Couch 211: The Stoffle couch

Salmon77 · Feb 17, 2020 at 05:53 PM

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Originally Posted by SheHulk07

Random and unexpected for me. I was checking my patient portal for one of the Ts (The one I like so far) I've seen twice to make sure I had appointments scheduled the next 2 weeks. I do, but it's saying the appointments are now on Friday I stead of Thursday like we agreed on. Last session he specifically asked if I could come in on Thursday at 10am and I agreed. The portal was saying that time, but now it's saying Friday at a different time both weeks. It's not a huge deal, because I can somehow make it work We meet with my son's in home therapist on Friday's at 1230 and this appointment is scheduled for Friday at 1115. I'm really confused about this, and wonder if it's a glitch or if he changed it without discussing it with me. I'm tempted to text/call him about it but I don't want to be a pain.

I would definitely contact the T to clarify the appointment time. I don't see how there could be anything annoying about that at all.

Salmon77 · Feb 17, 2020 at 05:56 PM

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Originally Posted by CantExplain

Actually, I was looking for support. Did I come to the wrong place?

I don't know your history with this, I was just asking a question. If her non-reply seems meaningful to you, I'm sure you have your reasons.

SlumberKitty · Feb 17, 2020 at 05:57 PM

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Originally Posted by CantExplain

Actually, I was looking for support. Did I come to the wrong place?

HUGS @CantExplain I hear you. I sent former T a text and an email after I got out of IP and I didn't hear back. I know she is under no obligation to write me anything but it hurt just the same. I'm sure it would have been helpful if Madame T would have sent you a text or a card back or something. I'm sorry that didn't happen. HUGS kit

SlumberKitty · Feb 17, 2020 at 05:58 PM

@SheHulk07 I would definitely call the T's office to check on the appointment, just in case it got entered wrong and it is really on Thursday! HUGS Kit

ArtleyWilkins · Feb 17, 2020 at 05:58 PM

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Originally Posted by CantExplain

Actually, I was looking for support. Did I come to the wrong place?

Just an observation. Sorry if it came off as unsupportive, but is it possible you are expecting something that may not really be realistic, even among close friends and family?

LonesomeTonight · Feb 17, 2020 at 06:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Salmon77

I would definitely contact the T to clarify the appointment time. I don't see how there could be anything annoying about that at all.

I'd also contact him to clarify. My T says he's never bothered by texts or emails to confirm appointment times. And if you need to rearrange your schedule a bit, you'd want to know in advance.

SheHulk07 · Feb 17, 2020 at 06:06 PM

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

@SheHulk07 I would definitely call the T's office to check on the appointment, just in case it got entered wrong and it is really on Thursday! HUGS Kit

It's just the T, no receptionist or anything. It was saying the correct time and day when I last checked a few days ago. Now it's saying this new time.

What's even weirder is that the portal blocks out every Friday, so I couldn't request that day even if I wanted on my end.

Salmon77 · Feb 17, 2020 at 06:13 PM

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Originally Posted by SheHulk07

It's just the T, no receptionist or anything. It was saying the correct time and day when I last checked a few days ago. Now it's saying this new time.

What's even weirder is that the portal blocks out every Friday, so I couldn't request that day even if I wanted on my end.

I would contact him, then. This might be a mistake and he might still expect you on Thursday.

stopdog · Feb 17, 2020 at 06:24 PM

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Originally Posted by CantExplain

Actually, I was looking for support. Did I come to the wrong place?

I know you have been gone for a few months - but did you forget the blame the client mentality that is pervasive on the site?
I do send cards back from people who send them to me unless I want the person to leave me alone - and then I just ignore the card.

atisketatasket · Feb 17, 2020 at 06:43 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

I know you have been gone for a few months - but did you forget the blame the client mentality that is pervasive on the site?
I do send cards back from people who send them to me unless I want the person to leave me alone - and then I just ignore the card.

I was raised that if someone sends you a card, birthday, Christmas, Easter, Valentine’s, you send one back. It’s good manners.

Don’t know about therapist rules, but

CE. You had a terrible time with that woman and she’s still jerking you around.

