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Magnate
Member Since Oct 2013
Location: CO
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#961
I talked to my T today about this whole Team meeting we're supposed to have in a few weeks. The case worker invites all therapists, etc to the meeting. T and I agreed that it would put a wrench in our therapeutic relationship to see him at a meeting with a bunch of cps workers talking about us. Not to mention H will be there. I dont know if the kids' therapists will be there or Hs therapist.
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Tweaky Dog
Member Since Aug 2011
Location: England
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#962
@SlumberKitty You ought to be able to contact your PCP or whoever deals with that, Kit, and request that you be taken off that list. I'm in the UK, but I was able to do so, and they won't send a reminder for three years now.
__________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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Magnate
Member Since Feb 2017
Location: North America
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#963
I’m going to a lecture facilitated by a man I used to be deeply and hopelessly in love with (it was unrequited—he was my mentor in med school, it was complicated etc etc).
I probably shouldn’t be doing this. My T will not be thrilled. |
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Poohbah
Member Since Feb 2019
Location: NJ
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#964
I screamed at the kids at work last night. Unacceptable. The 4 year old punched me in my back and I lost my cool. That’s not okay. The way either of us acted is not okay.
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Child of a lesser god
Member Since Jun 2015
Location: Tartarus
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#965
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Cut yourself a break and don’t beat up on yourself, Jersey. You’re tending to three kids, one an infant and one with some kind of behavioral issues, while fighting (what sounds like) depression and exhaustion. |
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Poohbah
Member Since Feb 2019
Location: NJ
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#966
Thanks @@. I Told their mom so she wouldn’t be taken aback when she watches the footage from the camera. She just said that although screaming at them solves nothing-they are very good at getting negative attention when they want it. So she didn’t really think it was okay but she didn’t dismiss her kids actions either. That’s why I like this lady. She doesn’t think her kids are perfect and do no wrong.
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Poohbah
Member Since Feb 2019
Location: NJ
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#967
What boggles me about this 4 year old is that he justifies his actions as okay as long as he is the one doing them. For example, the other day he grabbed his little sister by her neck and threw her out of the playroom because she touched his Legos. Once everything was calm I asked him what he would do if he saw another boy doing that to his sister. He said: Well, Jersey I would protect her and beat them up because she doesn’t know how to protect herself. I said well then why do you do it if she can’t protect herself. He said because I’m her brother and it’s okay for me but not another boy.
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underdog is here
Member Since Sep 2011
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#968
I understand the 4 yr old. I feel that way about my sibling and we are both in our 50s. I thought (I could be wrong) it was a fairly common approach to siblings.
I don't grab and throw my sibling any more. Although sometimes I have the urge. But I would also have the urge to protect the goofus from anyone else. It does sound like you are tired and hate this job. __________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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Poohbah
Member Since Feb 2019
Location: NJ
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#969
I guess an older sibling could feel that way? I’m the middle sibling so I just used to get great joy in bothering my older sister and she would go after me but never protected. As for my younger sister I just always protected her. I never wanted to hurt her. But this boy and girl are only 1.5 years apart. I’m 9 years older than my younger sister.
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Child of a lesser god
Member Since Jun 2015
Location: Tartarus
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#970
So you have a four year old who’s punched you, grabbed his sister by the neck and threw her around, and once attacked the baby iirc?
When is this kid getting help? He’s going to end up damaging his siblings emotionally if not physically. The worst my siblings and I ever did was bicker or poke each other hard. __________________ The secret to eternal youth is arrested development.—Alice Roosevelt Longworth |
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Poohbah
Member Since Feb 2019
Location: NJ
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#971
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Grand Magnate
Member Since Jun 2018
Location: Somewhere
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#972
My sister would throw herself on the ground and say I pushed her, but I never did. I think the worst thing that happened physically was one time she kicked me in the shins with her rollerblades on. That hurt. I remember wanting to put my hands on her a few times, though.
Oh, and she also thought it was funny to stick those little pins you use for sewing into these plastic wicker like chairs my grandparents had. However, she was really young and I'm pretty sure she got the idea from my cousin who is older than her. My sister sounds a bit naughty from these descriptions, but she's actually a really great sister and always has been. __________________ Life is hard. Then you die. Then they throw dirt in your face. -David Gerrold |
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Poohbah
Member Since Feb 2019
Location: NJ
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#973
He does stuff to his sister a lot. Usually in the midst of one of his fits. If I don’t catch him and redirect him as soon as he gets that look in his eyes then it’s usually too late for me to get to him before he gets to her. Especially if I’m in the middle of changing a diaper or something.
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Elder Harridan x-hankster
Member Since Jun 2011
Location: Milan/Michigan
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#974
This is not on you, Jersey. I think hes acting out his parents disinterest in the kids, and how his parents treat each other (disrespectfully). I mean, who has 3 kids in 5 years and leaves them with a nanny? Was there a live-in nanny before? What is wrong with those people? Are they lawyers or what?
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Poohbah
Member Since Feb 2019
Location: NJ
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Poohbah
Member Since Feb 2019
Location: NJ
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#976
I know he needs more attention. He wanted me to wash him in the tub last night instead of him washing himself. I didn’t wash him because I wasn’t familiar with the laws on that and I didn’t feel protected because there are not cameras in the bathrooms. He was frustrated I wouldn’t wash him.
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Elder Harridan x-hankster
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#977
Then they would have the money to put the two younger ones back in daycare. That might be the solution to this.
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Poohbah
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Location: NJ
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#978
They could temporarily but then the now 3 year old would just end up going to an actual preschool class in September for her kindergarten prep. I know there is no law that states you have to enroll your kids in kindergarten prep, but they are big on proper education.
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Child of a lesser god
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#979
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Ummm...you’re talking about my childhood here. :embarrassed: I feel really sorry for the sister. (And if he waits till you’re distracted, it’s intentional.) __________________ The secret to eternal youth is arrested development.—Alice Roosevelt Longworth |
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Elder Harridan x-hankster
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#980
Yeah but she would be alive to go!
Thats a whole year away. Thats huge for these kids, imo. |
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