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Roses are falling.
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#1
Anything you would like to say to your therapist, big or small... post it here.
__________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." |
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#2
I can’t believe I have to get out of bed to go and see you. I hate this. I might not do it. I might just phone you instead. Although then I won’t see the cat.
I was lashing out at that person and now I just feel like **** about it. That person doesn’t want to hear my tirades and doesn’t care. And now I guess I have to go and tell you about it, I guess. Also, these antidepressants aren’t even working as far as I can tell. I feel so worthless and alone. |
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#3
Dear T,
I'm terrified for tomorrow's session. Maybe I shouldn't have sent that email. I want to email you to ask for reassurance but that'd just be pathetic at this point since I see you in like... what, 30 hours? I also want to cancel or not show up so I don't have to see you but that'd be stupid and inconsiderate and would just delay the inevitable. Please be gentle about this. -c Last edited by chihirochild; Jan 16, 2020 at 08:04 AM.. Reason: punctuation fail |
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#4
Now would be a great time to check your email
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Roses are falling.
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#5
When we're good, we're golden, but it feels like we actually spend much more time in rupture mode than anything else and I'm just not sure if it's worth it anymore. Is it just me?
Not denying that we have done some pretty good work together. I'm not self harming after all and haven't for 646 days. __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." |
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#6
Excruciating email incoming ... countdown to lift-off commenced.
You were good in the last session, really good. You are smart and brave, sometimes I am reminded of why I continue to work with you. Most of the time you are a horror of course. |
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#7
I'm sure you would have wanted me to reach out yesterday when I was having suicidal thoughts. But you know....it's like, what am I supposed to say? I think that is a lot to tell someone and have them have to deal with it or their feelings about it or whatever. So, I didn't. I don't know if I will tell you any of this though.
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Member Since Dec 2019
Location: London, UK
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#8
I’m sorry I let you down by SH-ing last night before you even had the chance to respond to my email.
I guess I had to reach a crisis point once that terrible memory came back, and once I received an email from that person confirming the memory. I’ll tell you more on Monday and then maybe you’ll understand. I didn’t drink at all today, and I made it to the pdoc appointment. You probably don’t realize how much of an accomplishment that was. Anyway, thank you for your ongoing support. |
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Magnate
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#9
I hope you bring your "A" game tomorrow because I have some stuff to get into. It could be really good, or it could be a total disaster. That describes most of our sessions lately, though.
I really just hope you're not weird and distant. |
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Always in This Twilight
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#10
Dear T,
It was nice hearing you say that most people would probably prefer “not-trying to be perfect” me. And how if they don’t, then F*** ‘em. Wish I could have gotten that message, oh, 35-40 years ago. And I appreciate the empathy about my D, too. Wish you weren’t off Monday, but you deserve a day off. And I’ll see you Tuesday. Love you (that crossed my mind again as I left today), LT Last edited by LonesomeTonight; Jan 16, 2020 at 03:30 PM.. |
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#11
After today’s session, I did the opposite of what you suggested. I engaged with that person, and I got a response.
Not that it was really satisfactory. And it never will be. You ARE right about that. But the fact of the matter is that it is cheaper and easier to get my anger out at that person, rather than sit in your £250/hour office and talk about it. Also, you have NO idea. I know how you were raised, and you’ve been privileged all your life, and have no idea how it is NOT to have someone to fall back on. You are just as messed up as I am and have intense issues too, they’re just not as close to the surface and you’re more in control of them. But ultimately, I’m the patient and you’re the therapist, and so we can’t get into that. I’m the one who said today, “let’s keep this focused on me.” |
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Roses are falling.
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#12
Dear R--,
I'm sorry for the way I act. At the moment I'm finding therapy very destabilizing and triggering. I don't feel safe. You don't feel safe. We have done a lot together and i'm not denying that ( 647 self harm free days and counting!) but I just need to pause for now. I need a clear head for my next exam. Thank you for all the times you have been there for me. Best wishes, S- __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." |
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#13
Hi R,
Thanks for sending the article on anxiety and the gut. Today, I made a collage...we'll start there next week. I am also eating my feelings, which is less good. It's a Hard Week. __________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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#14
I wish you would reply on my email. I have waited two days for your reply. Maybe you’re busy, or maybe you just don’t care. I haven’t told anyone the things I told you in that email, and I feel stupid for thinking that you’d care.
I guess I have to wait until I see you. I don’t want to be a burden for you. I just wish you would understand how much a short reply would mean to me. I thought I could count on you. I hate being like this and that your words mean that much to me. |
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#15
Well I guess the ball is in your court today. We will either stick it out, you will terminate me or I will quit. Today will be nerve wracking that is for sure.
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Roses are falling.
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#16
LT Im sorry H wasn't supportive about this. I'd be worried if I had a car and needed to be somewhere else the next day.
You are handling it the best way you can. __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." |
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Always in This Twilight
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Thanks, Lemon. He did apologize later. AAA* is on the way to my house now. They'll test the battery and can replace it if it's that--if it isn't, guess I'll need to request a tow, and repair shops won't be open today. *Not sure if they have that in UK--membership that provides roadside assistance for cars, including testing/replacing battery or towing (not to be confused with AA). |
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Roses are falling.
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#19
@Lemoncake I just wanted to thank you for sharing this. It makes me feel better about the awkward sexual transference dreams I had a couple months ago. Ultimately we can’t control our dreams... sometimes can interpret and learn from them, other times need to just let them go.
In this case it sounds like you were positioning your T as a teacher or a parent figure, and have curiosity about him sexually just as any child sometimes has sexual curiosity about adults in their lives... which can feel awkward but is totally normal. I wouldn’t sweat it . |
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Roses are falling.
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__________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." |
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