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I have had different experiences with different Ts.
The T that I currently see she's usually more passive, as expected because she's a psychoanalyst. So I do the most talking, but a lot of times the session are very slow, cos I don't talk a lot, but she always insist that I have to lead, and sometimes she does ask questions, and leads a bit, but not always the case. And there's other Ts that talk a lot more than I do. I suppose sometimes with a very difficult topic and I find it hard to talk about, it helps when the other person is leading. But I suppose it can also be misleading sometimes because Ts are not mind readers. |
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#2
With my current T, it’s probably 70% me 30% him, unless he’s having a session where he is giving lots of diagnostic information and advice, in which case it swaps.
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#3
I have no idea. It just feels like a natural conversation, Unless I'm telling him a long dream or something and then he just listens for a while. I like listening to him talk about things though.
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#4
Probably about 50/50 - sessions were usually a dialogue unless I was really seriously depressed (I tend to not talk much when I'm depressed.)
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It's about 50/50 for me. And there's very rarely any silence, maybe a minute for one of us to think about something, but nothing extended.
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It's probably more her than me. I choose the topic, and then I follow her lead. I can stop her at any time. She's very engaging and does a lot of verbal mirroring. It helps me make sense of things.
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#7
More or less 50/50. Sometimes it's more me, sometimes more him. And there's usually quite a bit of silence too.
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Her, by far. Sometimes she tells herself to shut up, sometimes I just speak over her because there is no other end in sight. She is very keen to appear wise, and sometimes she can be, but I am the person who reminds us of the value of being quiet and still.
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... Actually, I shouldn't be too critical of her in this aspect. It suits me for her to speak because I am often paralysed or without thought.
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I talk a bit more than he does and probably "lead" the conversation more, but he talks a lot, too. Maybe 60/40.
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This answer has varied depending on the clinician. This new guy seems to lead and talks a little more than I’m used to. It’s still probably about 50/50 though.
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I finally just got the first one to quit talking for the most part. Sometimes she had problems with it and talked anyway so I would have to remind her to not talk.
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Sometimes I feel like she talks so much I never get a chance to say anything. She makes these long speeches every time I say something and then I just kind of zone out and then she’ll say “does that make sense?” And I’m like “yeah I guess....”
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#14
Depends on the session. Usually I talk more (me\T = 60/40). But if I need help to clarify my feelings or there is a specially difficult or sensitive issue to discuss she takes initiative and talks more (me/T =20 (30)/80 (70)). It is all adjusted to my needs.
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We are pretty equal. There are weeks that I talk more and Other weeks I talk a lot less so she has to talk more and ask more questions to get me to open up. Often on those weeks she jets pretty brief responses.
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#16
T often will tell me something person that relates to our discussion and then frequently will say "I have no idea why I just went on about that". It doesn't usually bother me because it does relate to our topic.
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