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Luna's offical mini me.
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#881
__________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." |
SlumberKitty
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ArtieTheSequal, Quietmind 2
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Writing my way through...
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Location: In the desert
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#882
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Lemoncake, SlumberKitty
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Poohbah
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Location: PNW
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#883
Artie, I think you have every right to be POed and should tell her how her email made you feel. It's plain rude to push diet advice on somebody who didn't ask for it and has said they don't want it.
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SlumberKitty, unaluna
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ArtieTheSequal, feralkittymom, LonesomeTonight, Quietmind 2, unaluna
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Writing my way through...
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#884
I never even knew pork cheeks were a thing!
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SlumberKitty, unaluna
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unaluna
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Writing my way through...
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#885
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Yeah and I don't have a gallbladder anymore either which might make a difference too. I over the pork cheeks! thank you!! |
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Tweaky Dog
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Location: England
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#886
Yikes, Artie. I can see how that would touch a nerve. Do you feel up to having a conversation with L about it? (I doubt it could be dealt with productively over email, and anything that has the potential of making you feel worse is to be minimised/avoided at the moment.)
__________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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ArtieTheSequal
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Writing my way through...
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Location: In the desert
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#887
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Thank you, yes, I am going to try to use this as grist for the mill as they say, I was just reading an article about when therapists make mistakes (I see this as a mistake on her part whether she does or not) and it asks the client to think about "What interpretation are you making? What do you feel exactly?" I don't even have to think about those answers I already know exactly so I am going to bring that into therapy with me Wednesday and talk about it with her. Her email totally triggered my abandonment issues (as in, I am no longer acceptable to her, not good enough, so she will leave me so f her I will leave first) and my abandonment issues are what we are just starting to dig more deeply into. But apparently I need to be pissed off a little longer first. Last edited by ArtieTheSequal; Oct 03, 2020 at 04:53 PM.. |
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Grand Poohbah
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Location: Toodlepip
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#888
... "She said 'I like giants,
Especially girl giants, 'Cause all girls feel too big sometimes Regardless of their size'. When I go for a drive I like to pull off to the side Of the road and run and jump into the ocean in my clothes And I'm smaller than a poppyseed inside a great big bowl And the ocean is a giant that can swallow me whole. So I swim for all salvation and I swim to save my soul But my soul is just a whisper trapped inside a tornado So I flip to my back and I float and I sing I am grounded, I am humbled, I am one with everything. I am grounded, I am humbled, I am one with everything. " |
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ArtieTheSequal, LonesomeTonight, StressedMess, unaluna
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Writing my way through...
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Location: In the desert
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#889
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Thanks Salmon. I am going to talk about it with her next week. We've known each other way too long (9 years next month) for me to let this derail everything. Confrontation is so difficult for me. But I am going to tell her anyway. |
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Elder Harridan x-hankster
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#890
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As they say, i wouldnt kick a bowl of bucatini all'amatriciana out of bed! |
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Writing my way through...
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Location: In the desert
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#891
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SlumberKitty
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Writing my way through...
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#892
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That's a big move, I wish I knew what to say that would be helpful, all I can really say is I wish you all the best with whatever decision you make, sounds like it's not going to be an easy decision. |
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Poohbah
Member Since Jun 2014
Location: Earth
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#893
Thanks It's not an easy decision but I'm looking at moving south early November and then moving out of Dad's house by February 1st and finding a new roommate in my new town
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Writing my way through...
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Location: In the desert
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#894
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One of my friends recently moved to Alabama, well she and her fiance. They were living in Missouri but he lost his job there because of covid layoffs, and she was unhappy in her job, so they sold their house, bought an RV and now they're living in the RV in a campground until they are ready to buy a house in Alabama! My friend is so happy with their decision and is so far enjoying living in the south. |
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Polibeth
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Grand Magnate
Member Since Aug 2012
Location: yada
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#895
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I think you have every right to be pissed off, and I don't understand why this has to be turned into a "conversation" or grist for the mill. She sends you a rude, out of the blue e-mail with a suggestion she's apparently made before and you rejected. Why does this need to derail anything? And why does it merit a response other than one that relieves you of your annoyance? Her behavior--if from anyone else in your life--I think you would see as rude; why does she get a pass? Why put yourself in the "one down" position of scrambling for some kind of understanding, at your expense? |
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ArtieTheSequal, atisketatasket, ElectricManatee, LonesomeTonight, Quietmind 2, unaluna, WarmFuzzySocks
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Writing my way through...
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#896
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It's what I always do, isn't it? I'm going to think about this a little longer. Thanks for the perspective. |
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Always in This Twilight
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Location: US
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#897
Hugs, Artie, that would bother me as well. My T will talk to me about exercise (including yesterday), but in the sense of it helping my mental health and sleep (plus physical health). If he sent me something unsolicited about a diet, I'd be really offended. I would tell your T how it made you feel--I'd think maybe an email rather than waiting until session.
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ArtieTheSequal, Quietmind 2
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Writing my way through...
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Location: In the desert
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#898
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Thanks LT. I don't trust myself to do it in an email though... I am going to tell her next week how it made me feel and set a clear boundary that we will not talk about this subject unless I bring it up. I know it wasn't her intention but I felt so much shame. |
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Child of a lesser god
Member Since Jun 2015
Location: Tartarus
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#899
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All of which has just reminded me I forgot to get parmesan or asiago to grate for spinach salad this week. |
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SlumberKitty, unaluna
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Member Since Sep 2006
Location: in my head
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#900
Follow up on insurance stuff. I talked with T yesterday about it and she felt much better after having seen the letter her lawyer put together regarding a breech of contract and so on. She is willing to stay with my insurance if they make it right by paying her what is owed and basically quit questioning her integrity.
I realized this morning that this whole thing brings up the messy divorce I lived through with my parents. T also gave me a PRN to help me sleep. I had such a bad headache from spinning through emotions and crying. The whole thing feels like it has the potential to under parts of what took 2-2.5 yrs to build with T. I at least am feeling like I can see T on Monday and be able to talk to her. It wasn't going very well yesterday until we talked. So things are better; not solved. I have to write a patient's grievance letter to my insurance and to some insurance board in my state. That's not going to be fun. I need to do that tomorrow. I'm worried about how to write it with sharing the right level of information and emotions. |
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