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Legendary Wise Elder
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#421
I go back to teaching next month (a religious class). We only had the month of August off. I'm like, it's not long enough. But I can tell my personal study has slacked off so maybe it's good we only had a month off. But my evenings are about to be busy.
Edit: At least I don't have to grade. Edit #2: Time to get out my new Latin/English version! Yeah! __________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA |
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Legendary Wise Elder
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#422
My Dad is like an hour from his destination in AZ. That sucks though because he left the house at like 7 this morning, so either when he got to his sister's because they are going together, either they didn't leave on time, or they had bad traffic. He should have been there already. He's done really well at keeping me informed on where he was during the day. It really helped my anxiety. I'm in charge of the two kitty cats for the next four days though. Dad usually does the night feeds while I do the morning feeds. It's a good system. The kitties are going to be eating a little later today because he usually feeds them at four and I don't get off work until four thirty.
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Legendary Wise Elder
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#423
Sorry everyone, I'm chatty at the moment guys. I've been cooped up in my office too long. I'm tempted to go to the front office to just see what's up, but I don't really have a reason to so then it's awkward just standing there at the copier or whatever. I ordered two new coins for my coin collection today. I really haven't bought any this year so I thought it was time to treat myself. I told myself I could spend $100 and I ended up spending $68 so yeah! Now I can't wait to get them.
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Always in This Twilight
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#424
You'd think I would learn not to email my T, but no, I haven't. Emailed him tonight looking for support, and his reply left me feeling worse about myself.
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Always in This Twilight
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#425
Should a T tell me that it's right to feel ashamed about something that happened? Doesn't that just reinforce my self-loathing?
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Member
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#426
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Poohbah
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#427
LT-need more context...was he telling you that it’s okay to feel ashamed (as in validation) or did he tell you outright to feel ashamed about whatever you emailed about?
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Child of a lesser god
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#428
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And there is a difference between feeling shame because, say, you made a mistake vs. self-loathing. Shame can be a useful learning tool in the former case. One’s about behavior and one’s about identity. Of course, a therapist should make that clear. __________________ Ich weiß nicht, was soll es bedeuten. Daß ich so traurig bin. “I do not know what this can mean. I am so very sad.” —Heinrich Heine |
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Poohbah
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#429
That does it! @@ needs to quit being a professor and become a therapist.
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Elder Harridan x-hankster
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#430
It seems to me you took responsibility for what happened. You had a plan, then the weather happened and altered your plans. But you still behaved responsibly. Unless you made a scene and went viral... (checking youtube)
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Elder Harridan x-hankster
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#431
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Child of a lesser god
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#432
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The profession will just have to muddle along without me. People can understand my answers. __________________ Ich weiß nicht, was soll es bedeuten. Daß ich so traurig bin. “I do not know what this can mean. I am so very sad.” —Heinrich Heine |
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Elder Harridan x-hankster
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#433
The Therapist's New Clothes
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Elder Harridan x-hankster
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#434
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Poohbah
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#435
Im catching up on the couch from yesterday. I’m getting around to the poop talk. My pipes are clean. Had lots of fiber. Sorry I didn’t take pictures.
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Child of a lesser god
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#436
Only una wants pctures.
LT, if you want feedback about Dr. T, maybe put it on your thread or PM sympathetic ears? I’m around. __________________ Ich weiß nicht, was soll es bedeuten. Daß ich so traurig bin. “I do not know what this can mean. I am so very sad.” —Heinrich Heine |
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#437
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Is this a case of validating your feelings ("I can see you feel ashamed about that.") or endorsing your feelings ("You are right to feel ashamed about that"). I approve of validating but endorsing is dangerous, to say the least. But suppose T says, "I can understand why you feel like that." It might be given as validation but received as endorsement. P.S. I think there may be a difference between shame and self-loathing. If T can teach you to accept shame without turning it into self-loathing, they will count that as a win. __________________ Mr Ambassador, alias Ancient Plax, alias Captain Therapy, alias Big Poppa, alias Secret Spy, etc. Add that to your tattoo, Baby! |
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Big Poppa
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#438
I don't understand how this relates to shame or self-loathing.
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Elder Harridan x-hankster
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#439
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Gee do i have to explain everything around here? Shame and guilt are related. But if you take responsibility for whatever action, no need for shame or guilt or self-loathing? Eta - t cant forgive her or make her feel better. And besides, she took responsibility. |
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#440
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I mean that's the theory, I've never been there. Hugs LT |
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