Couch 210: The Abundant Couch

atisketatasket · Jan 19, 2020 at 05:29 PM

Sorry, lemon, I don't like carrot cake. Something is clearly wrong with me.

I actually find in cooking, I get better results if I don't measure but kind of eyeball it. In baking I measure quite strictly.

NP_Complete · Jan 19, 2020 at 05:42 PM

Do you measure by weight? If so, do you actually get better results vs. measuring by volume?

stopdog · Jan 19, 2020 at 05:43 PM

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True, but these people aren't getting out their measuring spoons for the salt. They all seem to just measure in pinches which seem to vary in size from reasonable to holy crap that's a lot of salt.

I know - you learn the measurements by feel. Also - I have always found the difference between home cooking and restaurant/chef cooking to be the extra butter/oil/salt and sometimes shallots they use.

I get better results from baking if I weigh the ingredients. I don't bake much because it (to me) is more precise than cooking other ways, but I do like to make bread.

atisketatasket · Jan 19, 2020 at 05:56 PM

I weigh the ingredients when making bread. I should try it with other baked goods.

So last fall I started making "skeletal outlines" for all my lectures. Essentially a fill-in-the-blank lecture outline, because most students have no idea how to take notes or what's important about the information I'm giving them.

And the students love them. But they are a huge pain to make up.

unaluna · Jan 19, 2020 at 06:29 PM

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True, but these people aren't getting out their measuring spoons for the salt. They all seem to just measure in pinches which seem to vary in size from reasonable to holy crap that's a lot of salt.

Exactly my scentiments!

LonesomeTonight · Jan 19, 2020 at 07:16 PM

I'm under the impression that it's more important to be exacting in measurements with baking, less so with cooking (with a few exceptions, I'm sure). Hence, I'm better at cooking.

Jan 19, 2020 at 07:54 PM

I wish there was a job where my extraordinary ability to measure things by looking at them was used. I can look at a pile of lour and say how many cups there are are block of land yep that 2.6 acres that piece of wood is 27 inches. It only works in imperial though.

unaluna · Jan 19, 2020 at 07:57 PM

Youre rainwoman!

Jan 19, 2020 at 08:21 PM

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Youre rainwoman!

I only fly Qantas too.

velcro003 · Jan 19, 2020 at 10:07 PM

Due to insurance changes through my work, I can only see my T every other week, and it is absolutely making me feel terrible. I don't know how I will deal.

WarmFuzzySocks · Jan 19, 2020 at 11:39 PM

I don't weigh anything when I bake. I'm too impatient. Mostly stuff turns out okay. But I bake a lot and mess with the recipes anyway by adding whatever I have in the fridge that needs to be used up (tomato soup, applesauce, squash, yogurt) so weighing the flour is the least of my ingredient worries. I can usually tell by look or feel whether it's going to work out all right.

Once in a while I fail spectacularly. Oh well.

WarmFuzzySocks · Jan 19, 2020 at 11:47 PM

Still not divorced, by the way.

Which is okay, since it got put on hold while the kids' dad goes through his cancer treatments. His first treatment went well, the second not so well. He was pretty sick over the weekend. Only one more left. It is challenging for both of us to find the line of care--how much do I offer, how much does he accept, how can I encourage and care for him and still maintain good boundaries? The whole thing pretty much sucks all around.

I made chicken soup for dinner tonight, put some in a Mason jar, and am sending it his way tomorrow with one of the boys.

Quietmind 2 · Jan 20, 2020 at 01:00 AM

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Hugs, QuietMind...I hope you hear back from your T. When is your next session? And it's tough when you realize how some friends or family just don't get mental illness at all...

Next session is in 5 days time. T didn't reply to my 2 emails. I just emailed again, asking if we could arrange a phone call.

My parents are giving mixed signals again, which is triggering. They're such opportunists. They don't want me to be happy with my partner but still want to make use of me and him financially and practically. I'm still struggling with feelings about the abuse my sister corroborated.

Also I had to comfort one of the friends I turned to for support over the suicide. She made it all about her feelings because she's highly sensitive. I regret telling her anything because I have my hands full trying to support my partner who is grieving. My best friend was really helpful but they are also exhausted and busy and struggling.

Quietmind 2 · Jan 20, 2020 at 01:05 AM

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I think it's also part of the Asian mentality that mental illness isn't real, but just because it's not talked about doesn't mean it still doesn't exist. Maybe you could find another support group or charity ?

How long does T normally take? can you call her?

