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stopdog · Dec 19, 2018 at 10:10 PM

Why don’t you just tell him directly? it seems like the indirect approach is a lot more effort on your part

susannahsays · Dec 19, 2018 at 10:11 PM

I think the point is to make him feel some of the frustration Jersey felt when he said that to her.

ScarletPimpernel · Dec 20, 2018 at 01:43 AM

Tomorrow is Pdoc and T. I'm nervous about T. I know, based on experience, I shouldn't worry. But I really feel let down by T. And we have so much to talk about: us, my relationship with H, financial problems, possibly moving, and maybe adoption.

H and I have been talking about moving again. And we just found out that H has low testosterone. It might be why I didn't get pregnant while on Clomid. We might just be better off adopting.

Dec 20, 2018 at 03:17 AM

I went to the pound to see if my cat was there as i rang and the poor person said they have loads of tabbies, what did i expect? I rang around the vets too. I sometimes think i can hear him calling at the door but it was just the baby across the street. His littermate keeps wandering the house calling for him too.

DP_2017 · Dec 20, 2018 at 07:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Jersey 3

My old dog is sick and needs to go to the vet. I called H and told him I am low on cash to bring her to the vet. He told me he don’t have $300.00 to put out. I said well what should we do? He said to me “You will have to find a solution” Me? I have to find a solution? Is she not OUR dog? Did he just not put out $350.00 to adopt another dog after I advised against it? I’m so mad at him. So I decided he’s going to eat those words. For now on everything he says to me my answer will be back to him “Find a solution” . Hey Jersey, what do you want for dinner? Me: find a solution. Hey Jersey what do you want to watch? Me: find a solution. Hey Jersey, what time do you want to leave for dinner at my sisters? Me: Find a solution. Really those are going to be the only 3 words that come out of my mouth in response to something he asks for the foreseeable future. Come on man, together almost 19 years, he don’t know me yet? Is this not a marriage? Are we not a united front? The dog has a host of serious health issues so now it’s just my dog? Get with the program.

I get your frustration there, wow. I am also very sad to hear about your dog. Ask the vet about payment plans or pet insurance. Some offer those and it can be helpful. My dog who passed was jokingly called "the million dollar dog" because of all his health problems. I have no idea sometimes how I was able to afford it but the pet insurance did help.... hopefully the dog will be ok

Echos Myron redux · Dec 20, 2018 at 07:26 AM

Hi Couch, hugs to those who want them. Jersey - that's a poor response from your H. Hope old pup gets sorted soon.

I'm feeling all therapped out and actually feel okay about not seeing T for a fortnight. Feels like we ended well yesterday.

Dec 20, 2018 at 09:17 AM

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Originally Posted by BlessedCheeseMaker

I went to the pound to see if my cat was there as i rang and the poor person said they have loads of tabbies, what did i expect? I rang around the vets too. I sometimes think i can hear him calling at the door but it was just the baby across the street. His littermate keeps wandering the house calling for him too.

I hope you find kitty.

Dec 20, 2018 at 09:18 AM

Hugs to all who want/need.

LostOnTheTrail · Dec 20, 2018 at 09:23 AM

Hmph....I thought I had my crochet project back on track, only to discover that I spaced out several rounds ago, and no longer have any idea which round I'm doing. Going to have to rip it back, but I have no idea where I rejoined the yarn. Hooray!

Lemoncake · Dec 20, 2018 at 09:48 AM

I'm back and officially in bed again.

I spent what seems like my life savings on candles.

On the way back I was walking on the same path as two of my old best friends but they turned their faces and I think pretended not to see me.

Ho hum.It is what it is.

Dec 20, 2018 at 09:48 AM

Blessed I hope your cat turns up

Jersey I hop your dog gets better

Lemoncake · Dec 20, 2018 at 09:55 AM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

I've been getting caught up on Game of Thrones since I was about 4 seasons behind. Today I told my therapist that if they kill off my favorite character I was going to be really upset. He said "Who is your favorite? No, wait. Let me guess." I didn't really think he would get it straight away because there are several good options and he obviously doesn't know everything about me, but he got it on the first try. That was kind of awesome.

Hmmm let me guess, I think you're a Jon Snow kind of gal. Or Tyrion Lannister perhaps? I found Sansa irritating as a child.Arya is awesomeness by season 6. I had a huuuuuuuuuge crush on Rob stark though.

Lemoncake · Dec 20, 2018 at 09:58 AM

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Originally Posted by ArtieSwimsOn

After an 11 hour work day, I just reorganized my office a little - moved the futon into the new library (son's old room), moved a bookcase and slid my desk against the wall. It's a lot less crowded in there now. I like. Now I'm sitting on the couch, too lazy to make dinner, enjoying the quiet because h is out on a job. Well, quiet except the random noises of Penelope batting ornaments off the tree and then playing with them. Heehee.

