I'm angry! Not happy with T today. Disappointed and angry

Christmas cookie · Apr 03, 2020 at 02:09 PM

Today I had an appointment with T. Phone or text session. He contacted me and said his later appointment showed up two hours earlier. Can we change it to a later time today. I said okay.
And guess what?! He contacted me again my before my rescheduled appointment and said his other appointment showed up earlier- can we reschedule . I'm not sure why he's seeing patients in person with covid crisis.

Wtf?! My time isn't important!? I said no I'm not changing it. He said this client traveled from far... I said cancel my appointment

I really considered leaving and finding another therapist due to my other post about him. Now I'm definitely leaving.
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Yaowen · Apr 03, 2020 at 02:57 PM

Dear Christmas cookie,

I am so very sorry that this happened to you.

Sincerely yours, -- Yao Wen

MissUdy · Apr 03, 2020 at 03:58 PM

I would feel angry and confused too. You are important, he clearly has trouble with his boundaries, Agreeing to see people at the wrong times/messing you around . Why are all these people showing up at the wrong time anyway?! I hope you are ok and find the therapist you deserve!

Omers · Apr 03, 2020 at 06:13 PM

I would be very upset as well. I have only had a T double book once and it was handled much more appropriately. None of my T’s would ever ask me to switch times for another client.

divine1966 · Apr 04, 2020 at 04:50 AM

So he has not one but two people show up early? Hhhm what a coincidence... And why is he seeing people now? Is he physically seeing them???? Something isn’t adding up with this therapist

ArtleyWilkins · Apr 04, 2020 at 09:00 AM

Did they physically show up, or by show up did he mean they logged in for a session early? Clocks are a thing.
Either way, he could have told them to come back at their appointed time.

Bill3 · Apr 04, 2020 at 12:07 PM

He should have told them to come back at the proper time.

His actions were anti-therapeutic for both you and them.

Booshottee · Apr 04, 2020 at 12:10 PM

You have to expect the odd mix up during these difficult times, my boiler blew up last week, and they had to go away and come back 3 times with new parts.

Mopey · Apr 04, 2020 at 12:24 PM

Absolutely, Cookie. Lose this jerk!

*Beth* · Apr 04, 2020 at 02:48 PM

Wrong, wrong, wrong.

Clearly the COVID situation has mental health workers with their undies in a bundle. But when it comes to a point at which they cannot properly do their job it is not acceptable. I've been hearing too many pdocs and therapists talking about their paychecks, but not so much about their patients. Makes me wonder how talented many of these people really are.

I'm truly sorry for you, that you were badly mistreated. Normally I wouldn't suggest that someone fire their therapist. In your case, however, you have every reason to.

Christmas cookie · Apr 04, 2020 at 03:36 PM

Thank you for everyone for your responses.

I assume when he mentioned they showed up one to two hours earlier he meant in person. If it was video chat session he could have said I have another patient could we chat at scheduled time. If it was a crisis, emergency I would understand. Or if he told me without details - I have a patient in crisis who showed up for early etc

If he is seeing patients in person I do not agree with it - covid. Some people may not have access to video chat-phone call or text okay too.

I’m not happy. I find it rude. Time to look for another T

Bill3 · Apr 04, 2020 at 04:43 PM

Even if they showed up early in person, and even if Covid were not a concern, he should have told them to come at their regular time. If it were literally an actual crisis there are emergency services to call.

Christmas cookie · Apr 04, 2020 at 10:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Bill3

Even if they showed up early in person, and even if Covid were not a concern, he should have told them to come at their regular time. If it were literally an actual crisis there are emergency services to call.

Agree with you Bill3

Rive. · Apr 05, 2020 at 06:32 AM

Why on earth is he still seeing clients in person?! The recklessness of some people is unbelievable.

Regardless, your time ought to have been respected. So, he is utterly unprofessional as well.

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Yaowen Grand Magnate Member Since Jan 2020 Location: USA Posts: 3,687 (SuperPoster!) 4 6,528 hugs given	Apr 03, 2020 at 02:57 PM #2 Dear Christmas cookie, I am so very sorry that this happened to you. Sincerely yours, -- Yao Wen
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MissUdy Member Member Since Mar 2020 Location: Wales Posts: 197 4 269 hugs given	Apr 03, 2020 at 03:58 PM #3 I would feel angry and confused too. You are important, he clearly has trouble with his boundaries, Agreeing to see people at the wrong times/messing you around . Why are all these people showing up at the wrong time anyway?! I hope you are ok and find the therapist you deserve!
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Omers Grand Magnate Member Since Nov 2010 Location: Crimson cattery Posts: 3,512 14 3,133 hugs given	Apr 03, 2020 at 06:13 PM #4 I would be very upset as well. I have only had a T double book once and it was handled much more appropriately. None of my T’s would ever ask me to switch times for another client. __________________ There’s been many a crooked path that has landed me here Tired, broken and wearing rags Wild eyed with fear -Blackmoores Night
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divine1966 Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Dec 2014 Location: US Posts: 22,889 (SuperPoster!) 9 1,295 hugs given	Apr 04, 2020 at 04:50 AM #5 So he has not one but two people show up early? Hhhm what a coincidence... And why is he seeing people now? Is he physically seeing them???? Something isn’t adding up with this therapist
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ArtleyWilkins Magnate Member Since Oct 2018 Location: USA Posts: 2,812 6 7 hugs given	Apr 04, 2020 at 09:00 AM #6 Did they physically show up, or by show up did he mean they logged in for a session early? Clocks are a thing. Either way, he could have told them to come back at their appointed time.
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Bill3 Legendary Member Since Mar 2009 Location: USA Posts: 10,948 15 24.1k hugs given	Apr 04, 2020 at 12:07 PM #7 He should have told them to come back at the proper time. His actions were anti-therapeutic for both you and them.
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Booshottee New Member Member Since Apr 2020 Location: kansas Posts: 1 4 1 hugs given	Apr 04, 2020 at 12:10 PM #8 You have to expect the odd mix up during these difficult times, my boiler blew up last week, and they had to go away and come back 3 times with new parts.
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Mopey Magnate Member Since Oct 2018 Location: California Posts: 2,025 6 1,520 hugs given	Apr 04, 2020 at 12:24 PM #9 Absolutely, Cookie. Lose this jerk! __________________
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Bill3 Legendary Member Since Mar 2009 Location: USA Posts: 10,948 15 24.1k hugs given	Apr 04, 2020 at 04:43 PM #12 Even if they showed up early in person, and even if Covid were not a concern, he should have told them to come at their regular time. If it were literally an actual crisis there are emergency services to call.
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Rive. Magnate Member Since Sep 2013 Posts: 2,201 11	Apr 05, 2020 at 06:32 AM #14 Why on earth is he still seeing clients in person?! The recklessness of some people is unbelievable. Regardless, your time ought to have been respected. So, he is utterly unprofessional as well.
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