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#1
Warning: There is little point or conclusion to this post; nor is there a question. Just this:
It's been quite some time (well, since July) since I quit therapy. Actually, I didn't so much quit as have my T blow out of the city without a plan to return, so when she finally re-surfaced, I decided not to renew the relationship. So either way, the therapy is over. I'm not seeing a new T at the moment, and I don't miss the old T, I just miss therapy sometimes. I miss the structure of it, the space and time it gave me, and the comfort that it brought -- that someone was processing my life story with me. Especially around the holidays, which can be crap-tastic in my FOO. Life doesn't exactly suck, really. I am finding myself strengthening friendships, which is great, and I have taken on a consulting job, which is helping me with finances and making me feel like I'm really contributing professionally in my community. It's really rewarding. I've been feeling a bit low lately and two of my closest friends actually NOTICED and reached out to me to say, You Okay? But I miss the ritual, the feeling of understanding, and the space that therapy gave me. WAAAAAAAAAAAAAA |
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Yes, I get this. I've actually never done much in the way of therapy. I've tried a few for brief periods over the years. They pretty-much ranged from mediocre to dreadful! The last one I saw was actually the best of the lot. But I got angry about something (not even related to therapy itself as I recall) & I quit. That must have been 3 or 4 years ago now I would guesstimate. I don't miss the therapist. But I miss having someone with whom I can talk through my issues. Now I simply keep it all to myself.
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I can understand that. It sounds perfectly reasonable to me. After I stopped therapy with T1 when I was very young, I didn't miss her really, but I missed having that space and time. I get it. I don't think you are alone with this feeling at all. Kit.
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Anyway, I feel like there is a hole where therapy used to be in my life. Not even that it helped me so enormously. |
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Can you do that here somehow? I personally am interested and, unless the moderators obect, I think it's appropriate to let us know how things are going for you now that therapy has ended. Write a post/update once a week or so, on a regular schedule, if that would help?
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I can relate... I had to go five months without my T and at one point I thought I was going to go crazy so on a whim I signed up for the better help website for an online therapist. I only talked to her for about a week, and honestly she wasn't even that helpful, but getting things off my chest in a therapy-like manner made me feel better. That made me realize that while I like my T a lot, it's therapy that I'm missing when I haven't been in a while, not her.
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#11
So this weekend, I pushed myself socially and went out a lot. It was HARD. My day job is so reliant on communications and by the end of the day, I just feel like being in my pajamas with Ben and Jerry. But I went!
I have been actually talking to myself (out loud, I seem like a maniac but there's always the chance that someone sees me talking to myself in the car and they figure I have Bluetooth). I literally have to say, "It's okay and if you hate this party, you can simply stay for 30 minutes" This is the kind of discussion that I would have with my T. Examining my self talk. And realizing how I wouldn't talk to my DOG in this fashion, yet I berate myself this way. Ugh. No wonder I was in therapy for a million years. |
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