[mulan]

My therapist cancelled my next two appointments. She is suppose to be good, as so it says her busy schedule.
I waited to get an appointment with her (first time so it was ok). Then each new session must be schedule with a time difference of more then a month, because she has many clients. Then she schedule two different sessions at a time so it is easy to make them close and find a spot.
After a month and a half from our last session she cancels both, exactly one day before the appointment because of some professional duties she must know in weeks.
I pay good money and I barely think anything changed about me, good therapy is not suppose to happen from 5 to 5 weeks, or 10weeks as this time.
She may has excuses, buy I don't think is professional to let her clients on hold. My trust on her is going down fast.
I am very upset.

I'm sorry Mulan. For me consistency was a very important quality for my t to have. I would be upset too.

[SlumberKitty]

Mulan, it sounds like your T isn't able to meet your needs at this time. I'm sorry about that. It could be worth talking to your T about this whenever you get to see T. If things don't improve, you might want to interview a couple of other more T's to see if any of them would be a good fit. I'm sorry you are going through this. My T has a busy schedule too, so usually my appointments are usually a month or so apart. It makes it difficult sometimes. Kit.

[here today]

So sorry, I would be upset, too.

Since she is supposed to be good, and you waited to get your first appointment with her, it's probably worth discussing with her at your next appointment. But if it were me I would go ahead and start looking for other possible therapists, in case it can't work out with this one in a way that works for you, too.

[nottrustin]

Wow. That is crazy. As others have said I would talk to her at your next appointment to see what the deal is. If this will be a regular issue then I would definitely seek somebody new

[susannahsays]

I personally wouldn't wait around for who knows how long for another appointment. She's demonstrated that she's 1) got too many clients on her caseload and 2) that she won't think twice about cancelling you two times in a row when she isn't even sick. Having too many clients on her caseload doesn't mean she's good, it just means she's irresponsible and client wellbeing is not her primary concern. See if you can find a different therapist who will show you more respect as a client seeking services.

[piggy momma]

I would definitely be upset as well. It is not only frustrating from a therapy perspective, but it is disrespectful of your time.

I don’t know how therapy works in Europe, but are you able to get in with another T that can provide the services and consistency you need?

[mulan]

Thank you for your answears. I must admit I didn't expect so much consistency and agreement on the answears. I wasn't sure I could be upset or it was right to be upset.
At the end I told my sister how upset I was and she made me feel bad about my feelings. She kept affirming there was something more about it for me to be so upset and kept inquiring me what it was. And then excused my therapist and her behaviours. Saying what she thought I was thinking that she assumed as the trueth and when I told her it wasn't like that she tried to conviced me it was only I was lying/not aware.
I felty so poorly valitaded and scrutinized in my feelings, fears and problems that I got upset with my sister too. Specially adding her cold non verbal.

I realy nead validation and none of my family members can give me something as simple as that everytime I bring my feelings. I always have to hear them say what I did wrong, what I should have done instead and why the other people I am upset with are in fact right.

[susannahsays]

I'm sorry your family is so invalidating. The person who gave birth to me is like that sometimes. Even my dad, whom I like, tends to look for reasons I'm wrong instead of taking my word for things. It's really confusing, isn't it? You were right to feel upset and dissatisfied with the arrangement with the therapist, and I have no idea why your sister had trouble understanding that.

[starfishing]

You have every right to be upset. This therapist is clearly overbooked, and not handling it particularly professionally.

[Lemoncake]

What if it was an emergency situation and you really needed to see her? I wouldn't be happy with this and would seriously consider finding a new T.