Couch 219: The Goose Drank Wine

Quietmind 2 · Oct 03, 2020 at 10:53 PM

I feel weird. T has experience supporting people with chronic illnesses but asked me what IBS stands for. I thought she'd know it stands for irritable bowel syndrome already since I've messaged her plenty about it.

I feel it's so unfair that my parents in their 60s and 70s have great health while I'm only 30 and have health issues. I'm glad she validated that. Less glad she pointed out my siblings all have issues but that's because I currently resent my siblings for me being the family scapegoat. I know it's not their fault but they've had so many opportunities I was denied. I don't like being envious though.

I'm glad my therapist has experience supporting folks with chronic health problems though. The mind and body are very highly linked and she pointed out that things can get better since my biggest triggers is stress.

unaluna · Oct 03, 2020 at 11:48 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

All of which has just reminded me I forgot to get parmesan or asiago to grate for spinach salad this week.

A kraft parm shaker size thingie of nutritional yeast will last you forever and after a while you forget what cheese really tastes like.

Daffydungle · Oct 04, 2020 at 02:12 AM

On Frjday afternoon i gave all my pets worming medicine and now it is Sunday afternoon and my little dog is lethragic and has a bit of diarrhea and just vomited. I am watching him i hope he will be ok

Daffydungle · Oct 04, 2020 at 02:13 AM

I will call the vet tomorrow if he doesnt improve

Lemoncake · Oct 04, 2020 at 04:51 AM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

A kraft parm shaker size thingie of nutritional yeast will last you forever and after a while you forget what cheese really tastes like.

Someone actually gave me this as a gift. I would eat it raw from the container

My aunt bought dried cheese now that was amazing. Cheese generally can also be frozen.

Lemoncake · Oct 04, 2020 at 05:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Daffydungle

I will call the vet tomorrow if he doesnt improve

Wishing him a speedy recovery.

LonesomeTonight · Oct 04, 2020 at 08:23 AM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

There are demonstrated links between diet and mental health, though. By diet I mean the word in the positive sense, choosing certain foods to eat and others to avoid, not the losing-weight sense. For instance, when I quit gluten, there was a definite uptick in my ability to stay calm rather than get anxious. And even when a food allergy isn’t in play, if I eat fresh, more “natural” foods, whether it’s fruits or vegetables or animal protein, I’m more cheerful and enjoy eating more.

All of which has just reminded me I forgot to get parmesan or asiago to grate for spinach salad this week.

Oh, I meant "diet" as in a weight-losing thing, not eating healthy. We have talked about my eating habits. I got the sense that what Artie's T sent was intended as a way to lose weight.

I have mentioned wanting to lose weight to T, and he has said it's generally more about diet than exercise. But that's when I've brought it up, so it's different.

LonesomeTonight · Oct 04, 2020 at 08:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

Someone actually gave me this as a gift. I would eat it raw from the container

My aunt bought dried cheese now that was amazing. Cheese generally can also be frozen.

Not a nutritional yeast fan, but I also recommend freezing cheese. We've had success doing that with shredded cheddar and parmesan--I imagine it would work for asiago as well.

SlumberKitty · Oct 04, 2020 at 10:30 AM

I did get to see T after we both waited in our cars 20 minutes past my appointment time. She did not really explain what was going on, just that she woke up late, but she was at the building a little before my appointment, she just didn't go in. She knew I was there because I parked by her and she waved at me. T is weird sometimes though.

On a separate note, she said she hasn't been paid by any insurance panels in 9 months and its taking a toll on her. She lost her other job but got a new one. But that she is having trouble making it without the insurance reimbursement. I felt bad for her.

We had a good session though. We talked a lot about my trauma over the hospital. That was helpful.

SlumberKitty · Oct 04, 2020 at 10:32 AM

Artie if my T sent me something unsolicited about diet or weight I would be furious. I would also feel shame. I hope you can work it out with your T.

ArtieTheSequal · Oct 04, 2020 at 11:20 AM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Oh, I meant "diet" as in a weight-losing thing, not eating healthy. We have talked about my eating habits. I got the sense that what Artie's T sent was intended as a way to lose weight.

I have mentioned wanting to lose weight to T, and he has said it's generally more about diet than exercise. But that's when I've brought it up, so it's different.

She definitely meant it as a weight-losing thing as the subject of her email even included those words.

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

Artie if my T sent me something unsolicited about diet or weight I would be furious. I would also feel shame. I hope you can work it out with your T.

Thanks Kit. I've calmed down about it now and am not so angry anymore. I understand where she was coming from but I don't think she thought about the shaming effect it would have on me. Or maybe she did, and did it anyway. I just don't know.

