Couch 210: The Abundant Couch

Trigger date 2 of 3.

Big meeting, headache and nausea.

Already have ibuprofen on board to deal with the headache pronto, but not sure that will help with the nausea.

Hugs, Lost. Hope you feel better soon. I think with the nausea, depends on if it's tied to the headache, like if it's a migraine, ibuprofen could help with both. If it's not from the headache, ibuprofen could potentially make it worse.

Yeah, that's a good point and part of why I haven't really said anything. Though I think in each of those cases he's had an opening (well, I think once he came in early for me). There has been a time or two when for whatever reason, I couldn't do my usual time slot, and he asked another client with a flexible schedule if they could switch. I felt bad about it, but T said it was no problem at all.

Hugs, Scarlet, that's bad about the implants and your sister. But great about the quitting smoking and your H still working! For your sister, she may want to tell her OB about those feelings--there can be peripartum depression (during pregnancy) in addition to postpartum. (I had really bad peripartum anxiety, for example.)

I was doing my I don't need you thing and there's other T's I can see.

I actually haven't seen anyone else since the other T back in July.

I occasionally see a massage therapist, but even with that I have trouble going to slots. It's at a fancy smancy spa, but they have their booking timetaable all online so you can come and go as you please with no consequences for cancelling as long as you do it early enough.

It's my 7th day streak if i log in today!

So last night, one of my dreams involved going to donkey races. Like horse races, except with donkeys. I think maybe I was there with Dr. T--or he was at least involved in the races in some way. In one of them, a baby donkey was running behind its mother and did one lap of the track. Everyone was cheering, and the announcer congratulated the baby, like, "Let's hear it for the baby's first race!" I have no idea what that was all about...

Just my take but the mask isn't to help you sleep per se, but to ensure you don't stop breathing completely .Mild apnea is still apnea which can be dangerous for anyone.

For me it makes sense given what you have been talking about recently and if you don't find offense at being compared to a donkey.

Mama donkey = You.

Baby donkey = D.

Celebrating the progress D has made.

Dr T there too because he's facilitating that progress .

He's not a PEANUT -- he's a GUY!

That fourth trimester is ROUGH. I remember (prenatally) being pleased that my wife's employer allowed her to take six weeks off but then (postnatally) seeing that that was about the bare minimum for feeling human and being able to leave the house again, which are both typically prerequisites for going to work. She will get through it, especially if she has good support from you and her medical providers.

I'm going to disagree with Lemon and say that you're the baby, Dr. T is the mother, and "baby's first race" is you coming back and sort of "re-starting" therapy in a way that fits more with his model (and him adjusting a little to fit you).

But then I'm basically a Freudian, so of course I would think the therapist is your mother.

Somewhat relatedly, we were watching Lilyhammer last night and learned that reindeer racing is a thing.

Yeah, my first thought was that maybe I was the baby donkey. And he's leading me. Perhaps donkeys because my T can be pretty stubborn (though I guess that's mules, right? They could have been mules, I suppose.)

This makes a lot of sense, too, along with EM's interpretation. And I don't mind being compared to a donkey

Agreed, hormones are going crazy in the 6 weeks after giving birth--really, it can take them a year to go back to normal again, particularly if breastfeeding is involved. I was allowed 8 weeks (much of that with short-term disability pay) because I had a C-section, plus took an extra month of (unpaid) FMLA leave, but then ended up deciding to just switch to working as a contractor (I wanted part-time, but they wouldn't give it to me).

I knew at the time that I had postpartum anxiety (like my regular anxiety x10), but didn't realize there was also postpartum depression in there until later. My reluctance to leave the house, not wanting people to come over to visit, etc. And apparently I didn't seem to be "enjoying motherhood" according to my mother-in-law. Like I guess I should have been doing backflips with excitement over not getting much sleep, having to feed her what seemed like constantly, etc. The first 3 months are HARD.

The anxiety part is what led me to start seeing ex-T. (I'd tried to see another T during my pregnancy to deal with the anxiety then, but she was just trying to get me to do vision boards and attend some sort of religious institution, which was not what I needed at the time).

But anyway, it's good your daughter is getting help, WFS.

I had some lady stop me in the grocery store yesterday to exclaim over my baby (always a fan of that) and then to tell me to enjoy every minute of the next six months or so because after that "they become like little people and have their own likes and dislikes."

WHAT.

I am more than okay with my kid being her own person. And it is impossible to enjoy every minute of even the most enjoyable things, much less every instance of being awoken from a sound sleep by somebody screaming and every instance of having somebody sneeze directly into your face (both of which had happened the day before). I think we would all be happier if we could acknowledge that most things are a complicated mix of good and bad, and that's okay. But this seemed like a long speech for the baking supplies aisle, so I just thanked her and went to the checkout before there was any screaming (from me or ToddlerManatee).

Ooooo this also could work.

Sleep deprivation is a form of torture. Not a mother yet but I feel like for a lot of mothers it can be taboo to just say they're not enjoying it or that they're struggling. I watched this documentary called mother's on the edge.This one woman was posting all these photos on instagram and she said herself it wouldn't look like she was stuggling at all.

I'm glad you're feeling a little bit better.

When can you get another session with her?

How's the visa application going?

Dan Savage's thing about parenting



is so accurate for me. Being a parent is amazing and terrible all at once.

I think people with small children nowadays, at least in my area, are less judgmental of each other than it sounds like parents once were. There is a lot of mutual kindness and understanding happening. But yeah, I try not to pay too much attention to social media. And I would not tell anybody to appreciate anything. I would only say, take lots of pictures because you think you will remember those times but you probably won't (see above re: sleep deprivation ).

Welp, my doggies paw has almost fully healed. a little bit of discoloration but her pad is healing quite smoothly. Apparently our bodies need a little extra time to heal but when given that time, 110% is achievable. I wish I could say the same things about my car

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You might like this show:

Deadwater Fell

Genre: Crime ,Drama AND it had David Tennet (sp? )in it.