Decision about holiday gift

imnotbroken · Dec 10, 2018 at 08:50 AM

A while back I posted here about thinking of giving T something as a holiday gift.

I got her a pair of oven mitts, Christmas-themed. It’s simple, but I think she’ll like it. Hopefully. I will give them to her tomorrow, for our last session of the year.

Lemoncake · Dec 10, 2018 at 09:07 AM

That sounds like a lovely idea! I bet she will love it, especially if she's into cooking.

I ordered my T- three Dr Seuss books: The cat in the hat, Green eggs and ham and how the Grinch stole Christmas. Books are MY thing, but he also has a young daughter so I know they will get read and not left to gather dust on a shelf. He recently thanked me for the last book I gave him for his birthday (Oh the places you will go) and told me that he'd been reading it a lot.

The first two have been dispatched, but it's the third one with the message that hasn't as it's out of stock at the moment!! But I bet he will figure out that it's from me.

imnotbroken · Dec 10, 2018 at 11:52 AM

That's an excellent idea as well, Lemoncake!! But I don't know T enough to give her a book, though... Perhaps in a few more years?

Hope your T gets to read it with her daughter!

seeker33 · Dec 10, 2018 at 01:36 PM

Oven mittens sound great. I think it's a very cute and useful gift :-)

Merope · Dec 10, 2018 at 02:38 PM

I'm so glad I found this post! I've been debating whether it would be ok to give my T a christmas card just to say thank you, but was worried it would be too much? I know, logically, that it's just a card so no big deal, but i can't help wondering if he would be put off by it. I'm glad other people are giving their Ts small gifts and cards!

coolibrarian · Dec 10, 2018 at 02:51 PM

I just came back from the post office. I mailed my T a 2019 calendar which I was involved in creating. She should get it on Wednesday.

satsuma · Dec 10, 2018 at 02:58 PM

I always give my T a Christmas card! And this year I might add some homemade sweets as well. I wouldn't give something expensive as I think that would be awkward for both of us, but at this time of year I want to let him know that I appreciate all that he does for me.

satsuma · Dec 10, 2018 at 02:59 PM

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Originally Posted by coolibrarian

I just came back from the post office. I mailed my T a 2019 calendar which I was involved in creating. She should get it on Wednesday.

Lovely idea!

imnotbroken · Dec 10, 2018 at 03:40 PM

I'm enjoying reading what you guys are giving your Ts so much!

nottrustin · Dec 10, 2018 at 03:42 PM

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Originally Posted by coolibrarian

I just came back from the post office. I mailed my T a 2019 calendar which I was involved in creating. She should get it on Wednesday.

Three or for times over the years I sent T a card with a gift card to her favorite restaurant. By mailing it I felt it took away the awkwardness for the both of us. After the first one we discussed it at my next appointment. The rest of the times she emailed me a thank you and then said it again at our next appointment

imnotbroken · Dec 10, 2018 at 03:49 PM

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Originally Posted by nottrustin

Three or for times over the years I sent T a card with a gift card to her favorite restaurant. By mailing it I felt it took away the awkwardness for the both of us. After the first one we discussed it at my next appointment. The rest of the times she emailed me a thank you and then said it again at our next appointment

I'm thinking it will be a bit awkward for me to come into her waiting room with the wrapped thing in my hand... but I don't really care, though

coolibrarian · Dec 10, 2018 at 04:45 PM

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Originally Posted by nottrustin

Three or for times over the years I sent T a card with a gift card to her favorite restaurant. By mailing it I felt it took away the awkwardness for the both of us. After the first one we discussed it at my next appointment. The rest of the times she emailed me a thank you and then said it again at our next appointment

I had to mail it to her, because she is out on extended medical leave, and I don't know when I'll see her again. I included a little note with it, wishing her good health now, and in the coming year.

BonnieJean · Dec 10, 2018 at 07:17 PM

My long time t is Jewish but her birthday is soon. I made her a card and bought her 2 small crystals from a crystal store. Neither of us are into new age stuff but the slips of paper explaining each crystal felt so meaningful. Plus they're pretty. Im hoping she'll like them.

RaineD · Dec 11, 2018 at 01:45 AM

I wish my T was still alive so I can get him something.

MoxieDoxie · Dec 11, 2018 at 05:20 AM

In the past I have had a tower of nuts & dried fruits from "Harry & Davids" mailed to the office. I always keep it anonymous as I do not do well with awkward feelings. It is always a tricky issue when it comes to gifts to therapist. I was telling him about the gifts I was buying my personal training clients and he mentioned that it was unethical to get them gifts. I said no it would be unethical for his profession to buy clients gifts.

