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Elder
Member Since Oct 2008
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#241
dp--i doubt your T could just erase you from his mind that easily. it isn't so easy to do.
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DP_2017, LabRat27
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Grand Magnate
Member Since Aug 2017
Location: A house
Posts: 4,414
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#242
^Not erase, I know he wouldn't forget me... it's just I'm a distant memory, he's already moved on to his new life.... I'm "part of the job he hated" so he he can think of me from time to time and not forget me, but it's not like he's wondering how I am or missing me etc
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#243
I will never get back what they took from me, NEVER!!!
What exactly did they get out of it?? A few laughs, popularity, gossip?? Is that worth destroying someone who was a good person?? I guess they just don't care... you don't care either I'm afraid...no one does....there is no solution. |
Grand Member
Member Since Aug 2017
Location: United States
Posts: 950
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#244
I made it to the second round of interviews! Thank you! <3
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LonesomeTonight, SlumberKitty
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Grand Poohbah
Member Since Apr 2016
Location: USA
Posts: 1,527
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#245
I can't make any promises, but I can tell you I want to.
I want to tell you what I've been holding back. I want to tell you these scary things. But we're going on three years together, and honestly I'm embarrassed I've hid these things for so long. I know you will not see it that way. You are kind and rational and always take the things I tell you in stride. I just don't know how to say what I need to say. __________________ stay afraid, but do it anyway. |
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Magnet
Member Since Jun 2017
Location: in the garden
Posts: 2,319
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#246
I finally figured out how I feel about all this:
It's like when the kids were little and I took them to the pool. We'd walk out and I'd feel this palpable sense of relief because I hadn't realized or noticed, in the busy-ness of fun-having and making sure everyone was safe, how much energy it took to block out the NOISE. Then someone would say, "I forgot my towel/dropped my suit/lost my goggles," and I'd have to go back in, and the noise was unbearable. That's how this feels. I am afraid of the dissonance. That it will be unbearable. Why now? I just disengaged. F*** __________________ Since you cannot do good to all, you are to pay special attention to those who, by accidents of time, or place, or circumstance, are brought into closer connection with you. (St. Augustine) |
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#247
'I didnt want you to miss out' little things like tjis make me think you do care and contribute to that special feeling
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LonesomeTonight, SlumberKitty
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Comfy Sedation
Member Since Sep 2012
Location: the woods
Posts: 19,301
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#248
you gave me your copy of that book... complete with barely legible t scribblings in the side margins and highlighted sentences
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Poohbah
Member Since Mar 2018
Location: CA
Posts: 1,009
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#249
Currently in a guilt and self blame spiral
I hate how much I want your validation and reassurance
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Even though I can't believe it, I still want to hear you say it over and over. You'll be happy to know that you've gotten into my head though. There is an annoying voice in my head that points out the obvious cognitive distortions and states much more reasonable balanced beliefs, the things I'd tell someone else if it were them instead of me. Sometimes I choose to ignore it though. Last edited by LabRat27; Dec 20, 2018 at 04:41 AM.. |
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Tweaky Dog
Member Since Aug 2011
Location: England
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#250
Thank you for your card. I waited to open it until our 'usual' session time today. I'm angry, but I'm not angry at you...and it's difficult for me to hold that. I feel intense anger towards the people who did this to me, and I'm kind of relieved to actually feel something...if that doesn't sound weird.
There is movement in anger and stasis in sadness, it seems. __________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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Comfy Sedation
Member Since Sep 2012
Location: the woods
Posts: 19,301
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#251
omg lol. you left a old photo in that book of you. mist be like 10 yrs old I'm guessing by ur hair glasses and lack of a beard... cause you can seen your dimples. I'm sure you didn't mean to leave that in there... so I will return it
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Grand Magnate
Member Since Aug 2017
Location: A house
Posts: 4,414
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#252
Talked to D last night, she agrees it was terrible off you to just blow us all of around the holidays and dash out quickly. For me, it only confirmed my beliefs I've long had about trusting people and being close.
However she has a lot of hope for reconnecting in the future, we will see. I am having a hard time imagining you caring about me in the slightest anymore. I wish I could hug you, and hear you laugh and tell you all about my crap job and this dog stuff and the movie... but I'm not good enough for that anymore. Really sucks, I was for so long and then BAM.... nope.... __________________ Grief is the price you pay for love. |
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Member
Member Since Nov 2017
Location: UK
Posts: 379
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#253
I still can't understand the love and care I have for you, I know it's one sided and I never have expected anything back from you, but it just hurts so much to know that this is all on me. While I'm sitting here missing you and crying about the end, You are probably carefree and enjoying life surrounded by people that you do care about. I've always felt worthless, my time with you made me feel I wasn't, but now I feel more worthless to the works and those in it more than ever. Yes ppl love me like u said, but you don't and you are the person I wish the most to receive love from.
So here I am, crying, something u know I don't do easily, yet something I can't stop. Everything has been falling apart over the last year, this and you were stable throughout, you kept me clinging on to hope and faith in life and humanity. I feel lost and alone. So yes I'm crying, for you, for life, and for me... |
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DP_2017
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Member
Member Since Nov 2017
Location: UK
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#254
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I really hope in a couple of years you can find a way to reconnect, my own T would never allow that, and I really really hope for you that he does respond like he said he would. |
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LonesomeTonight, SlumberKitty
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DP_2017
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Grand Magnate
Member Since Aug 2017
Location: A house
Posts: 4,414
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#255
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Grand Magnate
Member Since Aug 2012
Location: Anonymous
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#256
Dear T, I know it intellectually but in yesterday's session the "it" felt really distinguishable from me, more readily identifiable as the "imposter" who likes to mess with me inside my own head. I think having some distance between the real me and the fake me is all I really need. I appreciate the fake me, she's kind of funny and cynical and keeps me on my toes and grounded in the world where goodness or rightness are not for certain. Learning to make sense of opposites within myself is not a bad problem to have, either. Thank you for the space to explore these things freely.
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Roses are falling.
Member Since May 2017
Location: Seattle.
Posts: 9,784
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#257
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Community Support Team Member Since Dec 2015
Location: New Jersey
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#258
Dear T,
I really don't want to see you today but I feel like if I cancel I'll regret it. Considering the holidays are approaching and I have a gift to give you along with
Possible trigger:
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Always in This Twilight
Member Since Feb 2015
Location: US
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#259
Dear T,
Of course I'm sitting here trying to figure out which of the Neapolitan ice cream flavors you'd be. Thinking chocolate or strawberry. Though, really, coffee ice cream is more fitting due to your omnipresent cup of coffee. Love, LT |
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Magnate
Member Since Apr 2018
Location: UK
Posts: 2,162
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#260
Hi T. Miss you. I'm liking my new supervisor. Finally I have one I like. Fingers crossed it continues.
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