What do you write?

Thalassophile · Dec 18, 2018 at 04:09 PM

If you give a card to you T over the holidays what do you normally write? I gave a card to my T today that literally just said 'Happy Christmas and all the best for the New Year'. I know that he celebrates Christmas and had thought he would allow cards and he accepted it thankfully. Wondering if people use it as an opportunity to write more.

satsuma · Dec 18, 2018 at 04:11 PM

I use it as an opportunity to say thank you for the things my T does for me.

peacelizard · Dec 18, 2018 at 04:12 PM

I'm not really a card giver, so if I were to go through the trouble in the first place I'd likely write more.

In general, I always try to follow what I call my 3 S's — short, simple, and sincere

SlumberKitty · Dec 18, 2018 at 04:13 PM

Usually I just say, "Merry Christmas" "Thanks for all you've done for me through the year" and "Take Care" but with new T this year, I just said "Merry Christmas" and her name at the top and my name at the bottom. I don't know her well enough for more words to be said. She liked the card anyway. Esp. the picture on the front. Good enough. Kit.

LostOnTheTrail · Dec 18, 2018 at 04:13 PM

'Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year' - I agonised over this initially, and then decided that I would do better to keep the focus on the season than on me.

Thalassophile · Dec 18, 2018 at 04:37 PM

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Originally Posted by satsuma

I use it as an opportunity to say thank you for the things my T does for me.

I wanted to say thank you but wasn't sure how to say it. Do you write a few lines about different things or just a more general 'thanks for everything'

nottrustin · Dec 18, 2018 at 04:40 PM

With T I use to write a little more be because I knew her so well. This year for Emdr T I wrote Merry Christmas and God Bless! Thank you for all you do and my name.

SlumberKitty · Dec 18, 2018 at 04:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Thalassophile

I wanted to say thank you but wasn't sure how to say it. Do you write a few lines about different things or just a more general 'thanks for everything'

I always kept it general. The time I had to go to the hospital for SI I handmade cards for my T and PDOC to tell them thank you and that was the only time I was more specific. But at holidays I was always general. Kit.

junkDNA · Dec 18, 2018 at 05:13 PM

I write long drawn out thank you notes that I end up feeling embarrassed about after

Lefty Seven · Dec 18, 2018 at 05:19 PM

"Smooches." does it every year.

Dec 18, 2018 at 06:38 PM

i write her a long note about all the things I appreciate about her.

piggy momma · Dec 18, 2018 at 07:34 PM

I wrote a novel in his Christmas card. Thanked him for being so patient and understanding, always being there for me, helping me out blah blah blah. I wrote a lot.

DP_2017 · Dec 19, 2018 at 08:19 AM

Just signed my and my dog's name and added "Happy new year"

Nothing special

Dec 19, 2018 at 08:28 AM

I think any positive message can be fine, whatever you would like to express and suits your style. I have never given cards to Ts but if I did, would probably make the text somewhat personalized but brief. A formal message is good, too - I think simply the act of giving the card expresses something on its own.

Lemoncake · Dec 19, 2018 at 11:19 AM

Dear Mr S,

Thanks for being my therapist. I hope you have a wonderful Christmas and a happy new year.

"Your biggest headache"

S

annielovesbacon · Dec 20, 2018 at 12:45 AM

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Originally Posted by DP_2017

Just signed my and my dog's name and added "Happy new year"

Nothing special

I love that you sign your dog's name, too

annielovesbacon · Dec 20, 2018 at 12:46 AM

I do not give my T a card at the holidays, but if I did, I think I would simply say, "Thanks for all you have done for me this year. Happy holidays and happy new year!"

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Thalassophile Member Member Since Nov 2017 Location: Chicago Posts: 183 6	Dec 18, 2018 at 04:09 PM #1 If you give a card to you T over the holidays what do you normally write? I gave a card to my T today that literally just said 'Happy Christmas and all the best for the New Year'. I know that he celebrates Christmas and had thought he would allow cards and he accepted it thankfully. Wondering if people use it as an opportunity to write more.
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satsuma Grand Member Member Since Feb 2017 Location: UK Posts: 913 7 469 hugs given	Dec 18, 2018 at 04:11 PM #2 I use it as an opportunity to say thank you for the things my T does for me.
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peacelizard Member Member Since Oct 2014 Location: Boston, MA Posts: 257 9	Dec 18, 2018 at 04:12 PM #3 I'm not really a card giver, so if I were to go through the trouble in the first place I'd likely write more. In general, I always try to follow what I call my 3 S's — short, simple, and sincere
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SlumberKitty Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jul 2018 Location: CA Posts: 27,329 (SuperPoster!) 5 117.7k hugs given	Dec 18, 2018 at 04:13 PM #4 Usually I just say, "Merry Christmas" "Thanks for all you've done for me through the year" and "Take Care" but with new T this year, I just said "Merry Christmas" and her name at the top and my name at the bottom. I don't know her well enough for more words to be said. She liked the card anyway. Esp. the picture on the front. Good enough. Kit.
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nottrustin Grand Magnate Member Since Jan 2014 Location: n/a Posts: 4,819 10 375 hugs given	Dec 18, 2018 at 04:40 PM #7 With T I use to write a little more be because I knew her so well. This year for Emdr T I wrote Merry Christmas and God Bless! Thank you for all you do and my name. __________________
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junkDNA Comfy Sedation Member Since Sep 2012 Location: the woods Posts: 19,301 (SuperPoster!) 11 8,149 hugs given	Dec 18, 2018 at 05:13 PM #9 I write long drawn out thank you notes that I end up feeling embarrassed about after __________________
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Lefty Seven Account Suspended Member Since Nov 2018 Location: Hawaii Posts: 209 5 17 hugs given	Dec 18, 2018 at 05:19 PM #10 "Smooches." does it every year.
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Anonymous47147 Guest Posts: n/a	Dec 18, 2018 at 06:38 PM #11 i write her a long note about all the things I appreciate about her.
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piggy momma Poohbah Member Since Oct 2018 Location: Canada Posts: 1,073 5 70 hugs given	Dec 18, 2018 at 07:34 PM #12 I wrote a novel in his Christmas card. Thanked him for being so patient and understanding, always being there for me, helping me out blah blah blah. I wrote a lot.
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DP_2017 Grand Magnate Member Since Aug 2017 Location: A house Posts: 4,412 6 665 hugs given	Dec 19, 2018 at 08:19 AM #13 Just signed my and my dog's name and added "Happy new year" Nothing special __________________ Grief is the price you pay for love.
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Anonymous55498 Guest Posts: n/a	Dec 19, 2018 at 08:28 AM #14 I think any positive message can be fine, whatever you would like to express and suits your style. I have never given cards to Ts but if I did, would probably make the text somewhat personalized but brief. A formal message is good, too - I think simply the act of giving the card expresses something on its own.
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Lemoncake Luna's offical mini me. Member Since May 2017 Location: Cafe Nervosa. Posts: 9,700 (SuperPoster!) 6 10.2k hugs given	Dec 19, 2018 at 11:19 AM #15 Dear Mr S, Thanks for being my therapist. I hope you have a wonderful Christmas and a happy new year. "Your biggest headache" S __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing."
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annielovesbacon Grand Poohbah Member Since Apr 2016 Location: USA Posts: 1,527 8 1,271 hugs given	Dec 20, 2018 at 12:46 AM #17 I do not give my T a card at the holidays, but if I did, I think I would simply say, "Thanks for all you have done for me this year. Happy holidays and happy new year!" __________________ stay afraid, but do it anyway.
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