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Default Jan 21, 2021 at 01:38 PM
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Aaaaaaaaugh. I've been teaching my roommate to drive, and we were driving and she got rear ended. Now I have to deal with the insurance company and all this crap. She's going to pay, obviously, since she was the one driving, but it's still stupid and annoying.

I should never have agreed to teach her to drive when she asked. I was trying to be nice, but clearly I should not have been and should have looked after my own interests.

Ugh, that sucks, I'm sorry.
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Default Jan 21, 2021 at 01:39 PM
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Today is also a palindrome. 1.21.21

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Thats a really big thing to ask of you. Like huge. If driving school is expensive, theres a good reason. What is she kills someone while youre out together? Sorry - my dad was always great at worst case scenarios, but this really is not trivial. Not in the US.

That's a good point. Plus, when I was in driving school...years ago, the driving-school cars had a brake pedal on the passenger side that the instructor could press if needed--are they still like that, I wonder?
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Default Jan 21, 2021 at 01:43 PM
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Aaaaaaaaugh. I've been teaching my roommate to drive, and we were driving and she got rear ended. Now I have to deal with the insurance company and all this crap. She's going to pay, obviously, since she was the one driving, but it's still stupid and annoying.

I should never have agreed to teach her to drive when she asked. I was trying to be nice, but clearly I should not have been and should have looked after my own interests.
What a pain. Sorry you are stuck dealing with this.

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That's a good point. Plus, when I was in driving school...years ago, the driving-school cars had a brake pedal on the passenger side that the instructor could press if needed--are they still like that, I wonder?
If they aren't, they should be.

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Default Jan 21, 2021 at 02:29 PM
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I am a bit confused - was it her fault she was rear - ended or was it not and someone just hit her like could have anyone?

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Default Jan 21, 2021 at 02:45 PM
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I just advised someone that doing X would result in discomfort. I said "very very uncomfortable" - they went ahead and somehow are now cross with me because when they did it - they suffered minor but uncomfortable and long lasting effects - they didn't think I put the peril clearly enough. Good lord - if two very's don't alert you to level of seriousness I am trying to convey - there is simply no way forward.

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Default Jan 21, 2021 at 03:04 PM
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I was always taught that you are responsible for the front of your car so if you hit someone it is your fault even if the person in front of you slammed on the brakes. Are you in the US? I would think it would be the other drivers fault.
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Default Jan 21, 2021 at 03:18 PM
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In CA, if you get rear-ended, it's the back cars fault. Even if the front car slammed on their brakes, it's the back car's fault because they should have left enough room for emergency stops.

My mom loves to slam on her breaks and has gotten in a ton of accidents. It's never been deemed her fault.

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Default Jan 21, 2021 at 04:28 PM
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Thats a really big thing to ask of you. Like huge. If driving school is expensive, theres a good reason. What is she kills someone while youre out together? Sorry - my dad was always great at worst case scenarios, but this really is not trivial. Not in the US.
So the deal is that she already has her license but is just a crappy driver, hence the need for lessons. She's on my insurance and stuff so it's all on the up-and-up.
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I am a bit confused - was it her fault she was rear - ended or was it not and someone just hit her like could have anyone?
Honestly, I think it was 50/50 fault-wise. She was sort of stopping and going in an attempt to merge, which is confusing to the drivers behind her. But also the guy who rear ended her should have been sure that she was actually going to go before pressing on the gas.

Fortunately, though, the insurance company deemed that it was not her fault.
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Default Jan 21, 2021 at 04:42 PM
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It is the back driver's job to be back far enough to accommodate the driver ahead.
That is not to say a front driver can't do something deliberately provocative to get past the general rule. Deliberateness was not in the initial discussion

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Default Jan 21, 2021 at 04:59 PM
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Take the advice about getting rear ended it being the back cars fault even if you slam on the brakes with a grain of salt. This happened to me years ago when ex was driving my car and he slammed on the brakes because a car full of people were harassing us in a parking lot. Neither insurance would cover the damage to my car when I told the truth about what happened.
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Default Jan 21, 2021 at 05:12 PM
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Isnt there an app for this? You kids got apps for everything else!
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Default Jan 21, 2021 at 05:35 PM
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Take the advice about getting rear ended it being the back cars fault even if you slam on the brakes with a grain of salt. This happened to me years ago when ex was driving my car and he slammed on the brakes because a car full of people were harassing us in a parking lot. Neither insurance would cover the damage to my car when I told the truth about what happened.
Yeah, I think the "rear ender is always at fault" rule depends on the assumption that the front driver is acting reasonably. Which most of the time they are, but there's always exceptions like your ex.
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Default Jan 21, 2021 at 06:13 PM
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so I guess that's not too bad.

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They (the blood sucking vampires as I call them) the blood drive people called me today and talked me into it. SO I have an appointment for Sunday. They said it takes 2 hours. Sheesh! I guess it usually takes like 45 minutes to do
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so I guess that's not too bad.
On the positive side, they do a Covid-antibodies test so I guess I will find out if I have had Covid.

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Default Jan 21, 2021 at 06:25 PM
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Tonight I have to drive and figure out where the donation center is. I've always done the pop up ones before.

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My week of working live chat is done for the month. And no 6th day again this week. Yeah! We got off easy this year as far as OT goes, not having to work our 6th day 2 weeks in a row. I hope we don't have to work next week's 6th day too, but I won't know til late next week. The extra daily time isn't too bad when I get a normal weekend. I think I'm going to work on that afghan some more again this evening. Tomorrow morning I get my shoulder xray, then see L at 1pm.


I'm going to sleep good tonight I think, knowing that Penny is safe & sound and that I will be nice and warm with our new bedroom window in place (I didn't pay attention last night cuz I was worried about Miss P). I looked at it yesterday morning with the blinds taken down and I couldn't believe how broken it was - I think the only reason it didn't collapse in on itself is that it had the fake separate-panes look, you know with the wood cross-pieces attached to the glass? i don't know what that's called. The old window (likely 30+ years old) seemed so thin.
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Muntins for the wood crosspieces. My mother is slightly obsessed with muntins. She has put fake cardboard ones on windows that don’t have the wood ones.

I am finally making the chocolate cookies with salted caramel chips I’ve been planning for a week and they are omigod good.
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