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Anyones therapist give them a transitional object? A couple of months back, when I was getting triggered continuously and that suicidal part kept rearing its ugly head, he gave me a silicone glow in the dark bracelet that had earth-wind-water-fire on it. It really spoke to that desperate, wounded child part and it did help me between sessions.
Anyway I lost it. It pulled off with my jacket. I thought I would not be as effected as I am about it. I am kind of ashamed that it is upsetting me this much that I lost it. I was in a crappy state on Monday and the session was geared around him harping on my issue being my inner critic. I even got annoyed with him and told him his observation was wrong. I should have told him my issue was my inner child was crying and causing me issues for the day be we lost the damn bracelet. We should have discussed that and its meaning behind my feelings towards that object. I emailed him that night and told him I knew what was wrong and did not tell him and that losing the bracelet effected me more than I thought it would. He replied this morning..."I got you covered." Which I think he means he has another bracelet to give me. I hope he is not missing the point. __________________ When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
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Yes, one T gave me a stuffed dog that I even kept years after I stopped working with her and discovered she was doing more harm than good... my dog ate the stuffed dog and Zi was a total mess.
Current T has not offered but I made my own which he seemed pleased about. Hoping T has another for you! __________________ There’s been many a crooked path that has landed me here Tired, broken and wearing rags Wild eyed with fear -Blackmoores Night |
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I have a mini lego figure that looks like my T if he was made of lego.
I take it everywhere with me and it's because I feel safer with it and holding it really does help. I have panicked a few times when I couldn't find it. I hope he gives you something else. __________________ |
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I have a transitional object. I’m surprised how helpful I have found it.
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I have a rock and stuffed animal. They help me so much especially now that T is on her leave. I cherish them with all my heart!
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It does sound like he's going to give you another transitional object. I'm glad you emailed him and let him know what was really up.
I don't have anything from the therapist. I am very attached to my sister, though. She gave C a keychain a really long time ago with C's name on it. If I ever lost that keychain, I would be really upset. The only other thing I have that she's given me is a PS4, and that's not very portable! I guess the keychain is sort of like a transitional object for me. __________________ Life is hard. Then you die. Then they throw dirt in your face. -David Gerrold |
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I had a letter from former T that she sent me before she went on a long trip out of country. I held onto that for a long time.
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Mine has given me a lot. When she moved, I adopted her dog and cat.
She has also bought several stuffies for inside kids ( I have DID) and toys , plus we have a of pictures of us together, also some videos such as when I went to visit her, we have done things like go clothes shopping together and gotten matching items, and we send each other Christmas presents. So I have a lot of things to comfort from her. She is really nice and has several things I have given her hanging up in her house. She says that way she thinks of me every day. |
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I have a piece of paper with some statements we came up with, a card on which she wrote reminders, and another card where I wrote statements we came up with together.
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I have a few handwritten things from him. I don’t think that he intended them to be transitional objects, but I see them that way.
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Yes . A small stuffed animal moose . Among other small items and letters
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I have a small stone that was in a sand tray in his office. I left a small shell I found at the beach in the tray. It's oddly comforting seeing the shell there when I go in, like a little piece of me stays in his office. It's nice to have the stone, too (I had a different one earlier but gave it back due to a conflict over it, but I'd rather not dwell on that now...)
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I have several puzzles in her office. It used to only be 2, one on a shelf and one under her couch. The one under her couch felt like it was me under there and that I was there - a part of me was always there in that space, in the safety of that space, with her. At one point, I started taking pieces of that puzzle with some statement she'd written on it with me. With the move to the new office, things are a mess around the puzzle and I don't know what I'm going to do. Currently we've packed up the puzzles into a neat stack and they have all moved up to the new office. I'm still meeting her in the old office. I know the puzzle isn't there, I'm not there any more. That's kind of a problem for me. In the new office, the new couch is further off the ground. People will be able to see the puzzle - see me and I don't like that, it's not safe.
Ok, I have issues . Anyway, having something stay in her office has seemed more valuable than me taking something with me. I have used many things though as connection items over the years. Her business card, emails, voicemail, letters, things I find that remind me of her. Very few of them seem to stand up over time, they seem to fade for some reason. The puzzle was unique and that I could replace the piece I took with me with a new one, new statement, had some renewing effect. |
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I saw him today and he did not offer another bracelet.....
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Did you (or would you) as what the "I got you covered" meant then?
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I think he just forgot and I wont ask or remind him either but he said such a kind amazing thing to me today. He said to please call him if I feel I need to connect and I do not have to be in a crisis to call him. My husband is going into surgery Monday and I our schedules were not cohesive to have a session next week.
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OMG I found it!! I found it at the salon where I work on the weekends! It was in the draw where I keep my watch and phone. Why what an amazing silly childish feeling I felt when I found it.
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Yay, so glad you found it! I thought I had lost the stone before, so understand the feeling of losing then finding such an item. |
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I am glad you found it. I have an object that I found on one of my walks that I turned into a security item. One time I lost it and I spent hours and hours searching for it. I eventually found then sort of lost it again. Then I put it on a chain that I wear around my neck almost every day.
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