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When I first started seeing my T, I was just 18 still a kid. I was so lost, struggling with self harming, trauma, and an eating disorder. It didn't take long and she witnessed the entire relapse, I went from a healthy weight to a very dangerously low weight in months. I lost my father, and my whole life was just a mess.
fast forward, I'm 21 now, and I am heading into uni. I have managed to go to college, and get a place in higher ed something I never thought I would be able to do. I have been admitted multiple times, to acute units and ed units but I have fought back and I'm a healthy weight now and the best and happiest in a very long time. My T witnessed that too, from a very lost kid, to a blossoming young adult. what is it like for a T to see that transformation of a patient/client? |
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It can be challenging and rewarding. It varies by therapist or provider. In general, most therapists appreciate the connection with the client/patient. They appreciate and value honesty, and it can feel rewarding when progress is made. Even when challenges or relapses happen, it can feel good as a therapist to be trusted and for the client to keep coming back.
It's likely that your story and your journey have impacted the therapist. Likely that they think of you outside of session. They may even get their own therapy for themselves to help mitigate some of the vicarious trauma or emotional challenges that being a therapist can bring up. There's also no harm in asking a therapist directly the question you asked. "What has this been like for you seeing me through all these ups and downs?" Therapists may not always answer that, or will provide diplomatic answers, but it's a way to get it from the horse's mouth. |
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I would guess they pat themselves on the back and tell themselves that they did a great job.
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I imagine it would be a great feeling for everyone involved if people manage to get their **** together.
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I think they probably feel happy for clients, like when a friend achieves something. When I hit a work milestone my T said he was proud of me. I thought it was weird but nice.
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I'm thinking it must feel a lot like seeing your child walk off to the first day of kindergarten. At least, the way it felt for me, being an at-home mom. I guess the word is...bittersweet.
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IME they do feel a sense of pride. Not so much because of what they accomplished but because of the nature of the relationship. As my T said she is there to facility and witness my growth and change.
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Mine have told me it's a sense of relief to know I'm not in that same very dark place anymore because they know had long and dangerous the journey was to get where I am.
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I think it is rewarding. My former T didn't get to experience the exponential growth I've experienced in this past year or so but she was with me for 10 years, walking through the hard times with me. So now when I tell her how well I'm doing, she is pleased and proud. Likewise my T that I have now seems very proud of me for how far I have come since I started with her and she always tells me now, "You are doing so good." It's like they are happy for me. If something good happens to a friend or a colleague I am happy for them, but I think it is deeper than that for the T because they helped me get there.
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I know my T has shed tears of pain over my experiences as a child. I know he has spent evenings worried and wondering how I could possibly be OK. I know he beams with pride when I take a risk... even if it ends up in disaster... I know he beams even brighter when I succeed. I know if something really bad happened to me he would grieve even if we hadn’t seen eachother in a long time. I know if something good happens he will celebrate with me. I also know what ever happens to me or with me his life, both personally and professionally, will go on... he might pause for a moment... but he will be OK.
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