[granite1]

would you want to be your therapists only client ? just wondering if so why and if not why. i am my T only client she says she will see me as long as i need

[ArtleyWilkins]

I know my second therapist had very few clients because of other professional obligations. It didn’t make any particular difference to me. I was simply thankful he continued to work with me in that capacity.

I am her only client...sort of. the only one she talks to regularly. She mostly just consults with other therapists these days. she has a couple others she might talk to a couple times a year. I am grateful that she still talks with me.

[atisketatasket]

It wouldn't bother me if the therapist was pretty far along in her career and slowly easing into retirement (like I think yours is) and I'd been with them a while. If it were a therapist I didn't know well and whom I'd expect to have more clients, someone earlier in their career, I'd apply the restaurant rule--often when no one's eating in a restaurant, it isn't that good.

[stopdog]

It wouldn't matter to me - the woman was half retired when I first hired her -she already did not have many clients.

[unaluna]

Shes the real thing, granite. Shes like the rgb of ts. Prolly went to school with rgb!

[mugwort2]

I don't mind if my therapist sees other clients. I believe in an open therapeutic relationship. She's perfectly fee to see other clients.

In phantasy yes, In reality, no!

[Lonelyinmyheart]

I was going to say exactly the same as Mouse. In a fantasy world yes absolutely I want to be the only one. In fact I would go further and want to be the ONLY person in her entire life - no family, no friends, no work, - just her complete attention on me, always. But obviously in reality I wouldn't want that. Who would want that kind of pressure? I wouldn't want to be T's main source of income or feel if I left she would no longer be working as a t. I would also want to know she was experienced and helping a range of issues not just mine. So I really wouldn't want to be the only one. But the child - hell yeah!

[ArtleyWilkins]

I believe in this case, the therapist is highly experienced and has been working toward retirement for several years and is now down to one client. She’s a keeper, Granite. I’m glad she’s maintaining her work with you.

[zoiecat]

No, it would creep me out and make me feel guilty but I feel guilty aboit everything. I'm sure it would be great for others.

[SlumberKitty]

No, not ideally. I think when T's have several clients they gain other perspectives and gain experience that they can then use to help me.

[granite1]

i know for me so far it isnt a big thing .she does take the time off she wants and so i dont feel guilty. i can also call her any time if i need to.

[susannahsays]

I don't think I would like it. I would be worried it would just be too much of a hassle in the end for the therapist to just see me. She would have to maintain her licensing, and that would mean she'd have to keep doing trainings and stuff to get CEUs so she'd be eligible for renewal. And then there's arranging for space and somewhere to see me. So I'd probably just be waiting around for her to say she was done. I don't know if that's realistic or if I'm being paranoid.

Of course, I'm projecting my own values into this answer. The extra effort of maintaining a license, contracting for office space that will hardly ever be needed, and all that, all for just one client would not appeal to me because I am essentially lazy.

[Jessica Hazlitt]

To me the "will see me as long as i need" sounds like the sort of promise a T shouldn't make.

With my current t I would be fine with it, as 1) I'm learning to know that she can take care of herself and 2) she works out of her home so no office space issues, is almost 70 and has been a t for a long time. I guess our long-standing relationship figures in there too. I think if it were a young, inexperienced t that I hadn't seen very long, I would feel differently.

[Omers]

I am not T’s only client. He tries very hard not to be seen with another client (which is currently funny because the client beforeme perpetually goes over then uses the restroom leaving T trying to figure out how to come get me). While there could be a lot of side benefits to being his only client (more availability, more flexibility, more consistency) I wouldn’t want to be. The only way I think I would be OK with it was if he was retiring but wanted to allow me to finish my work with him rather than refer me out if we were close to the end of therapy.

[sophiebunny]

I play a game with myself. I imagine I am their only client even though I know they've probably had thousands of patients and clients between them. I fantasize being the only one so I don't get into the trap of believing I'm not important enough to take up their time...someone else probably needs them more.

[Spirit of Trees]

I wouldn't be comfortable with being my T's only client. I'm not exactly made of money. Sometimes there's a sort of 'safe distance' that I feel when I know that other clients see her. It means her focus isn't solely on me, work-wise. I don't want to be special to her, and I don't want to be special to any T either.