Couch 207: The spiced gingerbread couch

JaneTennison1 · Oct 28, 2019 at 07:27 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Can I get an opinion on something? Is it OK to say the following to a child? (I wasn't the one who said it.) Trigger warning, just in case:

Possible trigger:

In response to child's whining and a bit of yelling: "Knock it off, or I'm going to take you to school and just leave you there."

I believe as a parent never make a threat you won't (or can't) follow through on. That being said I definitely understand being frustrated and just saying stuff, what does H say now?

Oct 28, 2019 at 07:44 PM

I think the servants in my household (read: H and I) are going to have to stage a revolt. We have provided the 3 feline overlords with 3 separate litter boxes for awhile now, but for some apparently divine reason known only unto them they have recently stopped using 2 of them and are using only one (the smallest one even) so we have to clean the dang thing constantly...

unaluna · Oct 28, 2019 at 07:49 PM

Are the boxes scratched through, so the smell is embedded? Maybe you need new ones. Plus ive read you should have one for each cat, plus one for the house. Maybe if you get a new "house" one and they do use it, that will prove my hypothesis?

UnderRugSwept · Oct 28, 2019 at 07:56 PM

Art, if the boxes are scattered throughout the house, maybe they like that location; can you add another box in that area?
And technically Una is right, it's 1 for each cat plus 1 extra.

Oct 28, 2019 at 07:58 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Are the boxes scratched through, so the smell is embedded? Maybe you need new ones. Plus ive read you should have one for each cat, plus one for the house. Maybe if you get a new "house" one and they do use it, that will prove my hypothesis?

I dunno.... they're all different heights, so it's possible they just all like the smallest one because it's got the lowest sides... Stormy & Rascal are getting up there in years... maybe tomorrow after work I'll go buy another one exactly like the one they all use and see if they start using that one too...

Oct 28, 2019 at 07:59 PM

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Originally Posted by UnderRugSwept

Art, if the boxes are scattered throughout the house, maybe they like that location; can you add another box in that area?
And technically Una is right, it's 1 for each cat plus 1 extra.

We tried that... they follow it. I somehow never knew the 1 extra thing. Oops! Bad cat mom.

UnderRugSwept · Oct 28, 2019 at 08:01 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieSwimsOn

We tried that... they follow it. I somehow never knew the 1 extra thing. Oops! Bad cat mom.

It sounds like you are right; they must like that particular box then!

No, you aren't at all. I only know that from watching "My Cat from Hell."

SheHulk07 · Oct 28, 2019 at 08:34 PM

I want to talk to my T tonight or someone who isn't going to be a judgemental you know what. I feel like I'm messing everything up.

Possible trigger:

I ran to the bathroom after pdoc sat on the floor and cried and banged my head on the wall because I didnt have any blades in my purse. I stooped to a low.

Pdoc is weaning me off this med but hasn't talked about replacing it with anything. Today's appointment was so rushed it was ridiculous.
The feelings I'm having tonight are intense.

ScarletPimpernel · Oct 28, 2019 at 09:03 PM

Do you think you need to be hospitalized at this point? Nothing seems to be really helping you. Pdoc taking you off meds? T seeing you 4-5 times a week? And it's not helping.

I'm not trying to be mean, but it seems like your instability is affecting your whole family. AND they need you. Do you think if you got appropriate help, you could function better? I just see you posting in so much pain. There's got to be something better. Are you being honest with your Pdoc and T?

atisketatasket · Oct 28, 2019 at 10:29 PM

Art—One does not revolt from cats. One complies with their demands.

You are a minion. Accept your lot.

WarmFuzzySocks · Oct 29, 2019 at 12:42 AM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

(like every generation before me has believed about younger generations - but now we have studies)

*snort*

(That really did make me snort out loud. And laugh too.)

WarmFuzzySocks · Oct 29, 2019 at 12:59 AM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Can I get an opinion on something? Is it OK to say the following to a child? (I wasn't the one who said it.) Trigger warning, just in case:

Possible trigger:

In response to child's whining and a bit of yelling: "Knock it off, or I'm going to take you to school and just leave you there."

I understand being frustrated by whining. Totally do. But..

a- It's never really going to happen, so it's empty words.
b- Teachers don't need to deal with a kid who's been threatened with being left at school.
c- No kid wants to be whiny and overwhelmed. Remembering that no matter how frustrated one is, the kid probably feels worse can help calm the frustrated response.
d- Setting real boundaries and teaching the kid the desired behavior, even if it's for the UMPTEENTH time, or even the umpteen-bajillionth time, is probably going to serve everyone better in the long run.

