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It's possible that people post on this board when we're having a temporary difficulty with our therapist, or when we are displeased with our therapist/therapy, in general.
I can't recall any post I've read here that says, in essence, I trust my therapist, we have a great relationship, and I feel like I'm growing in therapy. Is there anyone here who truly feels you are gaining benefit from therapy? If not, why do you keep going? __________________ |
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#2
Yes I do! My therapist is brilliant. She has given me extra sessions for not much more money than a single session. She has texted me when I'm suicudal. She let's you email if needs be. She always says she enjoys our sessions and says nice things. She always is smiling. She is really nice. I do change my sessions for her if she needs to cause i am flexible so its fine.
I genuinely really like her and she gives sound advice. |
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#3
Through my work with R I am learning how to create space for my feelings and not shame myself when they emerge.
I feel grateful to have found a therapist that I trust and feel able to work with. __________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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#4
I really trust my T and I have a good relationship with her. Sometimes she can be odd and say odd things but I think that is partly her and partly her getting older. (Like maybe having some memory/concentration issues.) But she is attentive to me. Sometimes she is off base. I'm not saying she is perfect, but she's good enough. I'm learning to deal with complicated emotions (complicated for me like anger, disappointment, hurt) instead of pushing them aside or using negative coping patterns. She let me see Pastor T for as long as I wanted in addition to her. She let me have a case manager too while working with her. She isn't threatened by other people on my team. She seems genuinely happy to see me. She seems genuinely pleased at my progress. She's a really nice lady.
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Yes, most definitely. That's not to say there haven't been ruptures or times when I haven't felt connected, but for the most part I do trust him and we have a good relationship. I'm fairly certain he feels the same way.
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#6
My T is lovely, genuine and trustworthy. I really care about her as a person and I've always felt a deep sense of love and care from her. It hasn't always been smooth sailing but I absolutely know I can share how I feel with her, even stuff directed at her, and she will never reject me for it.
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#7
Yes. I trust L, we have a great relationship, and I do feel like I'm growing. L and I have worked hard to have a safe, trusting relationship. We value honesty above all else. This month I've been taking a lot of risks to be more open and expressing myself. It's helping in my real life too. I've been better able to set boundaries with my family.
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#8
I would say something closer to:
I trust my therapist as much as I am capable of trusting anyone. We have a rupturous but loving relationship. I feel like I'm growing in therapy. For me, relationships are rarely as relaxed as trusting someone and everything is great. I am not able to be in relation easily. |
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My T is fantastic. I dread the day she tells me she is going to retire. I've worked with her for over thirty years. She has seen me through Hell and back. Sometimes she upsets me or makes me angry, but I feel so grateful to have found her.
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I just had this conversation with my T at our last session. I trust my T and I like her and we get along well. But I can also move onto another T just as easily if I have to. I adjust easily to new T’s and I have done so for 10 years. I have had plenty of therapists who were the same age as my current one and I have acted the same with. The current one in the grand scheme of things really isn’t any different to the ones I’ve had before. Although she certainly has been much more helpful then the others I’ve had regarding certain issues.
I told her all this and I feel kinda bad because she had this sad look on her face like I was telling her she was easily replaced. Knowing her I wouldn’t be surprised if she thinks this. __________________ Ridin' with Biden |
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I am very pleased with the two Ts I have worked with. I have been very fortunate to have them. Current T is caring compassionate, non judgmental and accepting. She of course is not perfect but really I don't want someone who is perfect. I want somebody who is human.
We went into out theraputic relationship with one plan and that changed overnight with long term Ts accident. We went from every other week with her being my second T who was only working with with my trauma to being my only T and dealing with everything and at that point our focus was on dealing with my grief, anger, etc while also redefining our theraputic relationship. She has been great and understanding. At times I worried about talking about long term T so much for so long and I voiced that fear. she reassured me that she understood the unique relationship I had with other T and that Long term T was always welcome in our sessions because of the bond we had, the things I learned from her and just because that was what I needed. Plus when I have been angry or upset with her I can tell her. It is hard for me but she has shown me everytime that she can handle it. She accepts her part, explains what her thought process was and apologizes when appropriate. If I ask for something that she hasnt been sure about (like texting just to vent and get it out, she talks it through and processes with me l. We also discussed what each of our expectations were to make sure we were in the same page. __________________ |
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#12
I had a great T, and therapy was very successful and has influenced my life a lot.
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#13
So far, so good. He’s kind and smart. He hasn’t said any awful things that set me off, like others have. He naturally addressed my issues are due to my own behavior and I need to change that. So I’m working on that.
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#14
This thread is encouraging. I feel happy reading it. I adore my therapist and feel so lucky to have hooked up with her. She's a loving, down-to-earth woman; I appreciate her genuine manner. I feel that I have grown by leaps since starting work with her 2 years ago. She can be forgetful, but she's coming up on 70, so I get that. My singular problem with her is that her health is not great, so she cancels a session about every third week (I do see her twice per week, though), and every year she's out for at least a month. I worry that she'll retire next year...I wish we would have met a few years ago. But, I just take it day by day. I don't pay anything to see her, btw. __________________ |
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#16
People don't start threads to say "everything's fine," just when they have questions or problems. It leads to the impression that everyone is having problems. But it seems to me like a lot of people are happy with their therapists and find therapy helpful.
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#17
I like both of my therapists. They treat me with respect and kindness. The one I've seen the longest makes me pretty angry sometimes, but she responds well to my anger and wants to work through it with me. And when things are good with her, they're usually really good. My relationship with the other one is less intense, but she is funny and has useful things to teach me. I am less depressed and less likely to fly off the handle emotionally now than I've ever been in my adult life, so clearly something is helping.
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If there's no issue, it's hard to discuss that. ETA: My general impression is that most are either happy with their therapist or can work with them even if they're not over the moon about it. |
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#19
Yes I finally found a therapist who has been great so far. I’m thankful for PC friends who kept encouraging me to look for one. It took a long time.
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Yes my therapist is wonderful. I have made so much progress.
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