Inequities in society and my own failure is highlighted when seeing a therapist

After I end a contact with a therapist or a counsellor I sometimes google them. We have access to registers that specifies whether a person is married, where they live, how long they have lived in that house/flat and so on, the income rates in that area and so forth.

More or less all of my former therapists, counsellors and similar staff live in expensive flats in the city center, several are married and those who aren´t married most often have kids from their previous relationships.

I know it´s often said that a T doesn´t need to have the same experience as a client with different issues but I still don´t feel any therapist will understand how I live. They may be able to help me anyway but I feel seeing a therapist (or other successful people) will always be a reminder of how I have failed in my own life.

At the same time I understand a T can´t have such a bad life as I have and be able to practise as a therapist. I just see all the inequities in society and between groups of people through the therapists I meet with.


I can never "catch up" in such a way that I´ll be able to buy an expensive flat where I want to live or finding someone to live with within a normal time span, not like 20 or 30 years after "everybody else".

What do you think and feel about this?