Couch 216: The Baseball Couch

chihirochild · Jul 02, 2020 at 03:14 PM

I’m trying to sort out why I hate talking to my T about the guys I date. I really don’t understand it—I tell my friends every little detail with no problem, but my T asks me if I’ve kissed some guy yet and I just cringe.

Maybe it’s because he fulfills something of a parental figure in my life and I made it a point never to talk about dating with my parents?

susannahsays · Jul 02, 2020 at 03:15 PM

I dunno, asking you if you've kissed a guy yet seems cringey to me. I don't think that's a weird reaction to have when a non-friend asks you something like that.

unaluna · Jul 02, 2020 at 03:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

Thanks guys!

I can feel the lurrve.
Never had such a huge break before- 53 days! I've always been stuck with retakes.
Not sure what to do with my time other than still keep studying low key.I know I have huge gaps with pharma.
I'm also not travelling back to London.

Thats like 2 whole months!!! Except you cant go anywhere cuz then you would have to quarantine for 2 weeks, before AND after. So that kinda cuts into it. No impulse trips. How about Finland? You could help sweep the forests? J/K!

SlumberKitty · Jul 02, 2020 at 03:55 PM

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Originally Posted by susannahsays

Didn't she have to cancel f2f and do phone instead, Kit? Maybe she feels guilty.

Oh that's true @susannahsays I hadn't thought of that. I was initially disappointed that we weren't going to see each other face to face, but the session turned out alright on the phone. I hadn't thought of it that way. Thanks for pointing it out!

Kit

ArtieTheSequal · Jul 02, 2020 at 04:09 PM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

I had a particularly intense session today and now I'm just sad and don't feel like doing any work. I wish he would send me a post-session note of acknowledgement or something. No headache, though I have had a crying-induced headache before.

that's the way i feel after yesterday's really difficult session. i cannot focus today for the life of me. i have processed only 24 messages (i'm on break right now) and by this time on a normal day, I'd be at 48. I do +/- 53 most days by an hour from now. I would have liked the same kind of thing from L today, but of course she won't. she really seemed to be fed up with me yesterday.

LonesomeTonight · Jul 02, 2020 at 05:26 PM

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Originally Posted by chihirochild

I’m trying to sort out why I hate talking to my T about the guys I date. I really don’t understand it—I tell my friends every little detail with no problem, but my T asks me if I’ve kissed some guy yet and I just cringe.

Maybe it’s because he fulfills something of a parental figure in my life and I made it a point never to talk about dating with my parents?

I could see this. I had paternal feelings toward ex-MC, and anytime sex came up in there, I sort of wanted to disappear into the couch. It's a little awkward with Dr. T, especially because he tends to use actual words for things, while I'm more likely to use euphemisms,* but it's still more comfortable with him because I don't tend to feel the paternal stuff with him.

*This probably doesn't need a trigger warning, but just in case:

Possible trigger:

I think of the time I was talking about sexual stuff and "doing things to myself" and then he said, "You mean masturbating?" and I just wanted to die of embarrassment. Something about him using the actual word...

susannahsays · Jul 02, 2020 at 05:32 PM

Honestly, I don't feel comfortable talking about that stuff with men unless I also happen to be sleeping with them. I've never experienced paternal transference. There was a male nurse I was really fond of during a 3 month long hospital stay, but it didn't feel paternal to me. I guess I'm saying that I don't think the discomfort is pathological.

ETA - Seems more societal. I mean, they split up girls and boys in health class when I was a kid to talk about sex-specific things.

unaluna · Jul 02, 2020 at 08:31 PM

I woke up today thinking it was saturday.

Daffydungle · Jul 02, 2020 at 08:34 PM

I hate it when my cat does that owl thing with his head. Freaks me out.

Daffydungle · Jul 02, 2020 at 08:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

It's okay to email about fees.

I picked my t based on his photo- I hope she won't mind the comment.

I think my thought was if i feel like she looks timid and unsure maybe other people will too.

Daffydungle · Jul 02, 2020 at 09:53 PM

I want to go out when all this thing is over but i dont think i want to go back to the drumming lessons as i thought it might be a good social thing but everyone packs up and leaves as soon as its finished and i dont really feel comfortable there but i enjoy the drumming even if i have no rhythm. I only went 4 times begore we couldnt.

Lemoncake · Jul 03, 2020 at 01:54 AM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Thats like 2 whole months!!! Except you cant go anywhere cuz then you would have to quarantine for 2 weeks, before AND after. So that kinda cuts into it. No impulse trips. How about Finland? You could help sweep the forests? J/K!

You sure know me about the impulsive tendencies! I'm naturally a hermit- as long as I get a daily walk I'm okay.

Three things I do want to do/go to:

Ikea .
I want pancakes from the hipster cafe.
I want to go to the burger bar I like.

I'm going to go back to learning French + maths.

P.s How is your exercise going? I really want to back to the gym but I'm afraid of cooties.