Jersey 4 · Oct 29, 2019 at 06:31 AM

It’s Tuesday. The 3 year old and infant both have strep throat. Should be a fun day.

Lonelyinmyheart · Oct 29, 2019 at 06:38 AM

In the middle of watching Fractured. Am I a wimp or is it scary lol. My tolerance level for this kind of suspense is not good.

Jersey 4 · Oct 29, 2019 at 07:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Lonelyinmyheart

In the middle of watching Fractured. Am I a wimp or is it scary lol. My tolerance level for this kind of suspense is not good.

No. It’s not just you. I get anxiety watching suspense stuff too.

LonesomeTonight · Oct 29, 2019 at 08:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Jersey 4

No..I said they don’t yet where the anxiety comes from. So those threats shouldn’t take place. It’s speculation. What if she does have anxiety about that sort of thing. LT and H don’t know yet. So why not take precautions.

Thanks, yes, you're right, we're still trying to figure out the source of her anxiety. She does tend to be very anxious about who is going to pick her up from school (me vs. H) and can get very upset if the unexpected person (or both of us) picks her up. Of course, unplanned things happen (H is supposed to get her but gets stuck in traffic, for example). And she tends to want to know what we're doing days in advance, like already asking who will pick her up Friday, for example, or what we'll be doing on Sunday. P was saying to try to stick to the here and now with her, which is easier said than done when she keeps saying, "But who will pick me up Friday?" We'll often say "We'll figure that out Friday," but that doesn't always satisfy her.

unaluna · Oct 29, 2019 at 08:55 AM

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Originally Posted by WarmFuzzySocks

*snort*

(That really did make me snort out loud. And laugh too.)

I was afraid to hope she wasnt being serious.

Oct 29, 2019 at 08:59 AM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Art—One does not revolt from cats. One complies with their demands.

You are a minion. Accept your lot.

This is true, as I plan to go buy 2 new litter boxes after work today identical to the preferred one, so I can replace the oldest one and give them the +1.

Lemoncake · Oct 29, 2019 at 09:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Lonelyinmyheart

In the middle of watching Fractured. Am I a wimp or is it scary lol. My tolerance level for this kind of suspense is not good.

Mwhahah my recommendations do work! You're not a wimp.

I liked the ending.

WarmFuzzySocks · Oct 29, 2019 at 09:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Jersey 4

I wonder how WarmFuzzySocks is doing. Unless I missed a post-I haven’t see her on in a bit.

Still not divorced.

Popping in once in a while. Mostly super busy. Thanks for thinking of me, Jersey.

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unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 39,956 (SuperPoster!) 12 66.6k hugs given	Oct 28, 2019 at 07:49 PM #143 Are the boxes scratched through, so the smell is embedded? Maybe you need new ones. Plus ive read you should have one for each cat, plus one for the house. Maybe if you get a new "house" one and they do use it, that will prove my hypothesis?

UnderRugSwept Introvert Extraordinaire Member Since Dec 2013 Location: Somewhere Posts: 2,184 10 3,389 hugs given	Oct 28, 2019 at 07:56 PM #144 Art, if the boxes are scattered throughout the house, maybe they like that location; can you add another box in that area? And technically Una is right, it's 1 for each cat plus 1 extra. __________________ "Take me with you, I don't need shoes to follow, Bare feet running with you, Somewhere the rainbow ends, my dear." - Tori Amos

atisketatasket Child of a lesser god Member Since Jun 2015 Location: Tartarus Posts: 19,162 (SuperPoster!) 8 12.4k hugs given	Oct 28, 2019 at 10:29 PM #150 Art—One does not revolt from cats. One complies with their demands. You are a minion. Accept your lot.

Jersey 4 Poohbah Member Since Feb 2019 Location: NJ Posts: 1,162 5 1,170 hugs given	Oct 29, 2019 at 06:31 AM #153 It’s Tuesday. The 3 year old and infant both have strep throat. Should be a fun day.

Lonelyinmyheart Poohbah Member Since Jun 2019 Location: Earth Posts: 1,093 4 1,732 hugs given	Oct 29, 2019 at 06:38 AM #154 In the middle of watching Fractured. Am I a wimp or is it scary lol. My tolerance level for this kind of suspense is not good.