Hugs. Na, these friends know about mental illness and trauma but one of them calls *every little thing* traumatising, though she's definitely been traumatised by some stuff. And every sad day "depression", if you get what I mean. She's sympathetic but can be a tad tone deaf. Like waxing lyrical about her loving and supportive family when I literally asked for support around abuse being corroborated.

I sent T a third email asking if we can arrange a phone call. Can't call her directly, and can't call the new clinic, so I'll have to see if she gets my third email.

Quietmind 2 · Jan 20, 2020 at 01:06 AM

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Due to insurance changes through my work, I can only see my T every other week, and it is absolutely making me feel terrible. I don't know how I will deal.

Hugs. That's awful. Hugs if wanted. Any chance for phone calls inbetween sessions? That's what T offered me when I could only see her once a month.

Quietmind 2 · Jan 20, 2020 at 02:30 AM

OK, @Lemoncake , @LonesomeTonight , T replied to my 3rd email. She is busy but will try to squeeze in a phone call tomorrow afternoon.

In the meantime I'll keep trying to cope and not SH. I just keep swinging between numbness and tears.

LostOnTheTrail · Jan 20, 2020 at 04:04 AM

I'm sorry, QM. That sounds really hard.

chihirochild · Jan 20, 2020 at 08:44 AM

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Originally Posted by WarmFuzzySocks

I don't weigh anything when I bake. I'm too impatient. Mostly stuff turns out okay. But I bake a lot and mess with the recipes anyway by adding whatever I have in the fridge that needs to be used up (tomato soup, applesauce, squash, yogurt) so weighing the flour is the least of my ingredient worries. I can usually tell by look or feel whether it's going to work out all right.

Once in a while I fail spectacularly. Oh well.

WFS, I hadn't been following the conversation and thought you meant that when you bake you slip the surly the bonds of earth and start floating to the ceiling

chihirochild · Jan 20, 2020 at 08:46 AM

Today's the first day of a two-week period where we study for board exams (which we don't actually take until the summer, but whatever). This might sound crazy, but it seems like it'll be kind of relaxing compared to patient care.

LostOnTheTrail · Jan 20, 2020 at 08:52 AM

That doesn't sound crazy, Chihiro. When you're studying, you don't have someone's life literally in your hands.

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atisketatasket Child of a lesser god Member Since Jun 2015 Location: Tartarus Posts: 19,150 (SuperPoster!) 8 12.4k hugs given	Jan 19, 2020 at 05:29 PM #681 Sorry, lemon, I don't like carrot cake. Something is clearly wrong with me. I actually find in cooking, I get better results if I don't measure but kind of eyeball it. In baking I measure quite strictly.

NP_Complete Grand Magnate Member Since Feb 2017 Location: the upside down Posts: 3,808 7 6,355 hugs given	Jan 19, 2020 at 05:42 PM #682 Do you measure by weight? If so, do you actually get better results vs. measuring by volume?

LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 20,771 (SuperPoster!) 9 75k hugs given	Jan 19, 2020 at 07:16 PM #686 I'm under the impression that it's more important to be exacting in measurements with baking, less so with cooking (with a few exceptions, I'm sure). Hence, I'm better at cooking.

Anonymous42961 Guest Posts: n/a	Jan 19, 2020 at 07:54 PM #687 I wish there was a job where my extraordinary ability to measure things by looking at them was used. I can look at a pile of lour and say how many cups there are are block of land yep that 2.6 acres that piece of wood is 27 inches. It only works in imperial though.

unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 39,880 (SuperPoster!) 12 66.4k hugs given	Jan 19, 2020 at 07:57 PM #688 Youre rainwoman!

velcro003 Elder Member Since Oct 2008 Posts: 7,361 15 25 hugs given	Jan 19, 2020 at 10:07 PM #690 Due to insurance changes through my work, I can only see my T every other week, and it is absolutely making me feel terrible. I don't know how I will deal.

Quietmind 2 Poohbah Member Since Jan 2020 Location: Somewhere I'm working to leave Posts: 1,243 4 8 hugs given	Jan 20, 2020 at 02:30 AM #696 OK, @Lemoncake , @LonesomeTonight , T replied to my 3rd email. She is busy but will try to squeeze in a phone call tomorrow afternoon. In the meantime I'll keep trying to cope and not SH. I just keep swinging between numbness and tears.

chihirochild Magnate Member Since Feb 2017 Location: North America Posts: 2,360 7 4,865 hugs given	Jan 20, 2020 at 08:46 AM #699 Today's the first day of a two-week period where we study for board exams (which we don't actually take until the summer, but whatever). This might sound crazy, but it seems like it'll be kind of relaxing compared to patient care.