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Jul 16, 2019 at 06:34 PM
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Was he purposely being passive aggressive in that last line? He was “welcoming” you to remain silent and to suffer in silence. He should be encouraging the opposite. Maybe I’m just reading it wrong?
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Jul 16, 2019 at 06:36 PM
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I am very weirded out by the ending of his email. From what I can conclude is that he was somehow wounded by my original email to him and responded not from an adult place. __________________ When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
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Jul 16, 2019 at 06:43 PM
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I know you’re hurting right now, but he needs to be called out on this. That reply was NOT good enough. How can a mental health professional not understand an eating disorder for a year-and-a-half? You mentioned b/p cycles. That’s not the behavior of a non-eating disordered person. And honestly, I would flat out ask him, “are you actually giving me the green light to suffer in silence?”
Bottom line — you’re the patient - he’s the professional and should act like it. |
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Jul 16, 2019 at 06:45 PM
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__________________ When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
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Jul 16, 2019 at 06:48 PM
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Jul 16, 2019 at 07:00 PM
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Jul 16, 2019 at 06:49 PM
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I wouldn’t worry about being compassionate toward him - it’s not your responsibility to look out for his feelings. Professional - okay, but if it were me I wouldn’t spare him my dismay.
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