[vander512]

My therapist informed me that I would not be able to continue to session with her anymore. She said I could come in on Monday for a session to get closure, but this would be the final session.

I told her I was wounded by this. She didn't care.

She wanted me to say that I was suicidal. She kept asking. Almost as a way to trap me. If I admit to being suicidal then that just proves her point that she can't help and that I need someone else.

What I need is her support. Therapy doesn't fix things, but it is support. She doesn't understand. I wouldn't come in the door if I didn't find it helpful. I don't understand why she is so eager to get me off her schedule.

Like sorry I have problems that is why I came here in the first place.

I am not even sure what to tell her on Monday. Should I reason with her one final time?

[Nammu]

Sounds like she's made up her mind. You call it reasoning with her but I think she'll just see it as attempts to manipulate her into seeing you. You might look for and ask for recommendations to a good DBT group.

[zoiecat]

I'm sorry she is reacting that way. I have been suicidal my whole life. It is a battle but I am working on it. I do disagree with you saying therapy doesn't fix things. A good T can help you fix things and make your life better; help you build a life worth living. With that being said, my T does not have a problem with me having suicidal thoughts and feelings but he will not continue to work with me unless I make a commitment to him that I will not hurt myself for x amount of time. The goal is for me to agree to a one year contract. If I refuse to commit then I have to find someone else.

If this T will not work with you then it may be better to find someone who will versus the hurt you are feeling now. There is also a DBT skill called DEAR MAN where you sometimes have to agree to what you are going to put up in exchange for getting the other person to at least meet you half way or provide what you are asking for. I guess by that I mean, with any T, you may have to be prepared to meet them half way as well. Make a commitment that you want to get better and will do your best on trying to improve your life. It can be done. You can do it. It is not easy but nothing in life worth having is ever easy. Try to change your point of view and look at therapy as more than support. That is the other reason my T says he will dump me; if I am only coming for support every week. I have to show improvement each year or he feels that he is not helping me and it is unethical for him to continue to see me.

It sounds like this T has made up their mind and there is already some bad blood in the relationship. Only you know the answer to that. I wish you luck either way. Take care.

[Fuzzybear]

I'm sorry she has reacted this way. She does sound uncaring. I hope you find a much better therapist who is able to support and help you.

I also agree with the post above.

[RainbowSadness]

I'm sorry you're going through this. I agree with the first reply, I would just let her go. Attempts to keep her will just be seen as manipulation and you don't want to return to a therapist you feel insecure around and like you can't trust anymore. I would never trust a therapist who had me hanging like that.

Therapy is a good thing but it's a hard process. You can't keep the same therapist forever, it's impossible. They switch jobs, they move cities, they retire, they change as people. As clients, it's sadly something we have to be prepared for. About 1.2 years ago my therapist left me for another job. It hurt super bad. I tried a few other therapists, and felt appalled by them. I felt like the only one who would work for me, was her. I had given up on therapy. Then I was referred to a program where I met my current T. He and I have got along great and I would say have made more progress in a few months than I did with my old T. I saw my old T a few days ago and it was super awkward. I was longing for her before and now I'm ready to move on <3

Keep going! You've hit a set back but don't let it be the end of the road on your journey.

[Fuzzybear]

I also agree that sometimes therapists change as people and a therapist who was helpful to us for a couple of years may no longer be helpful for this reason. It sucks... but... there is another therapist out there, somewhere, who would/could be even more helpful. I agree its not the end of your road in therapy because one therapist said they can no longer work with you, or no longer want to.