[Crook32]

My old T promised to talk to my new T to fill her in on our therapy together. However my old T first only return one call but didn’t reach my new T. New T tried calling about three times and never heard back. Then she texted to nail down a time. That seemed to work but then right before the call my old T cancelled. I really shouldn’t be surprised by this behavior it is part of the reason I changed T’s. I am starting to think she never cared about me. She wants me to email her in two weeks to tell her how my new therapy is going. I am debating now if I will do that or not. Sorry I am just upset and disappointed so I had to vent a little.

[MissUdy]

That doesn’t sound like a nice situation, can’t imagine how hard it is to start over again. I know it’s a pain And takes time but maybe you can fill your new T in instead? How would it feel to start fresh without your previous Ts input? Sorry they were unreliable, I hope the new one is a better therapist.

[ArtleyWilkins]

Honestly, I've never had or wanted my old therapists to talk to my new therapists. I prefer to start fresh without any preconceived ideas from someone else.

[Crook32]

Just told my new T to not waste anymore of her time on old T.

[daisydid]

I had Ts play phone tag back and forth for a while the one time I gave permission to do so. Eventually after a couple months I didn’t see the point. Neither did my new T. I don’t give permission anymore.

[LonesomeTonight]

Sorry you're dealing with this. I never gave my current T permission to talk to my ex-T, even though he wanted it. I sort of liked the "starting fresh" idea, where he wouldn't have a preconceived opinion of me based on what my ex-T (of 6 years) thought. I did eventually (after a couple months) let him talk to ex-marriage counselor, who we were still seeing at the time (but I only allowed ex-MC to share information, not for current T to tell him anything about me--there was an option on the form for that). I think there are definite benefits to starting fresh.