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#1
Aug 28, 2019, 09:36 AM
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I disagree strongly with those who say this is a black and white issue and under no circumstances should someone contact the therapist. I have had to contact my spouse's therapist during times that the behavior was suicidal, or potentially endangering to our toddler. It would be irresponsible for me NOT to do this. When someone is suicidal (regardless of the degree of feelings they have) and they are responsible for caring for a toddler at the same time while i am at work, then it becomes imperative to enlist the help of their therapist. Sidebar - there is NO ONE else in the support system so its just me and the therapist. Anyway, getting help when the person isn't in the right frame of mind due to their disease, to get the help for themselves, isn't "tattling". Every situation is different. For me, calling the therapist depends on three things that go together: 1.) severity of the disease under treatment, 2.) the state of the person suffering with that disease, 3) How it is effecting the household -particularly minors living there.
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Aug 28, 2019, 08:44 PM
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My husband has permission to contact my treatment team but he has not much to my teams dismay at times.
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#3
Aug 28, 2019, 09:05 PM
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I would never tell the therapist the real name of any person nor would I ever tell a family member the name of the therapist I hired. I don't want someone substituting their judgement for mine. Protecting a child is separate from the issue. Find other ways to protect the child.
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#4
Aug 28, 2019, 10:16 PM
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I did contact my husband's psychiatrist (not his therapist) when I grew alarmed about symptoms I was seeing: confusion, lethargy, agitation. I knew something was terribly wrong and I couldn't tell if it was psychiatric or physical. The pdoc told me to trust my judgment. If I felt it wasn't psychiatric, take him to the ER. It was lithium toxicity and his kidneys were shutting down. (Not an overdose; a complication of his other medical condition). They immediately put him on dialysis and he probably would have died if I hadn't trusted my gut. He wasn't in any condition to advocate for himself at that time. I never felt the need to contact his therapist or he mine. There were a couple of occasions when I gave them permission to speak to my husband during serious crisis where hospitalization was needed.
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Aug 28, 2019, 10:19 PM
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Absolutely, contact the therapist if your spouse is suicidal, homicidal, physically abusive, or a child abuser. No question.
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Aug 29, 2019, 01:52 AM
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Aug 29, 2019, 05:37 AM
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My husband called T once about 5 or 6 years ago. I was running on no sleep and was depressed in the middle of the day I took a small handful of my sleep medication. I freaked and got scared. I told him I would likely be fine but wanted him to make sure I woke up after a nap. He called T as he had met her before. I was groggy but she made him ask Mr if it is was okay for them to talk even though she had an open release to do show. She guided him as to what to do.
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Aug 29, 2019, 08:09 AM
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I feel like I may be missing the context of what the other post may have said but I feel a couple of ways about this. If my husband was as f'd up as I am and encountered some of the situations I have and felt the need to inform my therapist I think I would feel a little betrayed which is natural I think. If he felt I was in imminent danger I think getting in touch with my psychiatrist would make more sense because arent they the ones who can get you into treatment at a hospital? or are therapists also able to do this? I think contacting the authorities makes sense if I am going to harm myself or others. When it comes to children and abuse I think that the authorities should be called before a therapist. Child abuse and neglect affects a child so profoundly I donot think there is any reason you could have for not getting the authorities involved.
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Aug 29, 2019, 08:42 AM
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I asked my mother to speak to my T one time when I was extremely depressed. I was already an adult at the time. T told my mother to do everything possible to keep me out of the hospital: make sure I ate well, not isolate myself, etc.
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Aug 30, 2019, 11:07 AM
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I think in certain situations it is okay. My little sister has spoken to my T.
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