I am not getting him a gift.

imnotbroken · Dec 11, 2018 at 09:57 AM

Just got a text from her cancelling our session because she’s not feeling well. I am a little sad cause I had to leave the house early so I am dragging the thing around. Guess she’s not getting anything after all

imnotbroken · Dec 11, 2018 at 10:00 AM

Would it be weird to drop the gift off at the clinic for her secretary to give it to her tomorrow? Could really use some advice on this

Lemoncake · Dec 11, 2018 at 10:06 AM

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Would it be weird to drop the gift off at the clinic for her secretary to give it to her tomorrow? Could really use some advice on this

Personally if it wasn't out of your way,I wouldn't think it was weird at all.Perhaps you could give it to her in your next session?

imnotbroken · Dec 11, 2018 at 12:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

Personally if it wasn't out of your way,I wouldn't think it was weird at all.Perhaps you could give it to her in your next session?

Thanks! The only problem is that today would be my last session of the year with her. If she can't find me another time this week, I'll only get to see her next year, when the gift wouldn't really make sense, since it's a pair of oven mittens with a Christmassy theme.... I'm so sad. But also worried about her. I didn't ask what was wrong.

I walked by the clinic, and I almost went inside to give it to her secretary.... but I decided not to. Oh well....

SlumberKitty · Dec 11, 2018 at 02:18 PM

I gave my T a Christmas card. She seemed to appreciate it a lot. Kit

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imnotbroken Member Member Since Mar 2018 Location: World Posts: 171 6 29 hugs given	Dec 10, 2018 at 08:50 AM #1 A while back I posted here about thinking of giving T something as a holiday gift. I got her a pair of oven mitts, Christmas-themed. It’s simple, but I think she’ll like it. Hopefully. I will give them to her tomorrow, for our last session of the year.
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imnotbroken Member Member Since Mar 2018 Location: World Posts: 171 6 29 hugs given	Dec 10, 2018 at 11:52 AM #3 That's an excellent idea as well, Lemoncake!! But I don't know T enough to give her a book, though... Perhaps in a few more years? Hope your T gets to read it with her daughter!
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seeker33 Poohbah Member Since Nov 2017 Location: Europe Posts: 1,417 6 1,603 hugs given	Dec 10, 2018 at 01:36 PM #4 Oven mittens sound great. I think it's a very cute and useful gift :-) __________________ Complex trauma Highly sensitive person I love nature, simplicity and minimalism
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Merope Veteran Member Member Since Jan 2018 Location: Somewhere in a cloud Posts: 719 6 479 hugs given	Dec 10, 2018 at 02:38 PM #5 I'm so glad I found this post! I've been debating whether it would be ok to give my T a christmas card just to say thank you, but was worried it would be too much? I know, logically, that it's just a card so no big deal, but i can't help wondering if he would be put off by it. I'm glad other people are giving their Ts small gifts and cards!
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coolibrarian Poohbah Member Since Feb 2014 Location: Upstate NY Posts: 1,302 10 1,041 hugs given	Dec 10, 2018 at 02:51 PM #6 I just came back from the post office. I mailed my T a 2019 calendar which I was involved in creating. She should get it on Wednesday.
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satsuma Grand Member Member Since Feb 2017 Location: UK Posts: 913 7 469 hugs given	Dec 10, 2018 at 02:58 PM #7 I always give my T a Christmas card! And this year I might add some homemade sweets as well. I wouldn't give something expensive as I think that would be awkward for both of us, but at this time of year I want to let him know that I appreciate all that he does for me.
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imnotbroken Member Member Since Mar 2018 Location: World Posts: 171 6 29 hugs given	Dec 10, 2018 at 03:40 PM #9 I'm enjoying reading what you guys are giving your Ts so much!
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BonnieJean Poohbah Member Since Aug 2011 Location: in the windmills of my mind Posts: 1,334 13 3,264 hugs given	Dec 10, 2018 at 07:17 PM #13 My long time t is Jewish but her birthday is soon. I made her a card and bought her 2 small crystals from a crystal store. Neither of us are into new age stuff but the slips of paper explaining each crystal felt so meaningful. Plus they're pretty. Im hoping she'll like them. __________________ -BJ
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RaineD Grand Member Member Since Aug 2017 Location: United States Posts: 950 7 962 hugs given	Dec 11, 2018 at 01:45 AM #14 I wish my T was still alive so I can get him something.
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imnotbroken Member Member Since Mar 2018 Location: World Posts: 171 6 29 hugs given	Dec 11, 2018 at 09:57 AM #16 Just got a text from her cancelling our session because she’s not feeling well. I am a little sad cause I had to leave the house early so I am dragging the thing around. Guess she’s not getting anything after all
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imnotbroken Member Member Since Mar 2018 Location: World Posts: 171 6 29 hugs given	Dec 11, 2018 at 10:00 AM #17 Would it be weird to drop the gift off at the clinic for her secretary to give it to her tomorrow? Could really use some advice on this
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SlumberKitty Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jul 2018 Location: CA Posts: 27,329 (SuperPoster!) 6 117.7k hugs given	Dec 11, 2018 at 02:18 PM #20 I gave my T a Christmas card. She seemed to appreciate it a lot. Kit
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