ElectricManatee · Oct 04, 2020 at 12:10 PM

Giving unsolicited advice about weight loss is rude. Giving unsolicited advice about weight loss that a) doesn't fit with the person's known habits and preferences, and b) has already been rejected once before is SHOCKINGLY rude. If it weren't for previous times when she has disregarded your autonomy (thinking specifically about her insistence that you put your therapy sessions on a credit card), then I would be concerned that this is a symptom of cognitive decline. Because yikes....

atisketatasket · Oct 04, 2020 at 12:39 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

A kraft parm shaker size thingie of nutritional yeast will last you forever and after a while you forget what cheese really tastes like.

Are you trying to poison me? That stuff isn’t guaranteed gluten-free.

I should definitely look into freezing cheese, though.

Lemoncake · 02:35 PM

Has anyone else here had/ have a disorganized attachment pattern?

I did this even when I was as a kid at 8 but whenever I would get really close to someone I would later just detach from them. I start feeling suffocated by them and I want to be alone again. I've recently made up with one of old best friends and she honestly hasn't done anything wrong and it's been nice- but I just feel myself going off her again even though we've only started hanging out again for one week. Same thing with T- we had a really good session last week and I felt super connected to him but I still sent an email saying I don't want a session this week.

I can't really describe it but it it feels so uncomfortable.

The only other relationships that I've actually managed to maintain over 4+ years are those where we meet up once a year and go weeks/months without contacting each other.

Lemoncake · Oct 04, 2020 at 01:15 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieTheSequal

She definitely meant it as a weight-losing thing as the subject of her email even included those words.

Thanks Kit. I've calmed down about it now and am not so angry anymore. I understand where she was coming from but I don't think she thought about the shaming effect it would have on me. Or maybe she did, and did it anyway. I just don't know.

When is your next session with her?

I hope you can tell her exactly how it made you feel.

Lemoncake · Oct 04, 2020 at 01:17 PM

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

I did get to see T after we both waited in our cars 20 minutes past my appointment time. She did not really explain what was going on, just that she woke up late, but she was at the building a little before my appointment, she just didn't go in. She knew I was there because I parked by her and she waved at me. T is weird sometimes though.

On a separate note, she said she hasn't been paid by any insurance panels in 9 months and its taking a toll on her. She lost her other job but got a new one. But that she is having trouble making it without the insurance reimbursement. I felt bad for her.

We had a good session though. We talked a lot about my trauma over the hospital. That was helpful.

I hope she made up the missed time.

How are you feeling in general sk?

Lemoncake · Oct 04, 2020 at 01:20 PM

Una I think you would like this. I have it playing right now in the dark with a candle and low lighting.

But then I was the weirdo who did play Christmas songs in july.

unaluna · Oct 04, 2020 at 02:00 PM

Lemon re disorganized attachment - boy that describes you and me (esp me!) doesnt it? It describes a lot of my relationships - always cat and mouse, push and pull - its more about the game, the chase. Sometimes when im fixing dinner i think about another hungry mouth to feed? And im just disgusted. But it MIGHT have something to do with having had so many unhappy experiences in that venue. Dont worry, @@ - im not counting this recent nooch misadventure - my jar says gluten free!!

Daffydungle · Oct 04, 2020 at 04:03 PM

My little dog seems better today. He is running around the yard doing security patrol and saving me from the dreaded Peaceful Doves

Daffydungle · Oct 04, 2020 at 04:15 PM

Next time i will try a different worming med

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Daffydungle Poohbah Member Since Apr 2020 Location: Nowhere Posts: 1,257 4 451 hugs given	Oct 04, 2020 at 02:12 AM #903 On Frjday afternoon i gave all my pets worming medicine and now it is Sunday afternoon and my little dog is lethragic and has a bit of diarrhea and just vomited. I am watching him i hope he will be ok

Daffydungle Poohbah Member Since Apr 2020 Location: Nowhere Posts: 1,257 4 451 hugs given	Oct 04, 2020 at 02:13 AM #904 I will call the vet tomorrow if he doesnt improve

SlumberKitty Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jul 2018 Location: CA Posts: 27,329 (SuperPoster!) 5 117.7k hugs given	Oct 04, 2020 at 10:32 AM #910 Artie if my T sent me something unsolicited about diet or weight I would be furious. I would also feel shame. I hope you can work it out with your T. __________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA

Lemoncake Roses are falling. Member Since May 2017 Location: Seattle. Posts: 9,779 (SuperPoster!) 7 10.2k hugs given	Oct 04, 2020 at 01:20 PM #917 Una I think you would like this. I have it playing right now in the dark with a candle and low lighting. But then I was the weirdo who did play Christmas songs in july. __________________

Daffydungle Poohbah Member Since Apr 2020 Location: Nowhere Posts: 1,257 4 451 hugs given	Oct 04, 2020 at 04:03 PM #919 My little dog seems better today. He is running around the yard doing security patrol and saving me from the dreaded Peaceful Doves

Daffydungle Poohbah Member Since Apr 2020 Location: Nowhere Posts: 1,257 4 451 hugs given	Oct 04, 2020 at 04:15 PM #920 Next time i will try a different worming med