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I feel really stupid writing about this and its embarrassing to feel like this. I've always had issues to do with shame around my periods so it's probably why. I was waiting for my session. T comes out wearing a jumper and jeans and she must of just shoved the tampon in her jumper pocket without thinking to much as soon as she walked into the waiting room I could see it coming from her pocket. She did some stuff at the desk and she felt her pocket realised it was coming out so discretely pushed it back it, felt that it was fully way and zipped up her pocket all calmly and carried on. She then said she was gonna go for a quick wee. I dont know if she knows I saw what happened. I didnt know whether to say something or what to do so got my self anxious then she realised so it was ok anyway but then now I feel maybe I should of said something but felt to scared and anxious at the time about what to say as didnt know how she would react. I know I'm being stupid but the whole thing keeps playing round in my head.
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Can you identify exactly why you feel scared and anxious at seeing T with a tampon? Is it the knowledge that she has periods? I know you said it relates to your own shame so is it because you feel periods shouldn't be brought into the open on any level and seeing T with a tampon has disrupted that belief? Or because you felt T might have been ashamed at showing the tampon?
If it's causing you this much upset it would be good to bring it up with T if you can/ I very much doubt she will be fazed by it but would want to understand your anxiety around the issue. |
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Sounds like pretty normal female stuff. I doubt she will be bothered if you bring it up. What is your anxiety around this? If you discuss it, it is really about you and not at all about her from the sounds of it. Sounds like something you might benefit from talking about.
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If it is bothering you, then you should say something, even if it means bringing it up again next time. It could be a useful way to explore how you feel about bodies and periods and who knows what else. I bet your T will be curious to know how you feel and not upset or embarrassed. I have talked about all sorts of random things that come up for me, including noticing when my T went into her office with bare legs and came out wearing nylons and another time when I felt uncomfortable that she was going on a honeymoon because it is basically a sex vacation (talk about awkward!). I believe these sorts of things that bring up seemingly disproportionately intense feelings are all "grist for the mill" in therapy.
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I dont have a problem knowing she was on her period. I work in healthcare so have had a lot of discussions about all body functions. I dont know why its had a big reaction in me as it's just my own periods I get really on edge about and I remember as a kid the way my mum was when I started and how she behaved and the stuff she did. I will probably end up having a period talk with her at some point cos of issues I have around mine. I cant talk about mine if I'm on but can just about if I'm not. I even struggle with people knowing I need the loo or going to the loo
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