Couch 210: The Abundant Couch

Polibeth · Jan 23, 2020 at 08:08 PM

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

So, informal couch poll: this has been bothering me all day. But I don't know if I am being paranoid (quite possibly) or over sensitive (quite possibly) or totally on target (also quite possibly). So a coworker who is senior to me today sent me a Skype message saying "Hello Kit (except it was my real name), just a head's up, X is taking care of personal business today so we should not bother X if possible." Of course, what I took from that was that I usually bother X. I couldn't ask that without sounding paranoid though. I just said, "Yes ma'am. I haven't Skyped X since yesterday and I know X wasn't well yesterday. I will not bother X." But what I totally wanted to say was, Do I usually bother her? Am I bothering you right now? Am I an annoying person? Etc. Etc. So....poll question: paranoid, over-sensitive, or on target? HUGS Kit

I wouldn't take it personally Kit - I'm certain it was just a general sort of announcement to everyone who worked with X.

Polibeth · Jan 23, 2020 at 08:09 PM

Shehulk07 - I'm sorry you are having such a difficult time. I hope you can start with a new T soon

Quietmind 2 · Jan 23, 2020 at 08:21 PM

I'm so sorry @SheHulk07. I hope your H gets booted from the house. I hope one of the other two Ts are a good fit and better equipped to help you. I'm sorry you're hurting. You are cared about here.

Quietmind 2 · Jan 23, 2020 at 08:24 PM

LT, I agree with the others. Don't discount the positive impacts on your daughter

Quietmind 2 · Jan 23, 2020 at 08:25 PM

Hugs @Lemoncake

LonesomeTonight · Jan 23, 2020 at 08:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Quietmind 2

LT, I agree with the others. Don't discount the positive impacts on your daughter

Thanks, QM!

Jan 23, 2020 at 08:31 PM

I love the couch sometimes you can wtite out a huge long post and by the end of it you have solved your problem. I wish that worked all the time. Anyway thanks for being my invisible reality check

Quietmind 2 · Jan 23, 2020 at 08:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

I'd try somewhere else. If you're paying there's no space for rudeness.

Oh congrats! That's a pretty big streak. There's also memrise. You'll definitely pick up more when you get there. There's also dual language books which I like.

I found the cat in hat too.

I'm definitely going to look out for dual language books!

Quietmind 2 · Jan 23, 2020 at 08:41 PM

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Originally Posted by WarmFuzzySocks

QM, that's a little like a t being annoyed that you don't spill your guts in the first session.

If you're still interested in pursuing massage, maybe look for a massage therapist that does relaxation massage with a light touch. A good massage therapist should adjust the massage to your needs and be aware that it takes time to get to know a client, and be accepting of scars. It's actually a lot like therapy in that way too.

Glad to know!

atisketatasket · Jan 23, 2020 at 09:08 PM

I get seriously annoyed that the guys in one of my fantasy baseball leagues offer me crappy trades because they think I don’t know what I’m doing.

Apparently my minor league system with 10 of the top 50 prospects (in a 20-team league) happened by accident.

Jan 23, 2020 at 09:13 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

I get seriously annoyed that the guys in one of my fantasy baseball leagues offer me crappy trades because they think I don’t know what I’m doing.

Apparently my minor league system with 10 of the top 50 prospects (in a 20-team league) happened by accident.

I cant believe rhis still happens. About 30 years ago my best friend fought hard to be able to do a Rugby League Coaching course she came out with top marks. She was the first female to coach and she still to this day has never been offered even an assistant coach position with even the under10s. Because what would she know about football.

unaluna · Jan 23, 2020 at 09:30 PM

@@ - i pity the fools!

SheHulk07 · Jan 23, 2020 at 10:21 PM

My pdoc didn't terminate with me...at least as far as I know so far. He did though call EMS on me to send me back to the ER for an assessment, but they're letting me go because of the meeting tomorrow with CPS.

unaluna · Jan 23, 2020 at 10:27 PM

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Originally Posted by BlessedCheeseMaker

I cant believe rhis still happens.

Somebody somewhere is still breeding with these Neanderthals.

SheHulk07 · Jan 23, 2020 at 10:28 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Hugs, SheHulk, I'm sorry you're going through all of that. And am glad you're still here. I think they should make your H leave, too.

Have you been in contact with your former T at all? Does he know what happened?

I talked to ex T the day after I attempted and that's when he told me that the hospital could help me find a new T and we'd have to say goodbye. It really hurts that he didn't give me a termination session or any referrals.

velcro003 · Jan 23, 2020 at 10:33 PM

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

So, informal couch poll: this has been bothering me all day. But I don't know if I am being paranoid (quite possibly) or over sensitive (quite possibly) or totally on target (also quite possibly). So a coworker who is senior to me today sent me a Skype message saying "Hello Kit (except it was my real name), just a head's up, X is taking care of personal business today so we should not bother X if possible." Of course, what I took from that was that I usually bother X. I couldn't ask that without sounding paranoid though. I just said, "Yes ma'am. I haven't Skyped X since yesterday and I know X wasn't well yesterday. I will not bother X." But what I totally wanted to say was, Do I usually bother her? Am I bothering you right now? Am I an annoying person? Etc. Etc. So....poll question: paranoid, over-sensitive, or on target? HUGS Kit

I think it is just a general thing your co-worker said, not that you are annoying or bothersome at all.