Salmon77 · Feb 17, 2020 at 06:46 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

I was raised that if someone sends you a card, birthday, Christmas, Easter, Valentine’s, you send one back. It’s good manners.

See, I was not raised this way, but I was not raised particularly well. I was actually asking a sincere question. But whatever.

atisketatasket · Feb 17, 2020 at 06:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Salmon77

See, I was not raised this way, but I was not raised particularly well. I was actually asking a sincere question. But whatever.

Believe me, sending cards in response to cards doesn’t equal being raised well.

Anyway, it looks like the answer varies from person to person.

SlumberKitty · Feb 17, 2020 at 06:59 PM

I once sent a thank you card to my Pastor's wife for sending me a graduation card when I got my MBA. She was baffled....like why would I send her a thank you card for a card? So now I send her text messages when she sends me a card, saying thank you. But the acknowledgement is still there--to me, that's the important part.

LonesomeTonight · Feb 17, 2020 at 07:13 PM

The main holiday cards we get now are just the photo kind with friends' or relatives' kids on them. We don't send any in return.

ArtleyWilkins · Feb 17, 2020 at 07:26 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Believe me, sending cards in response to cards doesn’t equal being raised well.

Anyway, it looks like the answer varies from person to person.

Thanks. Preferable response to the attack the members and blame them for something they weren’t doing. Christmas cards are pretty rare anymore, not in the way we used to do it. It used to be traditional to send out dozens (even hundreds) each year, and yes, back then you just added people to your list and sent them. Now days? I know of few people who send them out like that. We get a few from older generation family members but as most of us no longer go buy boxes of Christmas cards anymore, we don’t feel at all obligated to send one back.

unaluna · Feb 17, 2020 at 08:08 PM

Yeah, but you used to be able to send an xmas card for 2 cents. So, for a dollar, you could send 50 of them. Now, you can send two.

atisketatasket · Feb 17, 2020 at 08:17 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Yeah, but you used to be able to send an xmas card for 2 cents. So, for a dollar, you could send 50 of them. Now, you can send two.

In like 1930 it cost two cents.

Una...are you telling us the truth about your age?

unaluna · Feb 17, 2020 at 08:25 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

In like 1930 it cost two cents.

Una...are you telling us the truth about your age?

I used to be the xmas card assistant in our house. Pretty sure you could send an unsealed envelope for 2 cents when i was a girl. My dad got mad at me when i sealed them one year and cost him an extra penny per. Now i have to look it up!

stopdog · Feb 17, 2020 at 08:42 PM

I remember the huge stacks of cards my parents used to send out. My sibling and I were the stamp lickers

downandlonely · Feb 17, 2020 at 08:49 PM

Very few people send Christmas cards anymore. I didn't send or receive any this year.

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SlumberKitty Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jul 2018 Location: CA Posts: 27,329 (SuperPoster!) 5 117.7k hugs given	Feb 17, 2020 at 05:58 PM #764 @SheHulk07 I would definitely call the T's office to check on the appointment, just in case it got entered wrong and it is really on Thursday! HUGS Kit __________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA

LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 20,768 (SuperPoster!) 9 75k hugs given	Feb 17, 2020 at 07:13 PM #774 The main holiday cards we get now are just the photo kind with friends' or relatives' kids on them. We don't send any in return.

unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 39,877 (SuperPoster!) 12 66.4k hugs given	Feb 17, 2020 at 08:08 PM #776 Yeah, but you used to be able to send an xmas card for 2 cents. So, for a dollar, you could send 50 of them. Now, you can send two.

stopdog underdog is here Member Since Sep 2011 Location: blank Posts: 34,731 (SuperPoster!) 12 1 hugs given	Feb 17, 2020 at 08:42 PM #779 I remember the huge stacks of cards my parents used to send out. My sibling and I were the stamp lickers __________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.

downandlonely Legendary Member Since Mar 2018 Location: United States Posts: 10,760 (SuperPoster!) 6 10.6k hugs given	Feb 17, 2020 at 08:49 PM #780 Very few people send Christmas cards anymore. I didn't send or receive any this year.