Is Anyone Here Pleased With Your Therapist?

*Beth* · 06:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Salmon77

People don't start threads to say "everything's fine," just when they have questions or problems. It leads to the impression that everyone is having problems. But it seems to me like a lot of people are happy with their therapists and find therapy helpful.

I apologize, Salmon...I don't understand your post Do you mean that when people start a thread it's when they're having a problem or have a question?

If that's what you mean, I'd say that's usually true. But then, not every thread (in my opinion) has to be about what's wrong; some threads are about what's going well. I find those threads encouraging.
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Okay, sorry...I think I understand your post now. The title I gave to this thread isn't the best. I apologize.

*Beth* · Aug 06, 2020 at 06:12 PM

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Originally Posted by nottrustin

...One of the things she mentioned was that trust is never a black and white issue. There are always levels and for those with trauma is more complex

That's such an important insight, I think! I've never really thought about trust like that before. I'm glad you had the check-in with your T

*Beth* · Aug 06, 2020 at 06:16 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Yes, this. Like the forum description says, "A place to discuss psychotherapy issues, such as transference, choosing a therapist, when to terminate, etc."

If there's no issue, it's hard to discuss that. ETA: My general impression is that most are either happy with their therapist or can work with them even if they're not over the moon about it.

I could have worded the title of my post differently. I'm never very good with titling posts, for some reason I get stuck on coming up with a title. "A Thread to Discuss Your Therapist & Therapy" or "Progress in Therapy", or something might have been a better title.

*Beth* · Aug 06, 2020 at 06:18 PM

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Originally Posted by LilyMop

Yes I finally found a therapist who has been great so far. I’m thankful for PC friends who kept encouraging me to look for one. It took a long time.

It's great that friends here helped you out! I find the support on this forum to be terrific.

*Beth* · Aug 06, 2020 at 06:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Starry_Night

Yes my therapist is wonderful. I have made so much progress.

Starry_Night, if you want to I'd love to know about some of the progress you've made. What is an issue you went into therapy with that you feel like you've made progress on (if you feel like sharing)?

nottrustin · Aug 06, 2020 at 06:41 PM

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Originally Posted by BethRags

That's such an important insight, I think! I've never really thought about trust like that before. I'm glad you had the check-in with your T

It was a very helpful check in and point. I often get frustrated when I fear trusting or put up my wall and I told her so. I always thought that because I trusted my husband I didnt have real trust people. When really I always had a wall up and didnt allow others to get close to me.

nottrustin · Aug 06, 2020 at 06:48 PM

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Originally Posted by BethRags

I apologize, Salmon...I don't understand your post Do you mean that when people start a thread it's when they're having a problem or have a question?

If that's what you mean, I'd say that's usually true. But then, not every thread (in my opinion) has to be about what's wrong; some threads are about what's going well. I find those threads encouraging, because that's what I'm here for...to work on resolving mental health issues.
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Okay, sorry...I think I understand your post now. The title I gave to this thread isn't the best. I apologize.

I have on occasion (not in quite a while though) started positive threads especially when ther are a lot of very negative threads going

Salmon77 · Aug 06, 2020 at 06:54 PM

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Originally Posted by BethRags

I apologize, Salmon...I don't understand your post Do you mean that when people start a thread it's when they're having a problem or have a question?

If that's what you mean, I'd say that's usually true. But then, not every thread (in my opinion) has to be about what's wrong; some threads are about what's going well. I find those threads encouraging, because that's what I'm here for...to work on resolving mental health issues.
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Okay, sorry...I think I understand your post now. The title I gave to this thread isn't the best. I apologize.

No worries, I think I misunderstood your initial question.

Anyway, I am generally pleased with my therapist—I have been seeing him a few years, I think he is a smart, kind person who cares about me, and I feel like I have made progress in life because of therapy.

*Beth* · Aug 06, 2020 at 07:00 PM

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Originally Posted by nottrustin

I have on occasion (not in quite a while though) started positive threads especially when ther are a lot of very negative threads going

That's what I meant to do, but the title sounds like I'm shaming people for bringing up problems about their therapists. That is not at all what I meant. If anything, it's been me on this board for the past week complaining and fretting over my own T's absence and pleading for opinions!

I just meant to have a thread about things we do value about our therapists (if anything). And, for those who aren't feeling good about their therapists, is there a specific reason(s) that they stay?

Blah....I hope it's clear that I definitely wasn't trying to be confrontational, at all.

*Beth* · Aug 06, 2020 at 07:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Salmon77

No worries, I think I misunderstood your initial question.

Anyway, I am generally pleased with my therapist—I have been seeing him a few years, I think he is a smart, kind person who cares about me, and I feel like I have made progress in life because of therapy.

That is wonderful!

I'm really happy for those of us who are doing therapy with T's we are bonded with. And I hope for those who have having difficulties with their T's, that somehow things get resolved.

divine1966 · Aug 06, 2020 at 07:24 PM

When I saw my t regularly I found it helpful for specific issue I needed to work on and yes we have good relationship. I only see her few times a year now to catch up so I can’t really say I am in therapy. But when I was it was useful. I like her and we clicked on many levels.

I don’t make threads because there is really not much to say. I made a few when I complained that she answered the phone in session or something, awhile ago.

