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Jersey 4 · Aug 29, 2019 at 03:35 PM

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Originally Posted by susannahsays

Can't he say he's a father anyway?

Is this the person who decided after the baby was born that he wasn't ready to be a dad, or am I thinking of someone else?

That’s the one...

unaluna · Aug 29, 2019 at 03:40 PM

Wonder how LT is surviving the vacation week. We're thinking of you, girl!

atisketatasket · Aug 29, 2019 at 03:47 PM

Get a private detective to record him partying and then tell him if he fights custody you’ve got pictures.

I bet he’ll use the baby to attract women.

Jersey 4 · Aug 29, 2019 at 03:52 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Get a private detective to record him partying and then tell him if he fights custody you’ve got pictures.

I bet he’ll use the baby to attract women.

I should tell her to ask if we can legally do that to use against him.

The thing is that if he don’t seem like an outright unfit father-he is technically “entitled” to half custody. He’s employed, he never raised a hand to my sister or the baby. He doesn’t use drugs. He drinks when he’s out. So there is no reason why a judge wouldn’t give him 1/2 custody. He better watch driving home from
Partying. I know a lot of people. He may just end up with a DUI one of these times.

SlumberKitty · Aug 29, 2019 at 03:57 PM

I was laying on the floor at work, which is really quite dirty by the way, in my office even though we have a janitor, because my back hurts. Stupid princess period decided to come today. And another girl at work was looking for me so I was like, hold on I'm in my office. So she came in as I got off the floor. We got to talking and it seems her princess also showed up today. She is much more irritable than me so she was complaining about a third coworker to me while I complained about my back. I'm getting too old for this crap.

NP_Complete · Aug 29, 2019 at 03:59 PM

My therapist emailed me to check in this morning since he's on vacation and we're not meeting until after Labor Day. He offered a call tomorrow and on Sunday and then made the mistake of saying he hoped I was ok. I responded that I was not really ok, because I'm not, using one of my many analogies/metaphors (I still don't know what the difference is between those two) for what I'm feeling, so then he said he was worried and could we talk today. I told him I needed a 5-minute warning because I'm at work and he said he'd be in touch later today. So now I've been constantly glancing for 4 hours at my gmail tab to see if he's emailed me yet. I'm feeling stressed at the moment. He said it wasn't an imposition to talk today vs. tomorrow, but it's feeling like it is one. I should probably try to relax a little bit.

unaluna · Aug 29, 2019 at 03:59 PM

Can she record him at home, like with a nanny-cam? If he doesnt do anything for the baby now, how can he demand that?

Jersey 4 · Aug 29, 2019 at 04:02 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Can she record him at home, like with a nanny-cam? If he doesnt do anything for the baby now, how can he demand that?

She can do that. I should tell her. That’s definitely not against the law. All nanny families record me. As long as there are no cameras in the bathroom she can get a hidden camera.

stopdog · Aug 29, 2019 at 04:03 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

You know it’s been a stressful first week of classes when a dentist appointment is a chance to relax.

Yes. I can't yet remember what day it is and when I teach - I have panicked a couple of times thinking I missed a class I was supposed to be at (I have not missed one).

atisketatasket · Aug 29, 2019 at 04:04 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Can she record him at home, like with a nanny-cam? If he doesnt do anything for the baby now, how can he demand that?

I JUST got back on to suggest that.

Or, my other suggestion, Una gets some of her relations to ah, mediate. If you know what I mean.

stopdog · Aug 29, 2019 at 04:05 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Can she record him at home, like with a nanny-cam? If he doesnt do anything for the baby now, how can he demand that?

She should talk to her lawyer and not take legal advice from strangers on the internet or pissed off relatives.

For what it is worth - this is the arc most domestic cases go through in my experience where both parties say stuff in the beginning and then change as time goes on.

ScarletPimpernel · Aug 29, 2019 at 04:07 PM

My sister's boyfriend drinks and parties. He also drives drunk and has gotten a DUI. On top of that, he has physically abused her. But he is a good father, so the courts gave both him and my sister the same amount of visitation. But of course, since the girls live with their paternal aunt, he's secretly getting more time with the girls.

I'm sorry your sister's situation is so messed up. My sister's is too. Sadly, I don't think there's anything the court will do if he says he wants equal custody.

