Choosing who to go back to.

Victoria'smom · May 10, 2019, 06:23 PM

My husband wants me to see his T. His T can only see each client maybe every 3 weeks. Plus that's his T. He thinks I need to build a relationship with a T like my WV T. Through writing and him coming voicing his concerns every now and then. That feels icky. He wants me back on meds. I need a therapist I can see regularly that I'm not quiet with. That I don't feel like I'm going to get in trouble or locked away or force fed meds. Most therapists wont work with me off meds. Am I really that ****ed? My husband's T did say she'd work with me but IDK. Do I go to the clinic that can see me 1x/wk or stick with my clinic? The people are nice at my clinic. I was thinking about giving my ex-T another shot but I'm afraid of people and worry if I'm honest I'll be forced IP. I don't want to waste people's time especially when other people need those spots.

I'm going from I'm fine to I'm really unwell to the things my head is saying is true to WTF. Do you think going to therapy to talk about therapy being an option is an option? Would I have to say all the f'd up things that are going on in my head? wouldn't they just say it would because they're therapists? I have no one to talk to.

Rive1976 · May 11, 2019, 10:13 AM

I think you should go to whoever you feel heard from.

Dingeling8 · May 11, 2019, 02:35 PM

I wouldn´t share a therapist with my husband unless it was a marriage counselor.

Rive. · May 12, 2019, 12:28 PM

If you need therapy, go. You are not wasting a T's time. If they can't see you, they won't.

As for seeing your H's T, it doesn't seem what you want. You say you can only see them every 3 weeks when you need regular therapy, you won't be able to open up with them, will get in trouble and pressured to take meds. That seems off-putting more than anything.

I'd get a T that is all yours and with whom you are comfortable and feel safe.

speckofdust · May 12, 2019, 01:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Miguel'smom

My husband wants me to see his T. His T can only see each client maybe every 3 weeks. Plus that's his T. I personally would want my own T who doesn't know my significant other. He thinks I need to build a relationship with a T like my WV T. Through writing and him coming voicing his concerns every now and then. That feels icky. He wants me back on meds. I need a therapist I can see regularly that I'm not quiet with. That I don't feel like I'm going to get in trouble or locked away or force fed meds. Most therapists wont work with me off meds. Am I really that ****ed? You have important issues that you want to work on! My husband's T did say she'd work with me but IDK. Do I go to the clinic that can see me 1x/wk or stick with my clinic? The people are nice at my clinic. I was thinking about giving my ex-T another shot but I'm afraid of people and worry if I'm honest I'll be forced IP. I don't want to waste people's time especially when other people need those spots. You are important and worthwhile!

I'm going from I'm fine to I'm really unwell to the things my head is saying is true to WTF. Do you think going to therapy to talk about therapy being an option is an option? Absolutely! Therapy is the perfect place to talk about therapy! Would I have to say all the f'd up things that are going on in my head? With a T that is compatible with you, you say only what you're comfortable saying, when you're comfortable saying it. wouldn't they just say it would because they're therapists? Not if he or she feels capable and willing to help you. I have no one to talk to.

At your first appointment with the therapist, bring up all of your concerns and fears (as many as you want at first). It's your brain, your life, and your well being - do what you need and want to get the most out of your minutes in therapy!! You may have to shuck a few oysters to find the pearl. Good luck, and may you flourish!