I normally watch "long lost families" sobbing along with the adoptees being reunited. I am in harmony with their feelings.

But this week there was one bloke who I couldn't relate too.
He was in his 30s, had good adoptive parents, but said he can't get over the feelings of rejection his felt all his life.

I understood his feelings but realised I'd never felt rejected by my birth mother.

I asked T today about this and said had I ever felt rejected by my birth mother in all my years in therapy? I didn't think I had but wanted to check just incase suppression.

T said, "no, I don't think that's been something youve ever focused on here"

I said, "I admit to feeling unwanted by my adoptive mother, but never felt it around my birth mother. I knew she was an addict so never took that personally. But the damage done by my adoptive mother had been what plagued me.

T said, yes, I think that's true.

I just found it striking that I didn't feel for the 1st time the same as an another adoptee

[katydid777]

I read your post, I am a adopter, meaning I gave up a child. I put a thread in relationships about this, this evening. If you are ok with reading it, I would be glad for any input you may have as long as it doesn't bother you. I also sent you a friend request if that is ok?

Hi. I've read your post. I don't feel I have anything to add.

Ps. You're a birth mother. Not an adopter.