, are you unethical?" If I felt the need to ask, I'd probably just not see the T at all.
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For me, it would be more like asking if he ever cheated on his wife. |
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I'd still personally consider it extremely weird and suspect even after two years, something like a teacher who started dating a former student after they turned 18. Maybe not technically "unethical," but I think it speaks volumes about someone that they'd date a person they met in a situation of such power differential. I'd think there was either something predatory or over-enmeshed/rescuing in their personality. So, yeah, if I felt the need to ask I just wouldn't see the T at all. But that's just my opinion. To each their own. __________________ "Fantasy, abandoned by reason, produces impossible monsters; united with it, she is the mother of the arts and the origin of their marvels." - Francisco de Goya |
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