Couch 187: Dry Cheerios

stopdog · Jan 13, 2019 at 03:43 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

So we're becoming more compatible?

"One in a million - so what youre saying is, theres a chance!" -- Dumb and Dumber

I worry about you.

NP_Complete · Jan 13, 2019 at 03:53 PM

Lemoncake, I wonder if you wouldn't be better off seeing someone in person rather than via Skype. I find value in the physical presence in the room of my therapist and don't feel like I would have the same experience of therapy if we were doing it remotely.

Lemoncake · Jan 13, 2019 at 03:53 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Pastry!!

Hmmmm I don't know if food can bring us back to where were were before Una&Ozzygate.

LonesomeTonight · Jan 13, 2019 at 03:59 PM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

Lemoncake, I wonder if you wouldn't be better off seeing someone in person rather than via Skype. I find value in the physical presence in the room of my therapist and don't feel like I would have the same experience of therapy if we were doing it remotely.

I'd agree with this. The one time I had a phone session (granted, not video) with my T (I was out of town), it just felt...weird. There's something about actually interacting with him in the room that feels different. Would the other T you contacted be in person, Lemon?

unaluna · Jan 13, 2019 at 04:00 PM

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Originally Posted by DP_2017

I really need to break my addiction and stop posting on this site

I'm so tired of drama happening because I have different views and stand firm with them. Not everyone here has to agree, I'm allowed those views and shouldn't have to be attacked for them.

My T at least would be proud of me for being assertive. Like me or don't, I truly don't care

Yeahbbut - why do you think its okay to tell other people what to do, when you dont like other people telling you what to do? Or explain to people what they are doing, like i am here.

Its not just you. I think its something we all have to be wary of. "YOURE doing this!" "No, YOU are!"

Also, one thing i personally dont like, is when a person answers me back so freakin fast, i know they havent really read thru my post and thought about it. Like lemoncakes post above - she said she felt did something wrong re a 2nd t contact. I had to reread that a few times to figure out what she felt bad about. Its not enough to just fire back "you didnt do anything wrong." I think we owe each other more than that, more than a computer generated response based on keywords.

Lemoncake · Jan 13, 2019 at 04:02 PM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

Lemoncake, I wonder if you wouldn't be better off seeing someone in person rather than via Skype. I find value in the physical presence in the room of my therapist and don't feel like I would have the same experience of therapy if we were doing it remotely.

Hiiii NP!

I see R in person whenever I'm back in London and I do feel the difference. I feel more exposed and more aware of my bod. But I've noticed that I crave comfort a lot more because it's actually possible and we don't have miles separating us.

I do save time and money traveling though and I can turn up in my Pajamas. xDD

unaluna · Jan 13, 2019 at 04:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

Hmmmm I don't know if food can bring us back to where were were before Una&Ozzygate.

Yeah i might need somebody older, with a bad memory like me. As long as they have pastry...

CantExplain · Jan 13, 2019 at 04:06 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

Your choice.

Do you see any irony?

That Stopdog is recommending therapy? Yes, it's ironic.

CantExplain · Jan 13, 2019 at 04:08 PM

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Originally Posted by DP_2017

^No thanks, I'd vomit

And I wont trust anyone again except a dog. Realizing T was fake and lied for 20 months was too much. IF HE CAN screw me like that, why should I believe others wont? It's been my lifelong experience.

Keeping distant is best.

Some therapists are better than others.

atisketatasket · Jan 13, 2019 at 04:12 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Yeah i might need somebody older, with a bad memory like me. As long as they have pastry...

Info’s about your age and has a terrible memory. Also Italian and from the same state originally, with a dysfunctional mother. Interested?

unaluna · Jan 13, 2019 at 04:13 PM

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Originally Posted by CantExplain

That Stopdog is recommending therapy? Yes, it's ironic.

Thanks. Sometimes only mansplaining will do.

unaluna · Jan 13, 2019 at 04:15 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Info’s about your age and has a terrible memory. Also Italian and from the same state originally, with a dysfunctional mother. Interested?

Aye caramba! 🤯

atisketatasket · Jan 13, 2019 at 04:17 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Info’s about your age and has a terrible memory. Also Italian and from the same state originally, with a dysfunctional mother. Interested?

I just realized...una is my therapist.

stopdog · Jan 13, 2019 at 04:18 PM

I recommended nothing. I merely stated it existed.

DP_2017 · Jan 13, 2019 at 04:18 PM

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Originally Posted by CantExplain

Some therapists are better than others.

Has nothing to do with a career, has to do with a human being.... gaining trust and walking away

Happens constantly and I'm over it.

stopdog · Jan 13, 2019 at 04:19 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

I just realized...una is my therapist.

Be afraid. Very very afraid.
The only thing more horrifying is if you realized Info was me.

skeksi · Jan 13, 2019 at 04:19 PM

I’ve been on my own for almost 15 years now, but if I eat out (not counting meeting friends at a restaurant), I always get takeout. I moved to a little town-like place and there’s lots of restaurants within walking distance, so I sat down and had a meal by myself today. And lived to tell the tale!

atisketatasket · Jan 13, 2019 at 04:22 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

Be afraid. Very very afraid.
The only thing more horrifying is if you realized Info was me.

I think you might make a delightful therapist.

Also I would have to respect you intellectually.

Jan 13, 2019 at 04:22 PM

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Originally Posted by skeksi

I’ve been on my own for almost 15 years now, but if I eat out (not counting meeting friends at a restaurant), I always get takeout. I moved to a little town-like place and there’s lots of restaurants within walking distance, so I sat down and had a meal by myself today. And lived to tell the tale!

All hail Skeksi!! I never had the balls to sit down in a restaurant and eat by myself. Congrats!

Lemoncake · Jan 13, 2019 at 04:23 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

I'd agree with this. The one time I had a phone session (granted, not video) with my T (I was out of town), it just felt...weird. There's something about actually interacting with him in the room that feels different. Would the other T you contacted be in person, Lemon?

Nooooooooooo he's too far to travel too.

I saw one psychiatrist here I liked,but he does mainly just medication. I briefly had one session with the therapist who was teaching psychology at my hospital but she said she couldn't see me and teach me, so went with me to the shrinks office.They referred me to the psychiatrist I hated as they said it would be better if I had continuity.

Another psychiatrist said he was full and another never got back to me.There's a few women close to me- one less than 15 mins away but I can't see myself with a female T.

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NP_Complete Grand Magnate Member Since Feb 2017 Location: the upside down Posts: 3,824 7 6,365 hugs given	Jan 13, 2019 at 03:53 PM #242 Lemoncake, I wonder if you wouldn't be better off seeing someone in person rather than via Skype. I find value in the physical presence in the room of my therapist and don't feel like I would have the same experience of therapy if we were doing it remotely.

stopdog underdog is here Member Since Sep 2011 Location: blank Posts: 34,805 (SuperPoster!) 12 1 hugs given	Jan 13, 2019 at 04:18 PM #254 I recommended nothing. I merely stated it existed. __________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.

skeksi Magnate Member Since Apr 2008 Location: N/A Posts: 2,489 16 1,145 hugs given	Jan 13, 2019 at 04:19 PM #257 I’ve been on my own for almost 15 years now, but if I eat out (not counting meeting friends at a restaurant), I always get takeout. I moved to a little town-like place and there’s lots of restaurants within walking distance, so I sat down and had a meal by myself today. And lived to tell the tale!