Anyone think of what to wear?

Mountaindewed · May 07, 2019 at 08:47 PM

Does anyone think more then necessary of what they should wear to a therapy or doctor appointment? I’ve always been like this. I thought it was called dressing to impress. I’m just careful about what I wear depending on the person. I bought this new shirt today that has a picture of this girl summoning the spirt Bloody Mary. I’m sure the people at the office wouldn’t be thrilled to see that shirt especially since my therapist doesn’t know me. I also like looking as slim as possible at my appointments.

Does anyone else get like this?

Jersey 4 · May 07, 2019 at 09:04 PM

Why would the people at the therapist office give a hoot?

Wonderfalls · May 07, 2019 at 09:23 PM

When I was working I always saw my therapist after lunch so I was wearing a suit with jewelry, make up and heels. When I left work I reverted to blue jeans with a shirt or plain t-shirt. Also put on weight. I always wondered if the change affected how he saw me, but never asked. With this therapist it's always jeans and a shirt.. I figure she's lucky I take a shower.

piggy momma · May 07, 2019 at 09:33 PM

I’m pretty predictable.

I wear a uniform to work, and outside of that I’m in black leggings and a pig t-shirt. That’s as fancy as I get

WarmFuzzySocks · May 07, 2019 at 09:35 PM

I’ve noticed that I tend to choose clothing I like, that colors that make me feel good. Also that I tend to choose outfits that make me feel put together, which is partly in response to my tendency to fall apart and also because of my need to feel that I “match competence” with my therapist.

ChickenNoodleSoup · May 08, 2019 at 01:14 AM

I try to wear comfortable cloths if possible. Sweatpants, wide shirt, always the same socks.

Lemoncake · May 08, 2019 at 04:19 AM

I sometimes see R online when I'm not in London, some sessions I've done whilst still in pyjamas.

If it's after class I might be semi formal with make up. Other times just T-shirts and jeans.

Jersey 4 · May 08, 2019 at 04:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Jersey 4

Why would the people at the therapist office give a hoot?

I didn’t want this to come off as rude. I was quite curious why the people in the therapist office would care about the shirt.

CartDown · May 08, 2019 at 04:33 AM

I'm a long sleeve shirts under short sleeve shirts and jeans type of chick. I usually don't wear make up, but I do if I'm dealing with too much stress and I'm breaking out. I rather look like a clown than a crackhead, you know what I'm saying?

nottrustin · May 08, 2019 at 05:48 AM

I almost always go directly from work so I wear my work attire. Dress pants/skirt/ with a blouse or dresses. If not coming from work I wear jean's and a blouse. I never wear t shirts or sweatpants in outside my house.

nicoleflynn · May 08, 2019 at 06:01 AM

I always dress up in a dress; I have always loved beautiful clothes.

Mountaindewed · May 08, 2019 at 06:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Jersey 4

Why would the people at the therapist office give a hoot?

No you weren’t being rude. I had a therapist a few years ago who cared a lot what I wore. If I wore a shirt with a cartoon character on it she would say I was being childish. Even though it was in an adult size. If I had dressed nicely that day then the receptionist would gossip to her before my session and as soon as I’d walk in the therapist would say “the receptionist said your dressed nicely today.” One time I wore a skeleton hoodie and the therapist sarcastically said “dressed for Halloween again huh Mountaindewed?”

This is my first time meeting with this therapist so I don’t know what she’s like. I think I’m just going to wear a hoodie and jeans. What I usually wear when I’m working that day.

Jersey 4 · May 08, 2019 at 07:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Mountaindewed

No you weren’t being rude. I had a therapist a few years ago who cared a lot what I wore. If I wore a shirt with a cartoon character on it she would say I was being childish. Even though it was in an adult size. If I had dressed nicely that day then the receptionist would gossip to her before my session and as soon as I’d walk in the therapist would say “the receptionist said your dressed nicely today.” One time I wore a skeleton hoodie and the therapist sarcastically said “dressed for Halloween again huh Mountaindewed?”

This is my first time meeting with this therapist so I don’t know what she’s like. I think I’m just going to wear a hoodie and jeans. What I usually wear when I’m working that day.

It will be okay. Not all comment on clothes. If they make a comment about your clothes you can just tell them to shut their trap. That’s what I would do but that’s just me.

Salmon77 · May 08, 2019 at 11:50 AM

Mine never comments on my clothes unless I bring them up for some reason. I generally just wear whatever makes sense for that day (work clothes if it's a work day, casual clothes otherwise). The one thing I think about, I guess, is I try not to look like I'm being sexy on purpose (low neckline or short skirt) because I don't want my T to think I'm being seductive or something.

SlumberKitty · May 08, 2019 at 12:02 PM

I usually am in jeans or khakis and a sweater or a shirt. I sometimes wear sneakers, sometimes I wear loafers. My T's have only ever commented on my shoes, or a scarf or something like that. Once when I was going for an interview after T, my T said that I looked very nice and professional. That was the only time she commented on my outfit out of 10 years of seeing her.

