[OliverB]

I have my next appointment in two weeks but lately I have been feeling suicidal and hopeless.

My therapist told me to call him if I I need to talk but I feel I will bother him if I do, what can he do through the phone if I tell him I want to die? I do not want to be a drama and cause a situation where he is unconfortable and cannot help.

Maybe there is no help.

If he didnt think he could help you over the phone , and if it would bother him, he wouldnt has offered the opportunity, I think.
My therapist and I text each other between appointments all the time. Sometimes she calls inbetween just to check on me.

[Mountaindewed]

My therapist gave me her email and said I could email her but she wouldn’t respond. Now she responds all the time. She says she likes it when I email her because she can get the bigger picture that way.

[Rive.]

How can there be no help if T specifically asked you to call, if you needed to..

There is clearly help. Question is: will you take it?

[MissUdy]

Does any part of you think just talking to your T would help? The part of me that wants to die never wants me to talk to my therapist. It knows I probably won’t kill myself if I have him still. I hope you are ok.

[LonesomeTonight]

If he told you that you could call, it's OK to call. It's not bothering him if he said you can. I know you're not sure if he can help on the phone, but I feel it's worth a try if you're feeling that badly right now. I know I've been helped by talking to a T on the phone (a former one--my current T only does email between sessions, but he's been very helpful through that at times). Hope you can talk to him and that it helps you.

[ChickenNoodleSoup]

I've been in similar situations before, for me, it always helped just to talk to my T for a bit, just hear his voice, get some advice on what I could do to get through it. Sometimes (though I'm not sure the current situation permits it for you) he offered me an extra session earlier than usual.

[downandlonely]

If he said it was ok to call and you're feeling that badly, I would go ahead and call.

[Flinders40]

Originally Posted by Starry_Night

If he didnt think he could help you over the phone , and if it would bother him, he wouldnt has offered the opportunity, I think.
My therapist and I text each other between appointments all the time. Sometimes she calls inbetween just to check on me.

She sounds more like a friend than a mental health professional.

[OliverB]

Originally Posted by Rive.

How can there be no help if T specifically asked you to call, if you needed to..

There is clearly help. Question is: will you take it?

What can he do yo help me? That is the point.

I feel unhelpable.

[Omers]

I hate phones. I hate phone sessions. I really hate video sessions.
When I am really hurting though T really is able to help over the phone. I am sorry I can’t say “how” or even what he does/says... I am usually in such a state that I don’t remember and I often am exhausted and take a nap after. It has been worth making the call for me.

[Sometimes psychotic]

Originally Posted by OliverB

What can he do yo help me? That is the point.

I feel unhelpable.

Your T can assess you and whether you might need hospitalization to save your life, but aside from that I’ve found that my T sees situations very differently than me...having a second opinion can be very helpful.

[OliverB]

Maybe I can not see a way out because I am feeling to depressed.

[Rive.]

Originally Posted by OliverB

What can he do yo help me? That is the point.

I feel unhelpable.

Give him a chance.

You feel 'unhelpable'. Maybe he feels differently? Has strategies? A plan?

He offered to be here for you. But you are the one who has to make the decision as to whether to accept the help or not.

[tree7car]

Originally Posted by OliverB

Maybe I can not see a way out because I am feeling to depressed.

This is often my problem. When depression has totally overtaken everything, I see no hope. Then I feel horrible for even asking others for help because I feel like it would just be a waste of their time.

But time after time, I've been reassured that I'm not wasting anyone's time.

Reaching out is important. Please try.

[WastingAsparagus]

Yeah, with my therapist, I feel like I reach out too much. So that's kind of a sign for me that I should either tone it down a little bit or should switch therapists because therapy isn't working (I tend to believe the latter).

Regarding your question, I think reaching out is never a bad idea. The worst that could happen is that the therapist isn't available to take your call, but will call you back sometime soon after you leave a message.

[SlumberKitty]

I've learned reaching out can be most helpful. When I try to go it alone I usually mess up. HUGS Kit

[OliverB]

Ok, I have called the community mental health center more than 10 times until someone answered the phone.
The receptionist told me It is too late and to wait until next week (my therapist work there only on tuesday and wednesday).

[Omers]

Ugh, OliverB I am SOO sorry. IMO how inappropriate of them and rude!!! That is ridiculous. Please tell your T this when you talk to them next! Again, IMO and I am going to be so bold as to say I am pretty sure my T would back me on this, how utterly unethical and inhuman of them!

[Rive.]

If your therapist only works there Tuesday & Wednesday, I can see how they would say it's too late. He may be full up. Community centres can be a bit.. impersonal too.

Could they not pass him a message?

Still, this is something worth addressing with T in session: what if I need you on days you are not working? How do I get in touch with you? What if it is an emergency?

Therapist and I recently started playing a couple game apps together. We are on the same teams. It helps to know that even if we dont call or text for a few days, I like to know she is around.

[OliverB]

My therapist is nice, It is justo the community center that doesn't work really well...

If It had an emergency I would have to be patient until he can call me back. ER is not an option, they do not listen to me because I always look quiet.

I am doing more or less OK considering the situation (my abusive parent that abandoned me has tried to get in touch with me ...).

My next appointment is on Tuesday

I am writing down what I want to tell him.