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Originally Posted by SheHulk07

Hi couch, it's been a heck of 2 weeks.

Possible trigger:

I attempted SUI after my T terminated with me. Hospitalized for 2 weeks inpatient. CPS is coming over tomorrow to discuss who is going to leave the house at least temporarily...either H or me. I don't meet with a new T until the 3rd and have another consult with a T on the 11th. I see my pdoc in an hour and kind of wish he'd put me back in until my appointments are closer.

Wow. Glad you are still here, and sorry for all that you are going through right now.

LostOnTheTrail · Jan 24, 2020 at 04:15 AM

After the one-two punch of consecutive anniversaries in the past two days, I want today to be a rest day, but I don't know how to rest.

Lemoncake · Jan 24, 2020 at 06:44 AM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Thanks, EM. I guess I wasn't thinking about the positive stuff I do having an effect...

That's really interesting about the ice storm. I was saying to T today how I can go down the rabbit hole of "Maybe if I'd eaten fish/taken fish oil during pregnancy, that could have changed things" (I'm vegetarian), and other stuff like that. He said how it's not like I smoked crack. That some pregnant women do everything wrong, smoke, do drugs, etc., and their babies come out perfectly healthy. And others do everything right, then there can be a serious issue. So it can kind of be a crapshoot. Which was a good point.

Overall I don't think diet would have changed things. You're doing a lot better than other parents and you need to remember that on the tough days.

You're practically a superstar in my book if you've taken the time to actually get to know your child. My father lived with me yet I don't have a single memory of a hug, him reading or playing with me.

Possible trigger:

I was surprised in my pediatrics class by the number of little babies less than 2 years old who had been attacked by their "parents". One little boy had bleeding on the brain and bruises all over his face. There was also another boy M who was was the 6th child to be taken into care from the same mother- she was still only 27 a and he was severely affected developmentally (he was 6 months when his real age was 18 months) because of her heavy drinking.

LonesomeTonight · Jan 24, 2020 at 07:14 AM

Aw, thanks, Lemon. I'm sorry your dad never took the time to know you--he's missing out on a great person!

That's so awful and sad about what you saw in your pediatrics class. I just don't see how people can do something like that to a child...

Possible trigger:

This isn't the same, but my friend took in a foster child as an infant and later adopted her. She was taken from the mother because the mother was a prostitute and I think drug addict and kept bringing male "clients" back to her apartment with the baby in the room. Or something to that effect. I think she'd had other children taken from her in the past as well.

LonesomeTonight · Jan 24, 2020 at 07:21 AM

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Originally Posted by SheHulk07

I talked to ex T the day after I attempted and that's when he told me that the hospital could help me find a new T and we'd have to say goodbye. It really hurts that he didn't give me a termination session or any referrals.

Oh, I didn't realize your telling him about the attempt is what made him terminate. I'm so sorry. He at the very least should have offered you a termination session and three referrals--I've always heard that's what T's are supposed to do ethically in the US if they terminate with a client. Particularly with him knowing what your mental state was...

And I hope the CPS meeting goes well.

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Polibeth Poohbah Member Since Jun 2014 Location: Earth Posts: 1,193 9 2,235 hugs given	Jan 23, 2020 at 08:09 PM #902 Shehulk07 - I'm sorry you are having such a difficult time. I hope you can start with a new T soon

Quietmind 2 Poohbah Member Since Jan 2020 Location: Somewhere I'm working to leave Posts: 1,243 4 8 hugs given	Jan 23, 2020 at 08:21 PM #903 I'm so sorry @SheHulk07. I hope your H gets booted from the house. I hope one of the other two Ts are a good fit and better equipped to help you. I'm sorry you're hurting. You are cared about here.

Quietmind 2 Poohbah Member Since Jan 2020 Location: Somewhere I'm working to leave Posts: 1,243 4 8 hugs given	Jan 23, 2020 at 08:24 PM #904 LT, I agree with the others. Don't discount the positive impacts on your daughter

Quietmind 2 Poohbah Member Since Jan 2020 Location: Somewhere I'm working to leave Posts: 1,243 4 8 hugs given	Jan 23, 2020 at 08:25 PM #905 Hugs @Lemoncake

Anonymous42961 Guest Posts: n/a	Jan 23, 2020 at 08:31 PM #907 I love the couch sometimes you can wtite out a huge long post and by the end of it you have solved your problem. I wish that worked all the time. Anyway thanks for being my invisible reality check

atisketatasket Child of a lesser god Member Since Jun 2015 Location: Tartarus Posts: 19,172 (SuperPoster!) 8 12.4k hugs given	Jan 23, 2020 at 09:08 PM #910 I get seriously annoyed that the guys in one of my fantasy baseball leagues offer me crappy trades because they think I don’t know what I’m doing. Apparently my minor league system with 10 of the top 50 prospects (in a 20-team league) happened by accident.

unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 40,058 (SuperPoster!) 12 66.8k hugs given	Jan 23, 2020 at 09:30 PM #912 @@ - i pity the fools!

SheHulk07 Magnate Member Since Oct 2013 Location: CO Posts: 2,305 10 871 hugs given	Jan 23, 2020 at 10:21 PM #913 My pdoc didn't terminate with me...at least as far as I know so far. He did though call EMS on me to send me back to the ER for an assessment, but they're letting me go because of the meeting tomorrow with CPS.