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Poohbah
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My t uses whatsapp and it's really helping me well she's on a break as I can see when she's last been online. I like it because I know she's out there even though she's a long way away.
I wouldn't be able to mention this at all. I feel really embarrassed about looking. I think I have this fear that if I told her she would be horrified and block me. Does anyone else do this? Does it seem kind of stalkerish? |
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#2
I do this with my T's Facebook profile. He knows I look him up when I feel the need for connection and, thankfully, he doesn't seem bothered by it.
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I don't think it's stalkerish. You are just checking her online status... and merely wanting to feel the connection in-between sessions. Which, to me, seems pretty harmless.
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I think it's very common and many people (not just those in therapy) do similar things.
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I recently installed whatsapp and noticed that my therapist was on my list of contacts. The next session I asked him to block me, not because I would be tempted to contact him on there, but to preempt him blocking me and getting my feelings hurt. He thought my request was really interesting and wanted to explore it further. I told him it was simple. I'd rather him reject me on my terms than on his. Like you, I would definitely check his online status if it was available to me. We once did a video call over Google Hangouts and I could see his online status for several weeks after and found it comforting. Then he blocked me and I felt really hurt. I understand why he did it, but it still hurt.
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I have once in a while checked my t face book page, i have never mentioned it to her. The clinic has very strong boundaries around face book with clients ect. I would be devasted if she had to terminate me because of this. I take comfort in looking sometimes hugs
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Nah, I don't really think it's stalkerish. She could change her privacy settings if she wanted to restrict that information or hide it completely. Or she could get a free Google voice number to give clients instead of her personal number.
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How does google voice work? I realized last week T uses it and am curious.
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