[Folding]

Has anyone ever met with a different therapist to get an unbiased opinion on a rupture with your current therapist? Is this even a thing that therapists are willing to do? If so, how do you choose the therapist? Would you consider using a therapist that you worked with in the past or would it be best to pick someone completely new?

[winter4me]

I did that once, no twice.
Once, both the therapist and I spoke to the third party (separately) and that person sent a letter assessing the situation to my therapist.
Another time, I phoned the psychiatrist who prescribed for me at the time and asked if he would be willing to let me run a problem I was having with a situation in therapy and he agreed.
There are therapists who do this kind of thing. I would consider using someone I had worked with if I thought they would be helpful.

[LonesomeTonight]

I have. I met with a completely new-to-me therapist. Therapists are often willing to consult--I think it's good to be up front and say you're currently in therapy and want to consult about something going on in your therapy. And see if they feel comfortable with that. That could also lead them to not do a full intake session--the one I saw just had some basic questions, then we focused on what was going on with my therapist the rest of the time. It was helpful to give me perspective and validation. In fact, I may need to do that again soon, but with someone different.

[JustExisting]

Yes! I used betterhelp.com. It was tremendously helpful to get my head screwed on straight again. The counsellor I spoke to didn't mind exploring the issue with me at all and she really helped me think objectively about it. I was ready to ghost T, but it turned out my perceptions were all skewed!

[Elio]

I too used betterhelp.com for a rupture. I also used a consult with another T about a topic that I felt would cause problems with my current T if I talked to her about it. She knew of me see the consult T. She does not know of the betterhelp.com

[Folding]

I liked the idea of using betterhelp.com but ouch, I can't afford their cost! It's not terribly high if I needed on-going sessions but I really only need one.

[Xynesthesia2]

I am usually reluctant to suggest that people seek a new T to work on issues with previous therapy/T because it can easily turn into an endless chain where the client's real issues easily get lost and "therapy about therapy" will dominate ... But a single consultation (or two) may be a good idea probably. I would just keep in mind that a new person might not be able to see the whole picture and their perceptions will be very limited to what you share within a short time frame - so it may not be truly unbiased. In any case, there have been a few cases shared on this forum where clients had great success with this, so it can work, I guess especially if either the consulting T is able to link the rupture problems with the client's larger patterns as a form of feedback or the validation provided is truly thoughtful and tailored, not just some generic superficial support.