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#21
I wrote a really detailed email to my T about it all. I’m so nervous waiting to hear back now.
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#22
I hope she responds in a helpful way.
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#23
Glad you shared your feelings in detail with your T. I also hope she responds well.
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#24
She didn’t really respond, so I wrote again, fully detailing my feelings even more. I’m so nervous now that I’ve sent it. Maybe I should’ve just left it alone and not rocked the boat. I’m really scared now.
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#25
Many T's won't respond in great details through email as to try to keep things in the office and to help keep boundaries. I hope you are able to discuss the issue further at your next session.
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#26
She is okay with my sending emails and emailing generally. She knows how much it helps me. I’m just worried she won’t be happy with the content of this email, with the feelings I shared.
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#27
I don't think her non reply indicates that she is upset or anything, but probably that there is a lot to respond to, too much for email. Can you wait until session to bring it up and discuss?
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#28
Thanks, Anne. Yes, I’m trying to hold on until I see her. At first when I sent the email, I felt a huge relief just to have confessed everything to her and gotten it off my chest. But now of course I’m filled with regret and fears.
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#29
I know it’s always difficult to tell a T how these changes effect you but I think it is a very important part of the process. Let us know how it goes.
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#30
That feeing of waiting for a return email is nerve-wracking. I hope she responds , or that your session is soon. It does sound like you opened up and told her true feelings, and that is good.
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#31
You sound, to me, more angry than depressed, or disappointed, or sad. Maybe you should work on the anger part of this with your T.
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#32
I don’t know how you could tell this from what I’ve written- I went back and reread it and don’t see it in there. But I do think you might be right. Exactly that has been dawning on me. That I’m angry. I’m not more angry than sad or disappointed or depressed. I’d say that I’m a lot more sad than angry. But I’ve never been angry before. I don’t even know how to feel angry or recognize it. So feeling it at all, even a drop of it, is completely shocking.
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#34
Actually it does matter what the boundary change is. The most common change people distress about is when the therapist decides to limit outside contact via e-mail, phone, or texting. No doubt that's what most of the posters assumed--not to say they would have changed their advice. But if the behavior was outside the bounds of what is considered normal or even ethical for a therapist, then the boundary change assumes different proportions. Also, that blocking an entire topic would have graver implications for the health of the relationship than a communications change seems obvious to me, no matter how much the client felt he needed the emails, etc.
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#35
I don’t want to say what it is because it is something very identifying and specific. But it was most definitely not anything unethical on my T’s part.
Unfortunately, I’m still having a lot of trouble with this issue right now. Feeling very down about it. |
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#36
Thanks for this, Anne. I am completely terrified of feeling anger. This is a really helpful thought for me to keep in mind.
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#37
I'm sorry you're feeling so down, but I'm definitely glad it's not an ethical question. I don't know that that would be solvable. I think, as the others have said, talking about it as much as you need to and time itself are the best you can do for now.
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