Jersey 4 · Aug 29, 2019 at 04:12 PM

They went to a few rounds of mediation too. They couldn’t come to an agreement.the lawyer she consulted with told her the guy they used for mediation is one of the best and he is surprised this could not get resolved through mediation with him. But then the lawyer also said that her soon to be ex husband is probably going to try to drag this out as long as possible. He’s pulling stunts like closed his bank account and her lawyer said that’s unfortunate because even if he spent it all he still owes her half.

Aug 29, 2019 at 04:12 PM

I know in the grand scheme of things this piffling but these kittle disappointments add up. My ipad says its scharging but is losing charge fast. Everything indicates its ok.

Jersey 4 · Aug 29, 2019 at 04:13 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

She should talk to her lawyer and not take legal advice from strangers on the internet or pissed off relatives.

For what it is worth - this is the arc most domestic cases go through in my experience where both parties say stuff in the beginning and then change as time goes on.

She has a lawyer now. Because mediation didn’t work. She does everything her lawyer advises.

SlumberKitty · Aug 29, 2019 at 04:16 PM

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Originally Posted by BlessedCheeseMaker

I know in the grand scheme of things this piffling but these kittle disappointments add up. My ipad says its scharging but is losing charge fast. Everything indicates its ok.

My Ipad is in the land of the lost along with my last pair of glasses. When I got my new pair of glasses I got the extra warranty but they kept telling me it doesn't replace lost glasses (bc I told them I lost my other pair). I'm good at losing stuff. I hope you can get your Ipad sorted soon. HUGS Kit

Jersey 4 · Aug 29, 2019 at 04:16 PM

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

My sister's boyfriend drinks and parties. He also drives drunk and has gotten a DUI. On top of that, he has physically abused her. But he is a good father, so the courts gave both him and my sister the same amount of visitation. But of course, since the girls live with their paternal aunt, he's secretly getting more time with the girls.

I'm sorry your sister's situation is so messed up. My sister's is too. Sadly, I don't think there's anything the court will do if he says he wants equal custody.

No. The courts won’t do anything if he wants equal custody. We are trying to explain that to her. The mediator told them..you can drag this out to go in front of a judge but they will grant half custody.

Jersey 4 · Aug 29, 2019 at 04:19 PM

The lawyer also told her that judges get annoyed when they have to rule for parents that couldn’t come up with a proper arrangement themselves.

atisketatasket · Aug 29, 2019 at 04:19 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

She should talk to her lawyer and not take legal advice from strangers on the internet or pissed off relatives.

Hey, I wasn’t giving legal advice. I was giving treat-a-jackhole-like-a-jackhole advice.

Aug 29, 2019 at 04:20 PM

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

My Ipad is in the land of the lost along with my last pair of glasses. When I got my new pair of glasses I got the extra warranty but they kept telling me it doesn't replace lost glasses (bc I told them I lost my other pair). I'm good at losing stuff. I hope you can get your Ipad sorted soon. HUGS Kit

You just reminded me i got new glasses in May and she adjusted them but i have one ear higher than the other and the glasses are wonky and make my face look odd. I have been too depressed to go back so i will do this today. I am feeling a lot better

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unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 40,034 (SuperPoster!) 12 66.8k hugs given	Aug 29, 2019 at 03:40 PM #782 Wonder how LT is surviving the vacation week. We're thinking of you, girl!

atisketatasket Child of a lesser god Member Since Jun 2015 Location: Tartarus Posts: 19,170 (SuperPoster!) 8 12.4k hugs given	Aug 29, 2019 at 03:47 PM #783 Get a private detective to record him partying and then tell him if he fights custody you’ve got pictures. I bet he’ll use the baby to attract women. __________________ The secret to eternal youth is arrested development.—Alice Roosevelt Longworth

unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 40,034 (SuperPoster!) 12 66.8k hugs given	Aug 29, 2019 at 03:59 PM #787 Can she record him at home, like with a nanny-cam? If he doesnt do anything for the baby now, how can he demand that?

Anonymous42961 Guest Posts: n/a	Aug 29, 2019 at 04:12 PM #794 I know in the grand scheme of things this piffling but these kittle disappointments add up. My ipad says its scharging but is losing charge fast. Everything indicates its ok.

Jersey 4 Poohbah Member Since Feb 2019 Location: NJ Posts: 1,162 5 1,170 hugs given	Aug 29, 2019 at 04:19 PM #798 The lawyer also told her that judges get annoyed when they have to rule for parents that couldn’t come up with a proper arrangement themselves.