[growlycat]

I just restarted dbt group with my therapist and his intern. I could have used this twenty years ago and less so now but better late than never. His last group was overwhelmingly big and I was the only woman. I like this new smaller group better.

Feelings of jealousy I need to keep in check. These are nice people and I shouldn’t feel jealous sharing my t.

Trying to give this a good try.

Ever do group or dbt with your individual t? Did it work out ok? How about dbt when you aren’t in crisis. Useful?

[WarmFuzzySocks]

I haven’t, but I hope this new smaller group is a better fit for you.

[stopdog]

Good luck with it.

[unaluna]

IKWYM about the 20 years ago.

[Echos Myron redux]

Originally Posted by growlycat

I shouldn’t feel jealous sharing my t.

Just about this bit - there is no "shouldn't" when it comes to feelings. If that's what you feel, don't judge it, just notice it. It's okay.

And fwiw I would definitely feel jealous sharing my T. I think I would personally be too preoccupied trying to be his favourite group member to be an active participant.

Originally Posted by Echos Myron redux

And fwiw I would definitely feel jealous sharing my T. I think I would personally be too preoccupied trying to be his favourite group member to be an active participant.

God, me too. Although I am very resourceful so would circumvent the problem by taking a knitting needle to their brain stems.

[seeker33]

Originally Posted by Echos Myron redux

Just about this bit - there is no "shouldn't" when it comes to feelings. If that's what you feel, don't judge it, just notice it. It's okay.

And fwiw I would definitely feel jealous sharing my T. I think I would personally be too preoccupied trying to be his favourite group member to be an active participant.

Exactly!

Anyway, good luck with your new group growlycat!

[DP_2017]

I hope it works for you

My t had long talked about wanting to start a group and I was always honest about my jealousy. I told him I could only be in it if there was no other woman and if I got to sit by him lol. He always was like "i believe it"

Keep us posted how it goes

[junkDNA]

I've been in a lot of groups ran by my t

I feel like he did treat me as a favorite, hed always tell inside jokes we had, I'd always catch him watching me and when we met eyes he would smile, he would do silly things with me. But it actually embarrassed me, and I brought it up to him. Ever since then he stopped

[ArtleyWilkins]

I did group with one of my therapists co-leading it. Jealousy really wasn't an issue for me. I still had individual sessions with him which were much more personal than group, and the group content and format was much different than what we were doing individually. In other words, I saw the two formats very differently and thus jealousy just didn't become a thing.

[Lemoncake]

I hope it goes well Growly!

[Anne2.0]

I haven't had a DBT experience although I believe the distress tolerance pieces I have explored without the label. I just think it's great you are giving it another try; I often find trying something again, perhaps after managing my expectations or increasing my desire to succeed, works. Or maybe it just takes me longer than others to learn some things.

[growlycat]

I think my t has learned that smaller more manageable groups have a lower attrition rate.
With his intern, and less people it feels less chaotic. And his last group was 98 percent young men who seemed immature to me.