I honestly never knew cats go nuts about trees.

Lemoncake · Dec 20, 2018 at 10:04 AM

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Originally Posted by LostOnTheTrail

@Lemon - I see an advert for Toffifee, and I think of you.

Not that I've ever eaten one.

Lost do it and take a ride on the dark side! I don't think you'll regret it.

Lemoncake · Dec 20, 2018 at 10:14 AM

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Originally Posted by chihirochild

Hahaha omg couch sometimes I am a little bit dumb

I’ve got a cold and attempted a sinus rinse but I used tablespoons instead of teaspoons and OH HECKING HECK THAT BURNED

I’m totally fine, obviously (it was certainly effective!) and actually it reminds me of a sort of silly nice memory from when I was a child—I was baking cookies with some friends and one of the other girls did the same tablespoon-instead-of-teaspoon move and we had some seriously foul shortbread as a result.

Ooooo I've never made shortbread. But I think that's a pretty common thing.

I hope your cold clears up soon.

Lemoncake · Dec 20, 2018 at 10:21 AM

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

Tomorrow is Pdoc and T. I'm nervous about T. I know, based on experience, I shouldn't worry. But I really feel let down by T. And we have so much to talk about: us, my relationship with H, financial problems, possibly moving, and maybe adoption.

H and I have been talking about moving again. And we just found out that H has low testosterone. It might be why I didn't get pregnant while on Clomid. We might just be better off adopting.

That sounds like an awful lot to deal with Scarlet. I hope your session with T goes well. How has your medication reduction been going?

Lemoncake · Dec 20, 2018 at 10:24 AM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

I am overloaded with family togetherness just now. I should go out tomorrow and get a bottle of whisky.

However, nieces and new cat are getting along surprisingly well. They’ve only knocked over three houseplants so far in their repeated reenactments of the Kentucky Derby.

Get the whisky and let them get on with it?

xD

stopdog · Dec 20, 2018 at 10:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

I honestly never knew cats go nuts about trees.

They do. And a good number of them are harmed each year by things like tinsel, glass ornaments, and poinsettias etc.
Holidays can be quite dangerous for pets.

Dec 20, 2018 at 11:22 AM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

They do. And a good number of them are harmed each year by things like tinsel, glass ornaments, and poinsettias etc.

Holidays can be quite dangerous for pets.

True. We don't use tinsel at all and the only ornaments I have are plastic and they are pretty indestructable. Even if we step on them they just crush but don't break.

Dec 20, 2018 at 11:42 AM

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Originally Posted by ArtieSwimsOn

True. We don't use tinsel at all and the only ornaments I have are plastic and they are pretty indestructable. Even if we step on them they just crush but don't break.

I don't have any decorations up. I can't trust Tigger not to eat them.

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stopdog underdog is here Member Since Sep 2011 Location: blank Posts: 35,049 (SuperPoster!) 13 1 hugs given	Dec 19, 2018 at 10:10 PM #761 Why don’t you just tell him directly? it seems like the indirect approach is a lot more effort on your part __________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.

susannahsays Grand Magnate Member Since Jun 2018 Location: Somewhere Posts: 3,355 6 1 hugs given	Dec 19, 2018 at 10:11 PM #762 I think the point is to make him feel some of the frustration Jersey felt when he said that to her.

Anonymous42961 Guest Posts: n/a	Dec 20, 2018 at 03:17 AM #764 I went to the pound to see if my cat was there as i rang and the poor person said they have loads of tabbies, what did i expect? I rang around the vets too. I sometimes think i can hear him calling at the door but it was just the baby across the street. His littermate keeps wandering the house calling for him too.

Echos Myron redux Magnate Member Since Apr 2018 Location: UK Posts: 2,171 6 1,836 hugs given	Dec 20, 2018 at 07:26 AM #766 Hi Couch, hugs to those who want them. Jersey - that's a poor response from your H. Hope old pup gets sorted soon. I'm feeling all therapped out and actually feel okay about not seeing T for a fortnight. Feels like we ended well yesterday.

Anonymous43207 Guest Posts: n/a	Dec 20, 2018 at 09:18 AM #768 Hugs to all who want/need.

Lemoncake Roses are falling. Member Since May 2017 Location: Seattle. Posts: 9,955 (SuperPoster!) 7 10.5k hugs given	Dec 20, 2018 at 09:48 AM #770 I'm back and officially in bed again. I spent what seems like my life savings on candles. On the way back I was walking on the same path as two of my old best friends but they turned their faces and I think pretended not to see me. Ho hum.It is what it is. __________________

Anonymous32891 Guest Posts: n/a	Dec 20, 2018 at 09:48 AM #771 Blessed I hope your cat turns up Jersey I hop your dog gets better