Lemoncake · Jul 03, 2020 at 02:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Daffydungle

I want to go out when all this thing is over but i dont think i want to go back to the drumming lessons as i thought it might be a good social thing but everyone packs up and leaves as soon as its finished and i dont really feel comfortable there but i enjoy the drumming even if i have no rhythm. I only went 4 times begore we couldnt.

If you enjoy the class maybe keep going, but have a look at other groups. We have the website Meetup. Maybe you guys might have something similar- they have all kinds of groups from just hiking to a war hammer gaming guild!

Lemoncake · Jul 03, 2020 at 02:09 AM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

I woke up today thinking it was saturday.

Party like it's saturday anyway!

chihirochild · Jul 03, 2020 at 06:20 AM

Blargh, woke up at 4:30 again for no particular reason (other than the fact that I’m switching from the night shift to a regular day schedule). The good news is that I’m supposed to hang out with this guy J whom I am really starting to like. We’re supposed to go hiking but the weather is looking cruddy so we might stay in and play board games instead.

chihirochild · Jul 03, 2020 at 06:50 AM

Also, I emailed my T asking if we could take off the third week of July since I'll be camping all that week and he emailed back saying it was complicated and that he'd leave me a voicemail with his thoughts. Why can't he just say yes? Oof.

LostOnTheTrail · Jul 03, 2020 at 07:11 AM

That's nuts, Chihiro. I'm sorry he isn't being more helpful.

stopdog · Jul 03, 2020 at 07:26 AM

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Originally Posted by chihirochild

Also, I emailed my T asking if we could take off the third week of July since I'll be camping all that week and he emailed back saying it was complicated and that he'd leave me a voicemail with his thoughts. Why can't he just say yes? Oof.

Don't ask - just tell the guy when you are next available.

ElectricManatee · Jul 03, 2020 at 08:16 AM

There is a big new swimming update to Animal Crossing that was released today! That might keep you occupied until date time. Also I really want to hear what the complication to your scheduling request is! Like, WTF?

ArtieTheSequal · Jul 03, 2020 at 09:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

You sure know me about the impulsive tendencies! I'm naturally a hermit- as long as I get a daily walk I'm okay.

Three things I do want to do/go to:

Ikea .
I want pancakes from the hipster cafe.
I want to go to the burger bar I like.

I'm going to go back to learning French + maths.

P.s How is your exercise going? I really want to back to the gym but I'm afraid of cooties.

ooh pancakes sound really good and i am intrigued by the 'hipster cafe', trying to picture what that is like!

I have never been to Ikea although we do have one here, up north a bit in the county where the stupid virus is spreading like crazy. i will not be going up there anytime soon, needless to say.

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susannahsays Grand Magnate Member Since Jun 2018 Location: Somewhere Posts: 3,355 5 1 hugs given	Jul 02, 2020 at 03:15 PM #922 I dunno, asking you if you've kissed a guy yet seems cringey to me. I don't think that's a weird reaction to have when a non-friend asks you something like that. __________________ Life is hard. Then you die. Then they throw dirt in your face. -David Gerrold

unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 40,034 (SuperPoster!) 12 66.8k hugs given	Jul 02, 2020 at 08:31 PM #928 I woke up today thinking it was saturday.

Daffydungle Poohbah Member Since Apr 2020 Location: Nowhere Posts: 1,257 4 451 hugs given	Jul 02, 2020 at 08:34 PM #929 I hate it when my cat does that owl thing with his head. Freaks me out.

Daffydungle Poohbah Member Since Apr 2020 Location: Nowhere Posts: 1,257 4 451 hugs given	Jul 02, 2020 at 09:53 PM #931 I want to go out when all this thing is over but i dont think i want to go back to the drumming lessons as i thought it might be a good social thing but everyone packs up and leaves as soon as its finished and i dont really feel comfortable there but i enjoy the drumming even if i have no rhythm. I only went 4 times begore we couldnt.

chihirochild Magnate Member Since Feb 2017 Location: North America Posts: 2,360 7 4,865 hugs given	Jul 03, 2020 at 06:20 AM #935 Blargh, woke up at 4:30 again for no particular reason (other than the fact that I’m switching from the night shift to a regular day schedule). The good news is that I’m supposed to hang out with this guy J whom I am really starting to like. We’re supposed to go hiking but the weather is looking cruddy so we might stay in and play board games instead.

chihirochild Magnate Member Since Feb 2017 Location: North America Posts: 2,360 7 4,865 hugs given	Jul 03, 2020 at 06:50 AM #936 Also, I emailed my T asking if we could take off the third week of July since I'll be camping all that week and he emailed back saying it was complicated and that he'd leave me a voicemail with his thoughts. Why can't he just say yes? Oof.

ElectricManatee Magnate Member Since May 2017 Location: Earth Posts: 2,515 6 4,704 hugs given	Jul 03, 2020 at 08:16 AM #939 There is a big new swimming update to Animal Crossing that was released today! That might keep you occupied until date time. Also I really want to hear what the complication to your scheduling request is! Like, WTF?