[precaryous]

This happened years ago.
But I still don’t understand it.

So, Dr.X, a psychiatrist, sexually & financially exploited me.
He also exploited six other women I’ve never met.

Was he lonely? His family lived a state away. He would spend the week in my town seeing clients then drive home on the weekends.

Lots of empty time to fill after office hours during the week.

He decided he’d try to get us to have sex with him. He offered one woman a GYN exam. Maybe it was a challenge for him? Maybe it was a game?

But, what did he think would happen afterward? Did he think we would just go away? It’s illegal... not just unethical...for a psychiatrist to have sex with their patient in California. He was arrested and faced three felonies.

Was it a sex trip? Was it a power trip?
But I don’t understand what his plan was afterward.

What was his plan?
I don’t think he planned on getting arrested or losing his license.

What did he think would happen?

[stopdog]

I think you may be trying to give him too much credit for thinking it through like you outlined. He may not know why he did it. Fixating on why may lead you to suffer - not him.

[nottrustin]

Sounds like he didn't think. He was a jerk who didnt think the rules applied to him. Some things will never make sense no matter how hard we try because we don't think like criminals and abusers.

[precaryous]

Good points.
The only other thing I came up with- he is such a narcissist, he thought he’d get away with it.

But I see your point, too.
He may not have given it any thought.

I’ll never know.

[nottrustin]

Originally Posted by precaryous

Good points.
The only other thing I came up with- he is such a narcissist, he thought he’d get away with it.

But I see your point, too.
He may not have given it any thought.

I’ll never know.

I thought of him being a narcissist but didnt want to diagnose somebody I don't know !!

[precaryous]

Originally Posted by nottrustin

I thought of him being a narcissist but didnt want to diagnose somebody I don't know !!

Hadn’t thought about it that way. Thank you.

I should say, rather, he might have thought so highly of himself that he didn’t think the rules applied to him or that he would be caught. He might have supposed no one would believe MH patients over his opinion.

I guess I’m trying to make sense out of nonsense.
I just figured- someone who robs people usually tries to plan a successful getaway.

Hope he’s stopped being a conniving jerk because he’s obviously not very good at it. (The conniving part.)

[nottrustin]

Oh I understand trying to make sense out of it all. I suspect most if not all abusers are narcissists. That is why we will never understand.

[Rive.]

I don't think he thought it through... he gave in to his urges and desires.

There is no way for sure to know the 'why' behind his actions. The only thing know for sure is that he is not a moral or ethical human being, let alone a (mental health) 'professional' of any sort.

I have a similar experience to you. I have learned to concentrate on me - what impact did the abuse have on me? What is my hurt? How can I recover? What happens to my shame and disgust? Considering his motivations and circumstances takes me away from myself and my pain. I don't want to pay him any more attention, I am more important.

[sarahsweets]

He sounds like a horrible human who has no regard for the welfare of anyone.