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Magnet
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#523
Bonus: The pantry is cleaned and organized, so that’s off my plate, and all of the random plastic baskets and ziplocs have been replaced by shiny glass jars and bins with lids.
feralkittymom, I hadn’t known to use mint to repel mice. I soaked cotton balls in peppermint and put them in the pantry, so now it smells lovely too. Thanks for the Couch tip. __________________ Since you cannot do good to all, you are to pay special attention to those who, by accidents of time, or place, or circumstance, are brought into closer connection with you. (St. Augustine) |
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Hi couchies,
Saw some messages on my profile wall hoping if I'm OK since I sorta disappeared. Couldn't find a button to reply on mobile, so hey. I've been OK therapy-wise but T's caseload has gotten much heavier again, and appointments are being spaced out a month or more. Again. This happened for 1 year some time back, if some of you remember. After the "1 year of once a month appointments", I'd talked to her about the negative impact on me and she really tried hard and succeeded in giving me once a fortnight / once every three weeks sessions. Now that it's happening again, I feel terribly guilty once again... For similar reasons like I'm high functioning etc. I know she made room for me, adjusting "more flexible" (her words) patients who didn't have similar scheduling restrictions due to work. Again I want to emphasize how grateful and fortunate I am that my current boss has continued to allow me to take time off during the work day for therapy with some reasonable restrictions... And I still can't afford private practice fees, T is still in public healthcare and I'm doing trauma work with T now... I also was recently sexually assaulted by someone I greatly trust and love and dissociated hard trying to tell T in session. I reached out to a sexual assault center and they'll see me end of this month to answer questions I have and options available to me. T says I told her (T) because part of me knows what happened is wrong and is a violation and wanted support. I am literally dissociated from my feelings on the sexual assault. T might also be leaving her current job. Some of you may remember I've an acquaintance (S) who also sees her. She told S her mandated bond with the clinic ends in March and she might be leaving the clinic in August or September. She has NOT told me anything about that, and obviously I don't want to tell her I know because S wasn't supposed to tell me. I'm also job hunting again, though of course, the same barriers I face remain since it's legal to discriminate against people with mental illness and job forms regularly ask. |
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Roses are falling.
Member Since May 2017
Location: Seattle.
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QM it's nice to get an update, but I'm sorry you're going through so much. Is it possible to another T in conjunction with current T. Once a month therapy doesn't sound like adequate support for you right now especially with the assault. __________________ |
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#526
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BMC you did the best that you could at the time.If you could have done better you would have done better. It might be easy for some people to say "why doesn't she just leave?" But leaving an abusive relationship is never easy. It's not the same thing, but the very first guy I was totally in love with treated me badly. We were very up and down and he'd tell me horrible things but I kept going back again and again and again. Growing up I never learnt what a healthy relationship looked like and I believed that it wasn't the real him, and that he was better than that. It takes courage to leave which you did and your girls will know the truth and see how strong their mother was. __________________ |
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Roses are falling.
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You question the affections of my heart an think I'm just a gold digger!? I found out about your "connections" afterwards. I like this quote from the prohibition documentary I was watching: "The history of the United States can be told in 11 words, Columbus, Washington, Lincoln, Volstead, two flights up and ask for Gus". __________________ |
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Well done for getting it all done. You might also like the insagram page called homeedit- It's an organizers dream. __________________ |
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Always in This Twilight
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#530
Hugs, QM...I'm so sorry you're dealing with all of that. Could you get any sort of additional therapy through the assault center? If they don't offer it, maybe they would know of low-cost options. As once a month doesn't seem like enough when you're struggling with something like that (or enough in general).
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I might be able to access a psychologist as a gender clinic at the tertiary care hospital (I've my usual gender stuff ongoing too) but I gotta see how I can get referred, and IF they'll let me see a T when I have my T. But my boss might not allow it since the agreement was about seeing my T, not a second T. Don't want to go back to the LGBTQ affirming organisation where I saw LGBTQ T because it's private and costly. More costly than T. And after 3 sessions they said come back when you next feel you want to, because I wasn't in crisis then. I'll have to see if the sexual assault organisation will offer me counselling and what the fee is for my income level (it's pegged to income). Edit: OK.if my case is considered sexual assault (it is according to their website), I get three free 1 hour sessions if they think I need it. After that there's a sliding scale with a minimum and max fee pegged to my income. End edit. I'm not in crisis but stressed as hell at work but afraid to quit because I know it'll be really hard for me to find another full time job even at a lower pay due to the mental health thing. I can't lie (and could be fired if I did lie and was discovered) because I still need time off work during the work day to see T. According to T, I compartmentalise "too well". I'll see though. I've just been on numb robot mode. Working, trying to avoid my family and pretending everything is fine since my parents and siblings will literally victim blame me if I told them. |
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Lemoncake, you're such a kind and caring person I didn't want to rant on PC but I sometimes read threads and think of the couch.
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Location: CA
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#534
Good Morning everybody!!!! I'm trying to start a new fiscal year at work, and the computer is taking forever to do it's thing. What a start to the day. I forced myself to socialize last night instead of going home and sleeping. And I stayed up about an hour later than I have been. I'm going to try this "force myself to do stuff even if I don't want to" and see if it changes anything depression wise. I mean, it can't hurt. So maybe it will help. HUGS to anyone who wants one. Kit
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Young Butterfly
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#535
Hi couch,
I know that I don’t post anymore. But I need help thinking through things with t. I have been with him for 7 or 8 years now. I am down to either every two weeks or once a month. In general I am doing well, anxiety has crept back up, but other than that I have been pretty stable. T and I have a great relationship. The one downfall is his being late issues. Which I mostly have gotten over, but more than that he is really just too busy. His practice has two locations that he sees clients at, he teaches at a local college, he is on staff at a local institution for mentally handicapped. He also has to hold spots open for psychological assessments for police officers, parental assessments for cps. He is also one of the bosses in the practice he works at. So it’s a lot. Because of those things he has rather limited scheduling, and I think has to ask to push appointments later or earlier or cancel altogether because of emergencies, or issues with his other jobs. That is where the problem is.. I need consistency, I need a t that I know will be there and 98% of the time I know he is sitting in his office seeing clients. Not running around town from one job to another. I understand it is personal preference for him, it’s what he wants to do with his professional life. However, I am starting to feel like I need something different. Which really guts me because the relationship is good. I like him, he is a good therapist. It’s just he is not super reliable. Would you get rid of a therapist because is this? I n or this is highly subjective but I need to her different perspectives. __________________ "You decide every moment of every day who you are and what you believe in. You get a second chance, every second." "You fail to recognize that it matters not what someone is born, but what they grow to be!" - J.K. Rowling. Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire. |
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#536
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Sexual assault will still always be assault regardless of its classification, and it is never your fault. I hope you are given the sessions you need. When do they let you know? Can you reach out to another charity too? Rather than quitting, would it be possible to reduce your work hours and still apply for new positions? __________________ |
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Rant away. Maybe perhaps make your own thread too? Posting always helped me to be honest and I'm always around if you want to talk privately too- even if it was just about tea and cats I wouldn't mind. __________________ |
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Personally I think he does have a very large work load, but that's all down to him taking on all of that. I wouldn't be happy with not being able to get a slot and I can imagine for some clients him canceling relatively late can be triggering. It really would have been for me. Can you look around? But I don't think you have to let him go completely- you could put him on the back burner and see new T more regularly. __________________ |
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I hope your depression eases up soon, but go easy on yourself- you're doing your best and it's okay if stuff takes longer to get done. __________________ |
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How is the pain now? __________________ |
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