Xynesthesia2 · May 08, 2019 at 12:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Mountaindewed

I had a therapist a few years ago who cared a lot what I wore. If I wore a shirt with a cartoon character on it she would say I was being childish. Even though it was in an adult size. If I had dressed nicely that day then the receptionist would gossip to her before my session and as soon as I’d walk in the therapist would say “the receptionist said your dressed nicely today.” One time I wore a skeleton hoodie and the therapist sarcastically said “dressed for Halloween again huh Mountaindewed?”

All this sounds quite immature to me. Was it a young therapist / office staff? I doubt that most Ts / offices would make direct and recurring comments like that. I think many people tend to form judgments based on someone's clothing but rarely voice it critically unless it is in some kind of fashion-related industry or, again, very young populations. I personally would just tell them directly that I am not interested in superficial comments on my style and please keep it to themselves.

nottrustin · May 08, 2019 at 12:16 PM

Both my Ts on occassion have commented on liking something I am wearing. The was is a skirt/blouse outfit that t complimented me on almost everytime I wore it. I wore it to her memorial service.

I know one of the visual indicators therapists/ psychiatrists use to assess how clients are doing is their appearance. That is always in the back of my mind when I am doing poorly.

SlumberKitty · May 08, 2019 at 12:18 PM

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Originally Posted by nottrustin

I know one of the visual indicators therapists/ psychiatrists use to assess how clients are doing is their appearance. That is always in the back of my mind when I am doing poorly.

I think of that too. Thanks for bringing it up.

Mountaindewed · May 08, 2019 at 12:38 PM

My old one was in her late 50’s. I don’t want my new therapist thinking I am doing poorly based on my appearance when I dress casually all the time even for work. I hope she’s not like that.

ArtleyWilkins · May 08, 2019 at 12:48 PM

I always just went in whatever I wore to work which varied from jeans to teacher clothes. He never made comment about clothing.

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Jersey 4 Poohbah Member Since Feb 2019 Location: NJ Posts: 1,354 5 1,298 hugs given	May 07, 2019 at 09:04 PM #2 Why would the people at the therapist office give a hoot?
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Wonderfalls Veteran Member Member Since Jul 2016 Location: Midwest Posts: 726 8 16 hugs given	May 07, 2019 at 09:23 PM #3 When I was working I always saw my therapist after lunch so I was wearing a suit with jewelry, make up and heels. When I left work I reverted to blue jeans with a shirt or plain t-shirt. Also put on weight. I always wondered if the change affected how he saw me, but never asked. With this therapist it's always jeans and a shirt.. I figure she's lucky I take a shower.
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piggy momma Poohbah Member Since Oct 2018 Location: Canada Posts: 1,073 6 70 hugs given	May 07, 2019 at 09:33 PM #4 I’m pretty predictable. I wear a uniform to work, and outside of that I’m in black leggings and a pig t-shirt. That’s as fancy as I get
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ChickenNoodleSoup Grand Poohbah Member Since Apr 2017 Location: In a land far far away Posts: 1,650 7 1,336 hugs given	May 08, 2019 at 01:14 AM #6 I try to wear comfortable cloths if possible. Sweatpants, wide shirt, always the same socks.
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Lemoncake Roses are falling. Member Since May 2017 Location: Seattle. Posts: 9,955 (SuperPoster!) 7 10.5k hugs given	May 08, 2019 at 04:19 AM #7 I sometimes see R online when I'm not in London, some sessions I've done whilst still in pyjamas. If it's after class I might be semi formal with make up. Other times just T-shirts and jeans. __________________
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CartDown Member Member Since Apr 2019 Location: United States Posts: 70 5 53 hugs given	May 08, 2019 at 04:33 AM #9 I'm a long sleeve shirts under short sleeve shirts and jeans type of chick. I usually don't wear make up, but I do if I'm dealing with too much stress and I'm breaking out. I rather look like a clown than a crackhead, you know what I'm saying?
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nottrustin Grand Magnate Member Since Jan 2014 Location: n/a Posts: 4,819 10 375 hugs given	May 08, 2019 at 05:48 AM #10 I almost always go directly from work so I wear my work attire. Dress pants/skirt/ with a blouse or dresses. If not coming from work I wear jean's and a blouse. I never wear t shirts or sweatpants in outside my house. __________________
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Mountaindewed Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jun 2016 Location: Where the sidewalk ends Posts: 38,802 (SuperPoster!) 8 9,764 hugs given	May 08, 2019 at 12:38 PM #19 My old one was in her late 50’s. I don’t want my new therapist thinking I am doing poorly based on my appearance when I dress casually all the time even for work. I hope she’s not like that. __________________ I'm Blue
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ArtleyWilkins Magnate Member Since Oct 2018 Location: USA Posts: 2,813 6 7 hugs given	May 08, 2019 at 12:48 PM #20 I always just went in whatever I wore to work which varied from jeans to teacher clothes. He never made comment about clothing.
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