Have you been terminated by your T

No I have never been terminated by a T.

I can see how reading stories of termination would concern anyone; other people affect us, and that is as it should be. There are a number of psychological processes that can filter the way we take in information that shapes our interpretations. Some of this is "vividness" and the story of unexpected and sometimes viscous termination sticks out in the mind and makes it appear to be more common than it really is.

If I started a thread titled My Therapist Didn't Terminate Me Today, probably nobody would read it, or they would stop once they realized it wasn't that I was expecting to be terminated because I hacked into their FB and friended myself. Likewise, I don't post about not being afraid of termination because it's not bothering me to feel that way. So part of it is the nature of online groups, combined with the fact that those who just go to therapy and either don't think about it and/or who don't struggle with it are unlikely to find this board or want to. So the struggles or problems with therapy are more likely to be over represented here.

But I've had three long term therapists and none has ever terminated me, unless you count the first one where he took a job at my workplace and so we needed to terminate (I can't imagine he would have wanted to continue even if I did). It had been about three years with him so it was upsetting, but I found it easy to work with a new T. I saw my old t occasionally in meetings but fortunately not too often.

He doesn’t have the resources to deal with someone who is suicidal. His practice is very small - only a couple clients at a time, he mostly does marriage counselling. And it is sadly not that unusual around here for a T to turn away a potential client with a history of a suicide attempt.

Yes, I have been terminated by 2 therapist. Each was/is painful.

The first determined that after 3 years she had done ‘all that she could’ and it was ‘time For me to move on.’ I was so confused and overwhelmed with grief.

After a period of trying to understand it by myself, I decided to find another therapist. I knew I couldn’t handle it on my own.

The next therapist help me get through what had happened with the last therapist and promised not to end therapy until I was ready for it(note: therapists should neve make promises)

So about 2.5 years into therapy with her she nonchalantly tells me she’s moving from where she lives, about 40 minutes from her office. She assures me that this is not have any affect and she will continue working where her current office is.

Fast forward 6 months later and she changes her mind and has decided to close her office and she was no longer going to see clients.

To say the least, this two occurrences have had a huge impact on my life.

Hahaha I would read I promise!!

Not as such. The second woman retired suddenly, after saying she had no plans to retire, because of some illness/injury of her 90+ yr old husband and him needing more full-time care. I never fully understood the relation of her having a part time therapy office with interfering with caring for her husband because she has kept up with her other career which is home based but she has a studio as well, but she is not licensed in the state where she lives and said the short drive across the river was too much. I did not bother questioning it. If someone is going to close their practice, it doesn't really matter the reason why to me. I found the emphasis on licensed as being misplaced - but that is more because I find their belief that licenses mean anything in their profession amusing at best.

I was terminated by a former p-doc who I'd been seeing over a year and generally liked. She gave a month's notice that she was leaving the practice (where ex-T and ex-MC also worked) to go to a location where she could only meet with people who were low-income, so I couldn't follow her there. I think I found out via letter, just because of the timing. It hurt at the time (a few years ago), but I actually like the p-doc I found to replace her much better, so it worked out.

8 years ago i was terminated from my first pastoral therapist out of the blue. I ran away and she used that to terminate me it was very traumatic for me i got so close to her i kinda had a motherly figer in my life. I came close last year at the mental health clinic because they saw i was not helping myself not going to day program and relapsing alcohol My treatment team where feeling like they where all doing the work i was not. I got sober 14 months ago and im putting effort into everything going to all the programs at day and being honest all the time. Now i feel im not at risk for my file being terminated now, it was very painful however looking back i was not putting a good effort in to what brought me into therapy. Sorry for the long post and going on about me. Hugs

no and I hope not!

seems like they are worried about liability and possible lawsuits

I had co-therapists so hostile and unhinged they stopped even the pretense of the service of group therapy. But I was the one to unplug the socket.

No termination here. My T says we will end therapy when I decide I am ready to end therapy.

Ghosted by a T who used the excuse of leaving...but then returned and cheesily dodged me. So yes.

I had one ending that was mutually agreed upon. Then I made contact again as various realizations hit. She would have none of it and refused further contact. What mattered to her was maintaining the appearance of authority and credibility. She ended up behaving like a big baby when confronted with failure.

I assume many of the loony and/or sudden terminations inflicted by therapists are the result of them facing failure and the dissolution of their savior fantasies. Worst thing a client can do, seemingly, is tell the truth about how useless therapy is for them... or worse, destructive. Get ready for drama and histrionics, or a cold hard adios.

I coped by developing my feeble critical thinking skills and then deconstructing my experience and therapy in general. Like everyone else, I was aggressively pushed toward a new therapist, who would make it all better, which was total excrement. Power to the people!

Sadly mine said that very thing to me more than once