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Elder Harridan x-hankster
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Location: Milan/Michigan
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#1
Welcome to the couch, old and new! A place to hang out - sometimes you get immediate feedback, sometimes you don't.
Shouting, "Cool Whip" tends to bring others out from between the cushions if you're feeling lonely. This is a chatty thread. All are welcome. We're kind of psychologically oriented, sometimes. We try to be supportive. At times we discuss what that means. It’s a place to plop down on the couch when you come home from work or wherever, or wake up in the middle of the night, or check in at lunch, rant a bit or not, and be among friends. We advise you not to drink or drug and text your therapist ("T") - we speak from experience. Sometimes the thread moves fast and you might get overlooked; sometimes it moves slowly and all you hear are crickets. Sometimes you get hugged or thanked pages later. So if it's a bigger question, you might want to start a new thread. Grab a cushion, a spot on the floor, or an armchair in the corner and make yourselves comfy. 221 - if you get a call from this area code, its definitely spam! |
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Writing my way through...
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Location: In the desert
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#2
Thanks for the new couch!!
<---- breaking in the cushions |
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Writing my way through...
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#3
...and while I am jumping on the couch, I am trying to talk myself out of playing hooky (hookie?) from class tonight.
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Magnate
Member Since Feb 2016
Location: Appalachian Mountains
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#4
__________________ "I would rather have questions that can't be answered than answers which can't be questioned." --Richard Feynman |
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Grand Magnate
Member Since Jul 2014
Location: Usa
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#5
Hey new couch! It's going to get cold tonight, I'm much more excited about it than the people I live with. If we could harness the power of my hot flashes, I'd never have to turn on the heat! Hope everyone is well, stay safe.
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atisketatasket
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Elder Harridan x-hankster
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Location: Milan/Michigan
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#6
It feels like xmas eve. And youre just waiting to get a ton of coal dropped down your chute!
Fall back is just making the night go by slower. |
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Child of a lesser god
Member Since Jun 2015
Location: Tartarus
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#7
__________________ The secret to eternal youth is arrested development.—Alice Roosevelt Longworth Last edited by atisketatasket; Nov 02, 2020 at 08:26 PM.. |
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Writing my way through...
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#8
You can write with it too, can't you?
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atisketatasket, unaluna
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Writing my way through...
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#9
I think I would trust this instructor a lot more if she could pronounce "rubric" correctly. She has said it like 4 times this evening and mispronounced it each time. Research your pronunciation, woman. haha
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CantExplain
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Child of a lesser god
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Location: Tartarus
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#10
How does she say it?
I am considering picking a bone with the NYT Sunday crossword people. They put in a clue that should have distinguished between Zeno of Elea and Zeno of Citium, but failed. First world ivory tower problems. |
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Writing my way through...
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#11
roo-bick
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SlumberKitty, unaluna
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Writing my way through...
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#12
ok now we're starting for reals later cats!
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Child of a lesser god
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Location: Tartarus
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#13
Oh, that’s that thing—rhoticity?—where some speakers drop an r if there’s another r in the word, especially if the dropped r isn’t in a stressed syllable.
I searched my old emails to find my family’s email thread on election 2016. I’d forgotten—it happened just a few days after Smaug dumped me for no good reason. I was not a happy person that November. |
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Magnate
Member Since Feb 2017
Location: North America
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#14
Anybody got the "@@ teaches us a new word" square?
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Grand Magnate
Member Since Feb 2017
Location: the upside down
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#15
When something from your therapist's personal life comes into the room, how do you respond? Like you would to any other person? Or do you just ignore it?
It's become apparent that he and his partner have broken up. It came up because a few weeks ago he decided to take an extra long trip to his new school which interfered with our sessions. He basically said "I think I'm going through a break up and need to take a few days as a sort of personal retreat". Lately a few other things have slipped out. Nothing huge, just a little bit leaking out, and all of it is in context of what we're discussing. Like when we were discussing setting up a home office for me, he referred to the desk he has at home as just that, where previously he had called it his partner's desk. Then, while discussing ambient noise sleep apps, he mentioned that about a month ago he started letting his dog sleep in the bed with him and how he enjoyed hearing her snore. Today when discussing our remaining sessions, he mentioned he was going to visit family at Christmas because he's doing the pandemic alone. If this were not a therapy relationship, I'd tell him I'm sorry that his relationship ended and I hope he's doing ok. And I really want to express that to him, but I don't know if I should. I'm not sure if he even knows he's dropping hints like this. It feels weird not feeling ok saying what I would normally say to someone in this instance. What would you guys do? |
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Child of a lesser god
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#16
I would ignore it. Because he’s not any other person, and because he’s leaving.
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Always in This Twilight
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#17
NP, you could say something vague like, "I get the sense you're dealing with something right now, and I hope you're doing OK." I said something like that via email to ex-MC once when he had to cancel at the last minute and got the sense it was something going on with his wife (I believe this was after I knew she was sick). It sounds like he's saying an awful lot to imply something is going on. You shouldn't have to take care of him. At the same time, I know how that instinct can come out. And in this case, with his making comments like that, it seems almost like a gorilla in the room.
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Quietmind 2
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Writing my way through...
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#18
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Ah... it's kinda funny that earlier in the semester she was pronouncing the 2nd R. Suddenly tonight she's not. I wonder if that rhoticity thing happens when a person is tired, she sounded really tired tonight. Even let us out early. |
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Elder Harridan x-hankster
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#19
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Sorry for yelling but i feel very strongly about this. Dont make me mark my territory! Be brave! |
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Writing my way through...
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#20
As part of our discussion posts tonight, we did this Rosenberg Self Esteem Scale
and our discussion posts we had to answer a couple of questions about it (like, how researchers could use it and if our result was what we expected etc.) I really enjoy doing the discussion posts. |
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