[Lrad123]

Maybe it’s a psychodynamic/psychoanalytic thing, but I’ve been seeing my T for 17 months and he never says my name. Or maybe it’s because there are only 2 of us in the room and there’s no real need to say each other’s names, but it’s a little odd that he never says it, isn’t it? Do you think it’s psychoanalytic thing to avoid saying it? Does your T says your name? I think it might be nice to occasionally hear it.

[RaineD]

My T was pychodynamically oriented, and he said my name all the time.

Even after he died, I heard him say my name once.

[DP_2017]

Not often but on occasion, usually if he was joking with me and referring to me in that sense.

Sometimes in texts, always in emails... but rarely in person, we had nicknames for each other and if we called each other anything, it was usually that

[piggy momma]

If my T uses my name in text, I know that generally, he is not happy with me (The last two times he used my name in text he said "XX we've talked about this already"). He always uses it in email; he starts with "Hi XX". Rarely in person. He doesn't even call my name when he does attendance in class. I'll always say when he's done "XX is here too" and he says "I don't call it because I know you".

[WarmFuzzySocks]

Rarely, because we are the only two in the room, but sometimes in the course of conversation, like "I wonder, (Name), whether blah blah blah..." I tend to do the same, use her name rarely/occasionally in that same way as we're talking.

I'd say that it occurs about as often as it does in regular ongoing conversations with people outside therapy.

[healed84]

Yes he does say my name.. usually when trying to drive a point home or we are having more of a serious conversation.

[velcro003]

yeah, usually when i am too silent or seem upset, she will ask me what is going on.

[stopdog]

The woman used it all the time. I think it was to remind her who I was because I was pretty clear on who was who. With only two people in the room, I could usually figure out to whom she was speaking.

[BudFox]

Most of the therapists I saw rarely said my name. It's manipulative and possibly a means for establishing hierarchy. Just another way therapist behavior tends toward sociopathy in my opinion.

[LonesomeTonight]

Mine often says my name. Sometimes, reacting to something I say, like, "Goodness, LT." Other times talking about me using my filter on what others same to me, the "LT filter." And he's referred to "Little LT" before. (I mean, of course, all of this is with my first name, not LT!)

[zoiecat]

My T will usually only say my name if he thinks I am dissociating or he uses my full name when referring to my DID collective.

[blackocean]

Yes either to address me or ask what I would say to he younger version of me.

[Elio]

Rarely. One time she used it to bring me back to the room. I think it's more that we are the only 2 people in the room. I rarely use her's - pretty much only use it when I talk about her based on how I have split her - Dr. S, First Name, and Mommy.

[Rive1976]

If shes irritated

[sub-dural]

Originally Posted by BudFox

Most of the therapists I saw rarely said my name. It's manipulative and possibly a means for establishing hierarchy. Just another way therapist behavior tends toward sociopathy in my opinion.

Agreed.

Must be some kind of boundary violation to give validation to you as a fellow human, y'know, with a name.

[goatee]

Mine rarely does. Only did once that I can remember, and that was when she was angry at me. It gave me chills.

[starfishing]

Only in emails and voicemails. I think that's been true of just about every therapist I've ever seen though, just by virtue of there only being two people in the conversation.

[susannahsays]

Yes, she says it pretty frequently. Probably at least 3x per session. Once to confirm I am me, at least once while we're talking, and once when she says goodbye. Oh, and she is psychodynamic, so I don't think it's about modality.

[Amyjay]

I think it's a personal thing rather than a therapist thing. Some people in daily life like to address people by name, even if you are the only two people there, and some people don't. I bet the therapists who use people's names IN therapy are also name callers in every day life.
My T says the body name all the time. We have asked her not to but she can't seem to help herself.

[circlesincircles]

Yes, probably once a session on average. It always calls my attention to whatever she says next. I agree that it's a personal, rather than a therapy modality thing.

[captgut]

No... I wish he did

[ScarletPimpernel]

Rarely, but I'm guessing it's because we're the only two people. I rarely use her name too. Now when she calls me, it's always "Hi T." "Hi Scarlet". And in emails we always address it by our names.

[MRT6211]

Yes, all of my Ts have. One time it’s always used is if I dissociate in session, that’s one way to help me get back. That hasn’t happened in awhile, though. Last T and current T both use it when they really need to emphasize something to me or catch my attention.

[ChickenNoodleSoup]

Yes, at least a couple of times each session.

[LostOnTheTrail]

R seems to use my name when intending to draw my attention back to something I've just said, or when she wants to reassure me about something.