My husband has a very good t and he finds her very helpful, he has zero complaints about her

People mostly post when they have concerns I think. Not just about therapy but about anything else too

nottrustin · Aug 06, 2020 at 07:35 PM

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Originally Posted by BethRags

That's what I meant to do, but the title sounds like I'm shaming people for bringing up problems about their therapists. That is not at all what I meant. If anything, it's been me on this board for the past week complaining and fretting over my own T's absence and pleading for opinions!

I just meant to have a thread about things we do value about our therapists (if anything). And, for those who aren't feeling good about their therapists, is there a specific reason(s) that they stay?

Blah....I hope it's clear that I definitely wasn't trying to be confrontational, at all.

I interpreted it the way you intended.

*Beth* · Aug 06, 2020 at 08:11 PM

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Originally Posted by divine1966

When I saw my t regularly I found it helpful for specific issue I needed to work on and yes we have good relationship. I only see her few times a year now to catch up so I can’t really say I am in therapy. But when I was it was useful. I like her and we clicked on many levels.

I don’t make threads because there is really not much to say. I made a few when I complained that she answered the phone in session or something, awhile ago.

My husband has a very good t and he finds her very helpful, he has zero complaints about her

People mostly post when they have concerns I think. Not just about therapy but about anything else too

Being able to see her a few times a year is great.

I believe that everyone should have a therapist the way we have a GP. Someone to talk to at least a few times a year. I think the world would be a lot more peaceful. And if it was expected that we'd all see a T every now and then, just like we see a GP, mental health needs would be much less stigmatized.

Good for your husband for going to therapy. In the past, my husband has been in therapy, but I don't think he ever really clicked with the ones he saw.

InnerPeace111 · Aug 07, 2020 at 12:18 AM

Yes, I am very pleased with my therapist! I feel like we have a great relationship. I have grown tremendously as a person and completely changed my lifestyle over the past decade. With my therapist’s care and support, I have been able to develop a regular meditation practice and a yoga practice. I also joined a sangha, became a runner, and now engage in mindful eating. Am I perfect? Nope! Am I further along in my journey through life as a result of my therapist? Absolutely!

Rive. · Aug 07, 2020 at 04:53 AM

I think it is in the nature of things for people to voice (i.e. vent, complain etc.) when things go wrong, rather than praise all the good stuff.. Hence, forums tending to be more negative. Unfortunately, that can sometimes skew perspective where we only see the 'bad' and forget the good.

Of course, one also typically finds the good ol' troll who has to spew their venom and demonise all Ts. Though that says more about said trolls than about the T 'species' anyway.

*Beth* · Aug 07, 2020 at 07:55 AM

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Originally Posted by InnerPeace111

Yes, I am very pleased with my therapist! I feel like we have a great relationship. I have grown tremendously as a person and completely changed my lifestyle over the past decade. With my therapist’s care and support, I have been able to develop a regular meditation practice and a yoga practice. I also joined a sangha, became a runner, and now engage in mindful eating. Am I perfect? Nope! Am I further along in my journey through life as a result of my therapist? Absolutely!

How wonderful it is that you've achieved such success with your therapy!

btw, your quote from Rumi is outstanding

Omers · Aug 07, 2020 at 09:49 AM

Yes, I really like my T, trust him a LOT and think we are making progress. Most of the time I look forward to sessions even if I know they are going to be hard because I can trust him to keep me safe. This coming week I am seeing a new T but the three of us will be working together on my goals. I can’t imagine leaving T1 and being able to finish the work we have started with someone else.

WastingAsparagus · Aug 07, 2020 at 10:13 AM

Yes, absolutely. I think she is great. Unfortunately, my parents forced me to fire her recently, which is messed up. I hope she'll take me back as a client if I decide to go back...

divine1966 · Aug 07, 2020 at 10:14 AM

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Originally Posted by BethRags

Being able to see her a few times a year is great.

I believe that everyone should have a therapist the way we have a GP. Someone to talk to at least a few times a year. I think the world would be a lot more peaceful. And if it was expected that we'd all see a T every now and then, just like we see a GP, mental health needs would be much less stigmatized.

Good for your husband for going to therapy. In the past, my husband has been in therapy, but I don't think he ever really clicked with the ones he saw.

My husband has been In therapy on and off most of his adult life mostly due to severe OCD and Tourette’s , he only had positive experiences. Low dose meds only take edge off. When OCD flares up Tourette’s gets out of control. He needs to go over strategies and techniques with a professional every that often so he can function , especially in a professional world.

I saw my t for bereavement issues due to complicated /extended grief due to several illnesses and deaths in the family. I also worked with her on dealing with my difficult father and some other difficult family members in both mine and husbands family. Some ideas and things I got from my t I passed on to my brother and it helps us both to deal with our dad.

*Beth* · Aug 07, 2020 at 12:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Omers

Yes, I really like my T, trust him a LOT and think we are making progress. Most of the time I look forward to sessions even if I know they are going to be hard because I can trust him to keep me safe. This coming week I am seeing a new T but the three of us will be working together on my goals. I can’t imagine leaving T1 and being able to finish the work we have started with someone else.

Leaving T1 will be hard, surely. That said, you're doing so in a smart way by transitioning with both therapists into the news situation.

I hope everything goes really well for you. Omers

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