[weaverbeaver]

Lately I have been going through the worst time of my life. So many things have happened over the last few weeks.
I have lost someone very close to me, I lost my job and have been very sick again. I have rang t a few times and she always answers. She has been extremely generous with her time and I am very grateful for that. She will try calm me down when I have rang her in shock and will ring again in the evening or offer another session if she can.
I told her that I really felt her support, she asked how I felt it and I said in my heart and this was a big thing for me because I don’t ever admit such things or a need or a want for her.
Now I am afraid my negative transference will take over again and our relationship will be ruined again. Why can’t my feelings for her regulate and stabilise

[weaverbeaver]

Thank you so much for all the support I don’t know what you have to do to get support on here but Being me doesn’t help!

[Raindropvampire]

I just saw this and I'm sorry you didn't get any answers before. I honestly don't know how one regulates their feelings and gets them to stabilze. I'm so sorry for all that you are going through. Any one of those things would be tough to deal with but to have them all piled one on top of another...you are a very strong person to deal with so much.

I'm sorry I don't really have any advice.

[Siennasays]

I'm sorry you are having a tough time. I don't know much about transference...I hope that your relationship continues as it is. Sounds like she has been a great support to you.

[Waterloo12345]

Originally Posted by weaverbeaver

Thank you so much for all the support I don’t know what you have to do to get support on here but Being me doesn’t help!

If it helps, I read your post when it furst came out and was happy for the support you were getting and I read the last bit as just a plaintive cry but not, and this is my point, a request for support on the forum.

Of course this may be me and my issue as your intention was obvs to seek support but perhaps itsxan example for you to make what you need clear? It's something I'm working on in my therapy so, as i say, perhaps my issue.